Grade Nine Chastity Education - Redeemer

What does the Bible Say: If you love to listen to you will gain
knowledge, and if you pay attention you will become wise.
What does the Catechism say CCC: Chastity is the joyous
affirmation of someone who knows how to live self-giving, free
from any form of self- centered slavery. This presupposes that
the person has learnt how to accept other people, to relate to
them, while respecting their dignity in diversity. The chaste
person is not self-centered, not involved in selfish relationship
with other people. Chastity makes the personality harmonious. It
matures it and fills it with inner peace. This purity of mind and
body helps develop true self-respect and at the same time
makes one capable of respecting others, because it makes one
see in them persons to reverence, insofar as they were created in
the image of God and through grace are children of God, recreated by Christ who “called you out of the darkness into his
marvelous light” (1 Peter 2:9)
Rabbinic teaching for at least 2500 years has consistently opposed
premarital sex. Judaism removes sexual intercourse from any context of
selfishness or primitive lust, and enshrines it as a sanctified element in
the most intimate and most meaningful relationship between two human
beings. Within the sacred marriage bond, sexual relations are not only
permissible, they are in fact the fulfillment of divine commandment.
Rabbi Issac Frank
The promise of two people to belong always to each other makes it
possible for lovemaking to mean total giving and total receiving. It is the
totality of married life that makes sexual intercourse meaningful. This is
why the church refers to sexual intercourse as the “marital act” Father
Richard C. MacDonald
Islam views sexual love as a gift from God. It is a sign of God’s love and
mercy and if given to human beings for their good and well-being. Islam
limits sexual activity to men and women within the bond of marriage. It
is permitted only to those couple who joined themselves in a lawful
marriage. Muzammil H. Siddi, Islam teacher
Chastity is sexual self- control, it is an attitude of respect, a positive
It applies to everyone, unmarried and married.
Unmarried- staying pure in thought and deed, refraining from sexual
intercourse and deliberate genital arousal.
Married- staying true to your marriage partner and only engaging in
sexual intercourse within the marriage- (fidelity)
Celibacy- special form of chastity, it excludes all forms of genital sexual
Chastity is a spiritual state not just a physical state. Although a person
can’t regain his or her physical virginity, anyone at any time can regain
chastity. It is emotional virginity.
Note**** Chastity is not something like a jacket that you can put on or
take off whenever you like. It is a part of yourself that communicates to
others in your daily words and actions. Modesty is one way to express
What are the advantages of living a chaste lifestyle?
The advantages of living a chaste lifestyle are freedom from a
negative lifestyle and freedom to live a positive lifestyle.
Guilt, worry, doubt, regret
Wondering “How far will I go on this date with this person”
Being used by others and using other people
The possibility of not being able to bear a child because of an STI
Deciding to raise a child you are not ready for or giving it up for
Trauma of abortion
Loss of Reputation
Pressure to marry early or the wrong person
The ghosts of past sexual relationships invading your marriage
Exercise control over your life
Develop real friendships based on mutual respect, shared thoughts, and
Have many relationships
Develop self-respect and self- control
Finish your education and achieve financial stability before having to
Find a potential mate who values you for the person that you are
Enjoy greater trust in marriage.
A young woman in her 20’s…..
My high school and college years were the best years of my life. I learned
that “no” to sex meant “yes” to fun. My reputation as a virgin got out
fast. I had more dates, better dates, and good quality relationships. Guys
knew they didn’t need have to perform (sexually) for me, so we
concentrate on getting to know each other and having a great time.
-Sex, Love and You by Thomas Likona
Chastity is not something like a jacket that you
can put on or take off whenever you like. It is a
part of you that communicates to others in your
daily words and actions.
Modesty is one important way to express chastity
Girls remember- Ladies, you must be careful
using those parts of your body to draw men to
you. Men are naturally drawn to those areas and
don’t need any of your help. Be Modest in your
dress. You communicate a lot in the way your
present yourself.
