CORE CLINICAL ISSUES IN ADOPTION

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CORE CLINICAL ISSUES

IN

ADOPTION

Presented by

Joan Normandy-Dolberg,

LPC, NCC

Family Counseling of Springfield

703-569-1300 jdolberg@cox.net

Acknowledgements

 The Center for Adoption Support and Education (CASE) joined with the Rural Adoptive

Family Initiative (RAFI) to offer two 48 hour intensive training programs to 20 therapists who were interested in learning more about the full spectrum of adoption related issues.

 The training utilized the Adoption Clinical Training (ACT), developed by Sharon Roszia, MS and Deborah Silverstein, L.C.S.W., leaders in the field of adoption and affiliated with the

Kinship Center in California. Over 3,500 clinicians had been previously trained in ACT.

 Debbie Riley, Executive Director of the Center for Adoption Support and Education (C.A.S.E.) and Sharon Roszia, MS, led formal lectures, small group discussions and experiential activities.

 We continue to meet to staff cases and update our education.

 Participants received over 48 continuing education credits , as well as a certification of completion of the training.

 Grant #90-CO-0994 to the Virginia Dept of Social Services from the U.S. Dept of Health and Human Services

ADOPTION STATISTICS

More than 135,000 adoptions take place annually.

 In the US more than 13,000 adoptions involve babies who are voluntarily relinquished.

Of non-stepparent adoptions, approximately

59 percent are from the child welfare system,

26 percent are international, and

15 percent are voluntarily relinquished domestic infant adoptions.

 About half of all infant adoptions are carried out by independent practitioners, who facilitate birthparents' placing their children directly with potential adoptive parents.

Service fees for infant adoptions typically range from $20,000 to $35,000.

The vast majority of adoption agencies, as well as independent practitioners, offer open adoptions, in which identifying information is exchanged. Many of the adoptions they arrange also are mediated adoptions, in which ongoing information is exchanged through the agency.

The Adoption Triad

Adoptee

Adoptive

Family

Birth Family

Seven Core Adoption Issues

REJECTION

MASTERY/

CONTROL

LOSS

INTIMACY

GUILT/

SHAME

GRIEF

IDENTITY

ADOPTED

PERSON

•Birth Family

•Biological, genetic & cultural history

•Belonging

•Security

LOSS

BIRTH PARENT

•Child

•Social isolation

•Body & self image

•Tentative future relationships

ADOPTIVE

PARENT

•“Dream” child

•Immortality

•Self

•Entitlement

ADOPTED

PERSON

•Not keepable

•Self esteem issues

•Fear of abandonment

•Fear of exclusion

REJECTION

BIRTH PARENT

•Society’s condemnation

•Afraid the child will hate them

•Feels “not worthy”

•Expects rejection

ADOPTIVE

PARENT

•Not in the “club”

•Scapegoats partner

•Fear of

“selection” process

•Potential rejection by or of the child

GUILT & SHAME

BIRTH PARENT ADOPTED

PERSON

ADOPTIVE

PARENT

•Tainted

•A mistake

•Different

•Defensive/ angry

•Party to a secret

•How much to share?

•Who do I tell?

•Fears judgment

•Double-bind

•Body is faulty

•Social view that adoption is 2nd choice

•Am I really the parent?

•Am I causing the child’s problems?

GRIEF

BIRTH PARENT ADOPTED

PERSON

Somatic issues

No permission to grieve

Depression

Acting out

Lack of “fit”

Pushed to

“move on”

Denies the experience

Blocked by shame

Anger displacement

ADOPTIVE

PARENT

Adoption of fantasy child not a fix

Blocks attachment

Impacts parenting

Culture & race differences

ADOPTED

PERSON

Am I “real”?

Minimal history impacts self worth

“Borrowed” sense of belonging

Intensifies in teen years

IDENTITY

BIRTH PARENT ADOPTIVE

PARENT

Am I “real”?

Diminished sense of self

Not sure if and how they fit into their child’s life

Am I “real”?

Impacts ability to pass on heritage

& legacy

Intergenerational struggle & confusion

INTIMACY

BIRTH PARENT ADOPTED

PERSON

Fear of getting close

Concerns about incest

Missed being nuzzled & adored in their sweet baby bodies

Intimacy = loss

At risk for multiple relationships

Impacts relationship with other children

ADOPTIVE

PARENT

Relationship difficulties

Child’s distance triggers fear

Missed early opportunities

MASTERY & CONTROL

BIRTH PARENT ADOPTED

PERSON

ADOPTIVE

PARENT

Not part of the decision

Being in charge holds loss at bay

Win/lose issues loom large

“Driven” behaviors

Eating & substance abuse issues

“Re-dos” to gain control

No control over their own body

Adoption process makes individual feel even more helpless

Entitlement issues

Recent Research

According to a study quoted in the May 05, 2008 issue of Time magazine, adopted adolescents are at greater risk for behavior or emotional problems

Clinicians from the University of Minnesota interviewed (in person) nearly 700 adopted children and 540 non-adopted children, all ages 11 to 21. Participants had to have a nonadopted sibling within the same age range to help compare behaviors.

This study found that about 14 percent of adopted adolescents are diagnosed with a behavioral disorder or have contact with a mental health professional. The rate for nonadopted teens is about half that.

The study shows that this discrepancy could be due to genetic issues or prenatal care, rather than the fact that adoptive parents are more proactive than the general population about recognizing the signs/symptoms, having their children tested, and seeking care psychiatric care for them.

