Biblical Husbands Biblical Husbands The Trembling World Proverbs 30:21-23: “Under three things the earth trembles, under four it cannot bear up: a servant who becomes king, a fool who is full of food, an unloved woman who is married, and a maidservant who displaces her mistress.” Biblical Husbands FIRST AND FOREMOST, a man can not be a godly husband without first being a true Christian. Why? Ephesians 5:25 tells us: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.” Biblical Husbands Sins of the Sons of Adam Bad Friends Proverbs 24:1-2: “Do not envy wicked men, do not desire their company; for their hearts plot violence and their lips talk about making trouble.” Proverbs 13:20: “He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm.” Biblical Husbands Sins of the Sons of Adam Bad Friends What do we typically look for in friends? What do think would be the characteristics of a godly/spiritual friend? Biblical Husbands Careless Speech Proverbs 11:13: “A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret.” Proverbs 12:18-19: “Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue lasts only a moment.” Proverbs 12:23: “A prudent man keeps his knowledge to himself, but the heart of fools blurts out folly.” Proverbs 17:19: “He who loves a quarrel loves sin…” Biblical Husbands Sinful Lust Proverbs 5:18-20: “May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer – may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love (Hebrew “love making”). Why be captivated, my son, by an adulteress? Why embrace the bosom of another man’s wife?” Biblical Husbands Sinful Lust • • • • • • 51% of you say porn is a temptation. 69% of you started looking at porn out of curiosity. 37% of you say it's currently a struggle. 53% of you have visited porn sites in the past year. 30% of you do not talk to anyone about your secret. 4 in 10 of you looked at porn today (Christianity Today, Leadership Survey of Pastors, December 2001). Biblical Husbands Sinful Lust Why is this such a rampant issue in the church? Why is there so much fear in discussing this issue? Biblical Husbands Financial Immaturity Proverbs 12:11: “He who works his land will have abundant food, but he who chases fantasies lacks judgment.” Biblical Husbands Poor Leadership Proverbs 11:16-17: “A kindhearted woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth. A kind man benefits himself, but a cruel man brings trouble on himself.” Proverbs 11:29: “He who brings trouble on his family will inherit only the wind…” Proverbs 27:8: “Like a bird that strays from its nest is a man who strays from his home.” Biblical Husbands Cultivating a Godly Wife Ephesians 5:23-28: “For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.” 1 Peter 3:7: “Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.” 1 Corinthians 7:3-4: “Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.”