Recent College Graduate…
I never learned how to treat a girl until I dated a
girl a college who dressed modestly. She was
interesting. She commanded respect.
What does the Bible say?
Dt.30:15 “See, I have set before you today life and
prosperity, death and adversity.”
What does the Catechism of the Catholic Church?
CCC#2290- “The virtue of temperance disposes us to
avoid every kind of excess: The abuses of food, alcohol,
tobacco, or medicine. Those incur grave guilt who, by
drunkenness or a love of speed, endanger their own and
others’ safety on the road, at sea, or in the air.”
CCC# “The education of the conscience is a lifelong task.
From the earliest years, it awakens the child to the
knowledge and practice of the inferior law recognize by
conscience. Prudent education teaches virtue; it prevents
or cures fears, selfishness and pride, resentment arising
from guilt, and feelings of complacency, born of human
weakness and faults. The education of the conscience
guarantees freedom and engenders peace of heart.”
Dating Strategies- Ways to Say No…..
“You say ‘No’ before you ever go on a date. ‘No is a state of
mind’; it is a definite decision.
Strategies for Dating
Begin with Group Dating
Delay and minimize single dating
^ 91% of girls who began dating at age 12 lost their virginity by
the time they graduated high school
^ 20% of girls who dated at age 16 lost theirs by the time they
graduated high school
Involve your parents
Get the perspective and wisdom of someone who care about you
and your future. Bring home the person to meet your parents
Avoid temptations
Avoid places that will tempt you- basements- being alone
Avoid sexual stimuli- movies with sexual content,
Don’t drink or use drugs
This lowers your sexual inhibitions, will make you more
likely to give in to sexual temptations
Remember there are people are waiting for you to drink
more alcohol than you can handle
Set strict limits on your expression of physical affectionwhen you set limits, you won’t find yourself fighting the
temptation to go “a little big farther” the next time
Go Slow
Don’t let intense emotions build up too fast. When you ask
someone, “How do you feel about me” that will artificially
accelerate things
Be careful when talking about “our relationship” “our
Let the relationship fold naturally
Tim: Don’t get involved with someone who is sexually
experienced. That happened to me in school. She said sex, didn’t
have to be part of our relationship, but it created as subtle
pressure. I always felt as if I was disappointing her. Now I
wouldn’t involve myself with someone whose convictions about
how far to go are different from mine. Once you get involved in
sexual activity at all, you’ll go farther than you want to go-maybe
not right away, but eventually. There’s an old saying; “Sin will
take you farther than you want to go, and keep you longer than
you wanted to stay” So don’t even get started.
Rachel: I believe that every person has a different point for selfcontrol. You have to be obedient to your opwn convictions, what
you can handle. And you have to be really honest to keep from
falling. You can’t fool yourself, and you have to be willing to
discuss this issue with the person. – Sex, Love, and You- by
Thomas and Judy Likona
Practical Advice
Choose friends who share your values
Get the right kind of sex education
Have and keep your high standards
Wait for the right person
Ask for God’s Help
Keep your clothes on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Remember- God places sex within marriage entirely for our own benefit.
When you share your body with someone, you are giving part of
yourself. If your partner walks out of your life, something of you goes
with him or her. You’ll never get it back. Keeping sex within married love
is your best protection against that. Within marriage, sex is a source of
many blessings, outside of the marriage it is a source of many
*Sexual intimacy between a man and a woman is God’s gift to
newlyweds. God’s gift is not meant to be opened early.
***Waiting for sex until marriage has never hurt anyone***
Worry about Pregnancy and STD’s
Fear of getting pregnant or STDs is a source of real emotional stress for
lots of young people
Kids have sex and end up terrified, and never want to go through that
experience again.
