By Marianne Angelillo
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Stormie O’Martian…Power of a Praying
Woman
”Wisdom is essential to have a good
life…wisdom means having clear
understanding and insight. It’s discerning what
is right and wrong …it’s having good
judgment…. it’s being able to sense you are
getting too close to the edge. It’s making the
right choice or decision.
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6,000,000,000 Dollars Spent annually on alcohol
advertising
68,000,000,000 is what underage drinking cost
society in 2007
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Youth Violence………………$43,835.8
Youth Traffic Crashes………$10,019.3
High-Risk Sex, Ages 14-20 …$4,871.3
Youth Property Crime ........ $3,178.8
Youth Injury………………..... $2,064.5
Poisonings and Psychoses….. $416.2
FAS Among Mothers 15-20….$1,227.3
Youth Alcohol Treatment…..$2,400.3
Total ………………………….$68,001.5
What we are up against!
1. Leading cause of death of teens is accidents
many under the influence.
2. We are fighting a 6 Billion dollar alcohol
advertising industry
3. Underground drug marketing campaign-”who
is selling to your kids?”
4. Society Norm
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Age of first use (Almost half of youth who
begin drinking before 14 later become alcohol
dependent)
Predictor Drug is Tobacco!
Family history
Society Norm
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3 will not have any
5 will share 2
2 will drink 8…..
What is risk?
Two friends out of 10!
Two family members out of 10!
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50% of 8th graders have had their first drink
Average age of first use is 12
More than 67% of youth who drink before 15
will try an illicit drug.
2/3 of teens report prescription drugs are easy
to find at home and 1 in 5 use to get high.
Middle school use goes from 17% in 6th grade
to 41% in 8th grade. Crucial time to educate
both parent and student.
Circuits are all being remodeled in teenage
years
 Brain is highly plastic and shaped by
experience
 Binge drinking and withdrawal can affect brain
long term
-More brain damage following 4 day drinking
binge in adolescents than adults
-Repeated alcohol exposure alters way you
respond to alcohol later in life
-Alcohol impairs memory more in adolescents
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Parents are the key!
Number between 1 and 7!
Teen centers
Athletics/extra-curricular
School programs, such as SADD, ADAPEP, etc.
Youth Programs (Communities of Faith)
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To work together as a community to help
promote healthy attitudes and safe behavior
relating to drugs and alcohol among the youth
in our community and to promote
programming based on the needs of the
community.
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Give credibility and a voice to parents
Can be a powerful force in Community
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Athletic codes, youth groups, teen centers, etc
Interface with schools and law enforcement
It takes adults to help change social norms
Shared Advocacy with others(ie. Prev.Net.)
Provides parent education and involvement
Utilize Captive Audience
Power in numbers! Provides a Parent Network
Sponsors non-alcoholic functions
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Ie. After the Ball parties
Speakers
-Milton Creagh
-Chris and Toren Volkmann-From Binge to
Blackout
-Dr. Ellen deLara-And Words Can Hurt Forever
-Dr. Brad Reedy-Second Nature Wilderness
-Local Speakers-Angelillo’s, Matt McGlynn
-Chris DePerno-Integra
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Why They Act That Way? …A Survival Guide
to the Adolescent Brain for You and Your Teen
by David Walsh
And Word Can Hurt Forever….by Ellen deLara
on bullying
From Binge to Blackout by Chris and Toren
Volkmann
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Prevention Network
School task force-Drug and Alcohol
Police and Law Enforcement-Stopped Program
School faculty reps on our board
Youth Programs
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Governing Board (we have 8)
Mission Statement
Get Parents involved
Identify key players in Community
 School district
 Existing parent groups
 Libraries and service organizations
 Business leaders
 Law enforcement
 Local Government officials
 Existing prevention resources
 Clergy
Financial backing
Articles of Organization
Bylaws
Employer Identification Number(supplied)
Exempt from Federal Income Tax only
Contributions are tax deductible
Classified as public charity or private foundation
Allows you to apply for grants
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Start small… first do what seems manageable
Change doesn’t happen overnight but even a
few changes can be encouraging
Challenging but necessary
Change parent attitudes by education and
awareness
Celebrate your successes!
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Communication between parent and teen
The Adolescent Brain
Drug Education
Bullying
The Stopped Program (driving)
Prehab vs Rehab(Chris DePerno-Integra)
Milton Creagh’ Parent advice
Code of Conduct (athletic code)
Consequence of no Consequences
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Encourage child to share! Let them talk
Start at an early age to discuss important topics
and to clearly state your expectations
Feelings are never right or wrong!
Ok to feel! Pain can be used to learn
Listen don’t fix, empathize don’t solve – listen
more than you talk!
Validate feelings and use reflective listening
Be there more, not less, at your children get
older
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Shame keeps many from getting help
Many people feel it’s not relevant! I.e. Life
jacket on a plane…(Not My Child!)
Many parents are not educated
Be clear and concise about your rules and
expectations!
Ask for help when you need it; there are many
sources of help in CNY
Clueless……………………………………………………………knowledge is power!!!!
???????????????????not sure???????maybe I should check????What if?????formal test…
??????????ask….??????check up???follow Up?????????ok let’s make sure.........confirm..
?????????questioning?????worrying???????are they using??????Drug tested!!!!!!!!
?????????are they where they say they are???...........call house….call friend’s parent….
0 yard line……35% 3 step eye test……………….50 yard line…………….Touchdown
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Horizontal Gaze Nystagmus
Vertical Gaze Nystagmus
Non-Convergence
Pulse
Romberg Balance
Pupillary Comparison
Pupillary reaction to light
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BAC = 50-angle of onset
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My good friend would have done anything to
change her daughter’s addiction!
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Blood
Urine
Breath
Hair
Eyes
Actions
Balance
Heart rate/pulse
Red eyes
 Dilated pupils
 Body tremors
 Odor of burnt
 Lt green stain on tongue
 Relaxed inhibitions, talkative, laughing
 Cooperative, carefree, apathetic, lazy
Paraphernalia – rolling papers, bong, figure 8
blunt splitters, bud of plant
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Illegal Drugs have no
place in work society
today and never will!!!!
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Use concept of Designated Driver
Our kids will drink and drive if we do!
Our kids will expect that drinking is part of
most social situations if we always have
alcohol present for ourselves
Adolescents who know parents currently use
marijuana or have used are at greater risk
They learn from us!
Remember that our children are always
watching us and that our actions speak just as
loudly (if not louder) than our words!
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We used to smoke and clean ashtrays
We used to smoke in restaurants
There were no hosting laws
We used to drink and drive with kids in the car
We used to litter
We used to not care about graffiti
We used to say, “I did it when I was young and
I am still here”!
Do we include alcohol in student functions?
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