Dating/
Relationships
and the Media
RND LIVEFIT
MEDIA
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All television is
educational television.
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The question is: what is it
teaching?
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How do influences
affect our behaviour?
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How does the media
affect “their” behaviour?
Personality & Behaviour
(Nature versus Nurture?)
 Nature-
we are
who we are
because of our
genetics
 We
are who we
are because of our
environment?
Interesting –
The nature versus nurture issue of sport is very controversial.
When we come to talk about great athletes we tend to ask
ourselves a question that has been around every since sports have
started- are great athletes born or made?
"Amazing Subliminal CDs
Seduce Single Women"
She thinks she's hearing music, but she's
being programmed by subliminal messages
(concealed under music) to make her
uncontrollably want to have sex.
http://www.getgirls.com/sublim.htm (I can’t
believe there is a site like this!)
Subliminal Messages
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Subliminal messages are in images every day.
Subliminal images are on video boxes, in
magazine ads, even in the phone book as the
image to the left supports.
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Subliminal tapes are sold by the millions to people
that want to motivate themselves with custom
subliminal messages.
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There are subliminal messages in songs.
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There are even computer programs so you can
make your own custom subliminal message to
yourself as you watch your computer each day.
Let’s look at a few
Oops boxers a little short
This ran in a phone book until bell figured out its real message
The use of the word
“sex” ignites the
brain and makes it
more aware of what
it sees.
LEFT BRAIN VS RIGHT BRAIN
 While seated, lift your right foot off the floor
and make clockwise circles.
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while doing this, draw the number "6"
in the air with your right hand.
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foot will change direction and there's
absolutely nothing you can do about it.
The Brain
 Scientists
have demonstrated that hidden
subliminal images can still attract the
brain's attention, even when the person is
apparently unaware of the visual or
auditory stimulation caused by the stimuli.
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Music is connected to your emotions and can
even help shape your mood.
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When you find a song you really like, you may
listen to it over and over again.
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Repeating a song for long periods of time can
have a strong emotional impact on the
listener.
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Do you remember what grade you were in
when Soldier Boy was popular, do you have a
memory surrounding that song?
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For this reason, violent songs can be more influential
than other media violence.
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In fact, researchers found that listening to heavy metal
and rap music correlates with hostile attitudes, negative
attitudes toward women, lower academic performance,
behavioural problems in school, drug use, and even
arrests.
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Girls start to believe what is heard in the music they
listen to as well. Even if you think the song is not having
an impact your brain is hearing the words over and over
and depending on your age and character
development you may be slightly influenced or it may
have a BIG impact on who you are!
SO WHAT
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you are consistently getting the same
messages about love, sex, relationships,
body image and self esteem- you will start
to develop a personal belief system which
includes the messages you hear and see
on a regular basis.
Now Let’s Talk Dating
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teen does not learn how to date in the
classroom.
 It
is most likely picked up from someone at
home.
 You
have learned how to navigate a
relationship from the adults at home
(Mother, father, older sibling etc…).
Age of Consent
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There is no age limit for "Dating", as long as it is a
non-sexual relationship. Sexual consent in Canada
is 16. It was raised from 14 years on May 1, 2008 by
the Tackling Violent Crime Act.
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However, the age of consent is 18 years where the
sexual activity "exploits" the young person -- when
it involves prostitution, pornography or occurs in a
relationship of authority, trust or dependency (e.g.,
with a teacher, coach or babysitter)
The Criminal Code provides "close in
age" or "peer group" exceptions
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For example, a 14 or 15 year old can consent
to sexual activity with a partner as long as the
partner is less than five years older and there
is no relationship of trust, authority or
dependency or any other exploitation of the
young person.
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This means that if the partner is 5 years or
older than the 14 or 15 year old, any sexual
activity will be considered a criminal offence.
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If a 17 year old were to become involved with
a person of authority (i.e. teacher) there
could be no sexual involvement between the
two people until the teen turned 18 years old.
Social Networking
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Teens use Face book and other networking sites to
communicate with friends.
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They send messages and read blog entries to keep up with
their friends' lives.
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They also use Face book to meet new people.
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Unfortunately, this takes the personal element out of the
exchange.
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Another way teens use Face book is to meet people in
other places.
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They can search for people in a common interest group or
by the person's location.
Sexting
 Sexting
is the act of sending sexually
explicit messages or photographs,
primarily between mobile phones.