Disappointment and Emptiness
Sex is a poor substitute for intimacy
Girls are more likely to see sex as a sign of “commitment” in the
-more often than not kids regret losing their virginity
- Regret over uncommitted sexual relationships can last for years
-Guilt is a special form of regret- it’s your conscience telling you’ve
done something morally wrong
Guilt is a productive feeling when it reminds you of your values and gets
you back on the right track. The best response to guilt is to accept God’s
forgiveness and as for his grace to amend your life.
God and religion may not be in the forefront of your mind right now but
even if they’re somewhere in the background what you’ve been taught
about God and sinful behavior is still part of you.
Loss of Self-Respect and Self- Esteem
Sex without commitment can lower the self-respect
and self-esteem of both the user and the used.
People aren’t things. They are not meant to be used
then thrown away. People who exploit people in this
way not only hurt others, they damage their own
character and loss respect for themselves.
Lack of Trust and Fear of Commitment
–guys or girls who feel used or betrayed after a
sexual relationship breaks us may experience
difficulty with future relationships
Depression and Suicide
-kids who have had sex at younger ages have a
higher risk of suicide and depression
8. Negative Effects on Sexual Intimacy in Marriage Comparison: if you have had sex with someone other
than your spouse there will be a tendency to compare
them to previous sexual partners
What does the Bible says:
 Sir 6:33 “If you love to listen you will gain
knowledge, and if you pay attention you will
become wise”
1Cor “or you do not know that your body is a
temple of the Holy Spirit within you, which
you have from God, and that you are not on
your own”
Why are all the methods of preventing the conception of a child not equally good?
The Church recommends the refined methods of self-observation and natural
family planning (NFP) as methods of deliberately regulating conception. These are
keeping with the dignity of man and woman; they respect innate laws of the
female body; they demand mutual affection and consideration and therefore are a
school of love.
The church pays careful attention to the order of nature and sees in it a deep
meaning. For her it is therefore not a matter of indifference whether a couple
manipulates the woman’s fertility or instead makes use of the natural alternation
of fertile and infertile days.
It is not accident that- Natural Family Planning is called NATURAL= it is ecological,
holistic, healthy, and exercises in partnership. On the other hand, the Church
rejects all artificial means of contraception- namely chemical methods (“the Pills),
mechanical methods (for example, condom, intra-uterine device or IUD), and
surgical, methods (sterilization)-since these attempt to separate the sexual act
from its procreative potential and block the total self-giving of husband and wife.
Such methods can even endanger the woman’s health, have an abortifacient effect
(=cause a very early abortion), and in the long run be detrimental to the couple
love life.
Explore: The Anatomy from the perspective of
the Catholic Church with the Male and Female
parts along with the definitions.
Urethra: a tube in which urine passes from the
bladder to the outside of the body.
Vagina: passageway from the uterus to outside the
body; passage way for menstrual flow.
Cervix: the mouth or opening into the uterus
Uterus: a pear shape organ in which the beginning at
puberty the lining sheds months during menstruation
Fallopian tubes: passageway for the egg from the
ovary to the uterus; place where fertilization occurs
Ovaries: oval shaped structures which contain
300,000 to 500, 000 eggs at birth; produced the
female sex hormones: estrogen and progesterone;
release the egg
Ovum or egg: size of pin head; if not fertilized.
Dissolves and is absorbed; usually one is released
monthly; if more than one egg is released, may result
in the twins or multiple births
Function: periodic shedding of the lining of the
uterus that has formed for a fertilized egg
Age of Onset: varies from 9-17 ends 45-55
Length Duration: varies 2-7 days
Reproductive process:
Ovulation: during ovulation an ovary releases a
mature egg which then becomes available for
fertilization: occurs approximately 4 days before
the menstrual period begins but is frequently
irregular in younger girls.
Fertilization: the union of an egg with a perm in
the fallopian tube; sperm are capable of
fertilization up to 7 days after intercourse
Fertility- the physical ability or power to give life, to
A female fertility cycle is theme between the beginning of
one period of menstruation and the beginning of the next
period of menstruation. Most cycle last from three to five
weeks and includes a short period of fertility and a longer
period of infertility. Therefore, women are only fertile at
certain, while men are fertile all the time.