The study also concluded that children adopted domestically (U.S.) are more likely to have behavioral disorders than those adopted internationally . Children of intercountry adoption are far more likely to internalize their problems (depression and separation anxiety disorders are common), whereas children adopted domestically tend to act out.

Source:Kathleen Kingsbury, “Adoptees More Likely to be Troubled,” TIME magazine, 5/5/08

COMMON PRESENTING ISSUES

Lack of understanding/anger

Parenting struggles

Lack of “goodness of fit”

Low self esteem & identity issues

Feelings of loss of control

Grief due to loss

Inability to develop & maintain intimate relationships

WHERE TO BEGIN

Establish rapport

Assess mastery & understanding of adoption experience

Assess attachment issues

Normalize feelings & behavior

Provide psycho-education for all members of the family

Increase self esteem through various activities

PRACTICE INTERVENTIONS &

HEALING OPPORTUNITIES

Self Esteem Eco-Maps Time Lines

Life Books Genograms Bibliotherapy

SELF ESTEEM

Cornerstone of mental health

Professionals must recognize constellation members’ vulnerabilities

Parents must be empowered and taught how to build their child’s self esteem

FOSTERING SELF ESTEEM

Provide opportunities to try new things

Allow chances to feel “in charge”

Balance expectation & ability

Allow for mistakes

Validate feeling & thoughts

Model appropriate behavior & attachment

Use filial therapy

Genogram Symbols

COMPLETED GENOGRAM

ECOMAPS

…are graphical representations that show all of the systems at play in a client’s life. Eco-maps are used as a way of demonstrating Systems Theory so that both the counselor and the client can refer to it during a session.

At the center of the eco-map is the client (this can either be a family or individual). Family connections and connections to all of the relevant systems that are at play in the clients life are represented by lines

Thicker (darker) lines mean stronger relationship

Crossed or red lines mean that the system is a stressful relationship; dashed lines indicate an uncertain relationship

Arrows pointing to the client mean that the system primarily influences the client

Arrows pointing to the system mean that the client primarily influences the system

Arrows pointing both direction depicts a two direction flow of influence

Relationship Symbols

A stressful, conflict-laden relationship ++++++

A tenuous, uncertain relationship - - - - - - - - -

A positive relationship or resource _________

The direction of the giving & receiving exchange or a relationship or resource 

Girl

Scouts

Eco-Map

Mike Amy

Patty

Colin

Sue

School

Adoptive Parents

Time Line

Adopted Children

TIME LINE

LIFE BOOKS BOXES

Tangible & truthful

Compilation of events

Reality based

Non-verbal access to feelings

Incorporates child’s view of events

Container for mementos and photos

“Road trips” & internet searches might be needed to fill them in

Drawings and representations are included

LIFE BOOK ELEMENTS

Birth family and history

Reasons for placement

Foster care and adoption history

Feelings

Explanation of past events

The future

BIBLIOTHERAPY

Non-confrontive

Private & gentle

Validating

Helps children make sense of their adoption

Normalizes fear and confusion

Helps parents understand their children’s feelings

Parenting Books

When Love Is Not Enough: A Guide to Parenting Children with RAD by

Nancy L. Thomas

Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew by

Sherrie Eldridge

Raising Adopted Children, Revised Edition: Practical Reassuring

Advice for Every Adoptive Parent by Lois Ruskai Melina

This is Me - Memories to Gather and Keep by Susan L. Pierce

Parenting the Hurt Child : Helping Adoptive Families Heal and Grow by

Gregory Keck, Regina M. Kupecky

Attaching in Adoption: Practical Tools for Today's Parents by Deborah D. Gray

Adopting the Older Child by Claudia L. Jewett

Help for the Hopeless Child: A Guide for Families by Ronald S. Federici

Toddler Adoption: The Weaver's Craft by Mary Hopkins-Best

The Waiting Child: How the Faith and Love of One Orphan

Saved the Life of Another by Cindy Champnella

Our Own: Adopting and Parenting the Older Child

By Trish Maskew

Adopting the Hurt Child: Hope for Families With Special-

Needs Kids : A Guide for Parents and Professionals

By Gregory C. Keck, Regina M. Kupecky

Understanding Attachment and Attachment Disorders:

Theory, Evidence and Practice by Vivien Prior, Danya

Glaser

Parenting With Love and Logic (Updated and Expanded

Edition) by Foster W. Cline, Jim Fay

Taking the Stress Out of Raising Great Kids by Jim Fay, Charles Fay, Foster Cline

Building the Bonds of Attachment: Awakening Love in

Deeply Troubled Children by Daniel A. Hughes

Facilitating Developmental Attachment: The Road to

Emotional Recovery and Behavioral Change in Foster and

Adopted Children by Daniel A. Hughes

RESOURCES

 www.genopro.com/genogram http://www.adoptionsupport.org/ http://www.barkerfoundation.org/

National Adoption Information Clearinghouse http://naic.acf.hhs.gov

TEL (888) 251-0075 FAX (703) 385-3206 http://www.adopting.org/adoptions/post-adoption-resources-2.html

http://www.childrensdisabilities.info/attachment-links.html

www.ldonline.org

http://www.familyhelper.net/ad/adnlu.html

http://www.adoptivefamilies.com/loismelina http://www.adoptioninstitute.org/index.php

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