 About
one in five teens have engaged in
some sort of sexting, according to a
recent online survey by Cox
Communications.
 51
% of all teen girls cited pressure from a
guy as the reason girls send “sexy
messages or images” (only 18 percent of
boys cited pressure from a girl).
The Dangers of Sexting
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Teens don’t think about the future.
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You think about right now, and it is virtually
impossible to get sexually explicit photos of
minors off the Internet once they are out
there.
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These images will follow you later in life as and
could come back to haunt you.
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What if you have a bad break up or if you
make him really mad, will he respect your
privacy?
TRUE STORY
Sexting can result in youth becoming victims of bullying and
harassment. One tragic example is Jessica Logan, a high
school student in Ohio.
Her boyfriend circulated her nude picture, which she sent to
him, to hundreds of other students at several different
schools. Jessica was reportedly teased, bullied at school
and online as a result. She became depressed and began
skipping class.
In an attempt to warn others about the dangers of sexting,
Jessica spoke to a local television station about her
experience, with her face and voice disguised. Two months
later, after attending a funeral for a friend who had
committed suicide, the 18-year-old took her own life.
SEXTING AND THE LAW
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Sexually explicit pictures of a person under 18 are
considered child pornography, regardless of who
took them or where they get sent, etc. (Note that I
say "sexually explicit" not naked. Nudity is neither
strictly necessary nor sufficient on its own.) This is a
serious crime.
You could be jailed but worse you could be
added to the sex offenders registry for 20 years.
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In 2007, an Alberta teen narrowly avoided being jailed
as a child porn pervert after e-mailing photos of his exgirlfriend to others.
Trusting your intuition
 Is
he flirting with you?
 Is he pulling away from your relationship?
 Is he cheating?
 Is he acting in an abusive way?
 Is he getting creepy?
 You
have something called “intuition” or
a sixth sense that will give you a feeling
inside like no other. Listen to it!
The Green Monster
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Jealousy is an emotion and typically refers to the
negative thoughts & feelings of insecurity, fear,
and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something
that the person values.
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Some jealousy in a relationship is natural, normal
and healthy. In fact, there would be something
wrong if you didn't feel jealous when another girl
flirts hugs with your boyfriend.
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It is what you do that is important!!!
Comfort level in your
relationship
Move Slow with Intimacy
 Do not pressure your boyfriend/girlfriend to engage in any form of
intimacy (kissing, touching, sex, etc.) unless he/she is ready.
Respect and Trust
 Respect in a relationship goes both ways. You should never call
each other names, take advantage of one another, or do things
that would intentionally hurt the other person.
 With respect, comes trust. As you and your partner respect one
another, a level of comfort develops.
Communication
 A high level of communication helps the relationship grow.
Friends off Limits
 It is inappropriate to seek out your current boyfriend/girlfriend
friends when still in the relationship.
 If is NEVER a good idea to make one of your good girlfriends “ex”
your new love interest
Knowing your Body
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You have hormones that are designed to get you
interested in relationships, you DO NOT HAVE TO
ACT ON THEM
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You have biological things happening to your
body during your cycle that will promote
closeness, fertility and hostility.
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Ovulation
Pheromones
You are the most fertile right now and potentially
not 100% regular
When it is over
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Avoid the former love. Yes, avoid.
Talk out your feelings with close friends.
Cry if you want to.
Let go of mementos. Put away or give away anything and
everything that reminds you of the relationship.
Don’t slip up and get together with your ex. The whole
friendship with the ex might not ever happen.
Focus on all the things about your ex that drove you crazy
Maintain a strict no contact policy and stick with it. Don’t pass
notes through friends. Don’t make any calls. Stay away from
instant messaging or texting on your cell.
Take the high road. Don’t gossip or reveal intimate details of
your relationship to everyone who will listen, maintain maturity.
Reinvent yourself again- you were a couple and it takes two to
make it work, work on yourself, become a better person and
enjoy being single again. Mr. Right may be waiting for you to
heal and then he will make his move.
Mending a broken heart is not easy but it can be done. Allow
yourself to hurt!
You will be stronger once the
pain goes away! CLICK
Homework
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KNOW YOUR LIMIT- what are you willing to put up with in
a relationship.
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Make your limits known- you teach people how to treat
you. You deserve to be treated with respect and
dignity, unconditional love and support. He needs to
enhance your life!
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Personal space- it is good for you to go out with the girls
and for him to go out with the guys! A healthy
relationship includes friends and family, with and without
him!!
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