Menstruation is referred to as the beginning of the cycle.
The lining of the uterus, which had developed in
preparation for receiving a new life, is made up of cells
and tiny blood vessels. When fertilization does not occur,
this lining is integrates and flows out of the body through
the vagina. This is called a women’s period. If an egg is
fertilized, it results in conception and new life.
Penis: the male sex organ
Scrotum: the pouch located behind the penis
which contains the testicles; provide protection
to the testicles; control temperature necessary
for sperm protection and survival.
Testes: round glands which descend into the
scrotum following birth; produce and store
sperm starting in puberty; produce the male
sex hormone, testosterone
Vas Deferens: passageway for sperm leading from the testicle and
joining the urethra.
Seminal Vesicle: a sac-like structure lying behind the bladder; secretes a
thick fluid that forms –part of the semen
Prostate Gland: a gland located in the male pelvis secretes a thick, milky
fluid that forms part of the semen.
Cowper’s Gland: two glands that secrete a fluid that is released from the
penis soon after erection; may contain sperm.
Urethra: the tube which urine passed from the bladder to the outside of
the body; closed to urine during ejaculation.
Sperm: the make sex cells; too small to be seen without a microscope;
shaped like tadpoles; movement aided by lashing their tails; production
begin usually between age 12-14; total umber per ejaculation 200-500
million; may survive in the fallopian tubes for 7 days, but rarely cause
fertilization after 72 hours.
Ejaculation: the release of semen from the penis
Semen: the sperm- containing fluid that passes out of the penis at the
time of ejaculation; produced and stored in the seminal vesicles and
prostate gland.
Male Fertility
-Male fertility doesn’t occur in cycles. Once males past
puberty, their fertility is continuous.
- Fertility begins in males with the production of sperm
cells. The process usually starts when boys are between
the ages of twelve and sixteen.
- Sperm are first formed in tiny tubes inside the
testicles. As sperm matures, they travel to a large tube,
which is called the Vas Deferens. There are two of these
larger tubes, one for each testicle.
-The testicles are found outside of the make body. Why
do you ask- is something so precious left outside the
body where they are vulnerable to injury, The reason is
that sperm production requires a temperature that is
slight cooler than the rest of the body. The scrotum
which is the sac of skin covering the testicle actually
regulates the temperature of the testicles. .
Chastity gives us freedom from worrying
about pregnancy, sexually transmitted
diseases, and maintaining our future
Handout- Sexually Transmitted Disease Fact
Article- “The Sex Degrees of Separation”
Handout- Avoiding Pregnancy and
Maintaining Good Sexual Health
Outcome 9.13 A and Outcome 9.13B:
The student will explore our Catholic teaching that human life must
be respected and protected from the moment of our conception.
The student will identify the responsibilities and sources of support
associated with pregnancy and parenting.
What does the Bible say?
Luke 1:41”When Elizabeth heard Mary’s
greeting, the child leaped in her womb. And
Elizabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit.”
Is. 49:1 “Listen to me, O coastlands, pay
attention, you peoples from far away! The
LORD called me before I was born; while I was
in my mother’s womb he named me.”
Why is abortion unacceptable at any phase in the development of
an embryo?
God-given human life is God’s own property; it is sacred from
the first moment of its existence and not under the control of
any human being. “Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you,
and before you born I consecrated you.”
God alone is Lord over life and death. Not even “my” life belongs
to me. Every child, from the moment of conception on, has a
right to life. From his earliest beginnings an unborn human
being is a separate person, and no one can infringe upon his
rights, not the state, not the doctor, and not even the mother.
The church’s clarify about this is not a lack of compassion, she
means, rather, to point out the irreparable harm that is that is
inflicted on the child who is killed in abortion and on his parents
and on society as a whole. Protecting innocent human life is one
of the noblest tasks of the State. If a State, evades this
responsibility, it undermines the foundations of a rule of law.
Sarah’s Story
The Miracle at Christmas
Choosing Life
On Abortion
Current Events about the Human Body
Scripture Commentary:
The following scripture passages describe to us how all of creation is charged with the
grandeur of God. We stand in awe of gratitude at the complexity, diversity and beauty of our
being. The fact that Jesus took on human form gives incredible dignity to all human beings.
During the times in your lives when you are experiencing significant changes in your bodies,
we are reminded that our lives unfold within a beautiful and infinite story.
Gen 1:27-31“So God created humankind in his image, in the image of God he created them;
male and female he created them. God blessed the,, and said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply,
and fill the earth and subdue (conquer) it; and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over
the birds in the air and over every living thing that moves upon the earth” God said, ‘See, I have
given you every plant yielding seed that is upon the face of and every tree with seed in its fruit;
you shall have them for food. And to every beast of the earth, and to every bird of the air, and
to everything that creeps on earth, everything that has the bread of life, I have given every
green plant for food. And it was so. God saw everything that he had made, and indeed, it was
very good. And there was evening and there was morning, the sixth day. all the earth.
Mt. 7:7-11“Ask, and it will be given to you; search. And you will find; knock and the door will
be opened for you. For everyone who asks receives, and everyone who searches finds, and for
everyone who knocks, the door will be opened. Is there anyone among you who, if your child
asks for bread, will give a stone? Or if the child asks for a fish, will give you a snake? If you
then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your
Father in heaven give good things to those who ask him!
CCC # 2333 “Everyone, man and woman, should
acknowledge and accept his sexual identity. Physical,
moral, and spiritual difference and complementarity
are oriented toward the goods of marriage and
flourishing of family life. The harmony of the couple
of society depends in part on the way in which the
complementarity, needs, and mutual support
between the sexes are lived out.
CCC#1704 “The human person participates in the
light and power of the divine Spirit. By his reason, he
is capable of understanding the order of things
established by the Creator. By freewill, he is capable
of directing himself toward his true good. He finds
his perfection in seeking and loving what is true and
The Catechetical Focus:
We marvel at the complexity if the human
body and how God has created its part to
work as a while.
We accept that we are made in the image and
likeness of God
As Christians, we appreciate our uniqueness,
demonstrate sensitivity toward diners, and
understand that each person is worthy of love
and respect.
Catechetical Focus:
We are called to respect the dignity and needs of others.
We are called to make life-giving choices.
1Cor 12: 12-16 “For just as the body is one and has many members, and all the
members of the body, though many, are one body, so it is with Christ. For in the
one Spirit we were all baptized into one body- Jews or Greeks, slaves or free- and
we were all made to drink od one Spirit. Indeed, the body does not consist of one
member but of many. If the foot would say, ‘Because I am not a hand, I do not
belong to the body,’ that would not make it any less a part of the body. And if the
ear would say, ‘Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to body,’ that would not
make it any less a part of the body.
CCC 2270: Human life must be respected and protected absolutely from the
moment of conception. From the first moment of his existence, a human being
must be recognized as having the rights of the person, among which is the
inviolable right of every innocent being to life. Before I formed you in the womb I
knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you. My frame was not hidden
from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately wrought in the depths of
the earth.
Discuss (on the handout): Myths about Sexual Assault and What to Do in Case of
Sexual Assault
What are some ways that we can protect ourselves from sexual assault?
Discussion: What are the other types of abuses?
Emotional: not providing appropriate care, attention, and affection. Unsuitable
demands may be placed on a person. A person may endure belittling comments.
Neglect: Not providing adequate emotional and physical care.
Physical: inappropriate physical force, resulting in injury. At times, injury is caused
by over-discipline.
Sexual: this includes exploitation, interference, invitation to touch, exposure, and
Brainstorm: What are the resources and support systems that other guidance to
our victims of abuse?