Sigma Lambda Gamma National Sorority, Inc.
Amethyst
Lesson 2: Tough Conversations
Updated August 2014
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Lesson 2: The Tough Conversations
There are a select few topics that are difficult to discuss between members of a family business
such as a sorority. How do you handle situations where a sister is acting out of line with your
entity’s code of conduct? How to start the conversion with a sister who can’t pay their dues or
will be put on academic probation? This Lesson is dedicated to answering those questions and
more. This lesson will challenge your entity to review their judicial procedures and work toward
finding common ground in touchy situations within your sisterhood.
Deadline
This lesson workbook should be filled out and submitted to the Director of Education,
Lexi@sigmalambdagamma.com, by the following deadline _______________.
Please refer to the Program Workbook (pg. 2) to select a deadline from the list for this lesson.
Sisterhood Enhancement Committee
Please view the hyperlinked video and take notes on this topic in the box below.
What representatives absolutely need to be a part of the SEC?
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If this representation is not possible, what would be an acceptable substitute?
The President needs to be the Chair of the SEC.
True / False
The exact make- up of the Committee is not as essential as is the fact the Committee is formed,
functions on a regular basis, and is respected by a majority of the chapter.
True / False
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Sisterhood Enhancement Committee Manual/ Mock Sessions
Please review the Sisterhood Enhanacement Committee Manual on the Online Community
Resoure Center and answer the following questions with the assistance of a member of your
entity advisory committee:
1. What areas of the sisterhood does the SEC Maintain?
2. What are the 3 Cs?
3. The SEC should meet a minimum of __________ per month.
4. What are the responsibilities of the SEC?
After you have answered these questions, throroughly review the section on Standards and
Mediations and have your SEC, including a member of your entity advisory committee, host a
mock mediation session. Your advisroy committee member is responsible for being the mediator
during this mock session.
After your mock mediation session, please have your SEC members reflect on the following
areas of their expreience and share their answers with the group:
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What went well?
What was challenging?
How can we improve this experience in the future?
Have your SEC review the following scenario and host a mock Standards hearing with one
member portraying the sister in this scenario:
There is a sister in your entity who has constantly been absent for business meetings
over the past semester and hasn’t been showing up for events or Ritual practices. This
sister has been making it very difficult to get in contact with her, but you can see that
the entity is getting more frustrated with this sister. You have heard that this sister is
having some family issues, but she hasn’t discussed these issues with anyone.
Follow the procedures outlined in the Standards Hearing section of the SEC Manual to address
and resolve this issue as efficiently as possible. Have the member portraying this sister decide
what is going on, how she will react to being called to SEC, and how much information she will
share duing the hearing.
After your mock SEC hearing, please have your SEC members reflect on the following areas of
their expreience and share their answers with the group:
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What went well?
What was challenging?
How can we improve this experience in the future?
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Emotional Intelleigence Module: Conflict Management
Your entity will run the Conflict Management E.I. module as a group. This module can be found
on the Online Community Resource Center. After this module is complete, please reflect on
what you learned in the space provided below.
Policy & Procedure Manual Review:
Please review the following articles of the National Policy & Procedure Manual and take notes in
the spaces provided below.
Academic Policies & Procedures (Pg. 9-12)
Financial Policies & Procedures (Pg. 12-14)
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Human Dignity Policy (Pg. 22)
Judicial Policies & Procedure (Pg. 23-26)
Constitution Review: Article 14 - Dues and Fees
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Lesson Reflection
Please provide a brief reflection on your experiences with implementing this lesson and what
your entity learned after this lesson was completed.
Assignments
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View all hyperlinked video tutorials and take notes in workbook
Review the most current SEC Manual and run the mock sessions outlined in this workbook
Prepare and facilitate the Conflict Management E.I. Module
Review all Policy & Procedure Manual sections indicated and take notes in workbook
Review Constitution Articles 14 and take notes in workbook
Construct a Sisterhood Enhancement Committee
Email Lexi@sigmalambdagamma.com this completed lesson packet
“A true leader has the confidence to stand alone, the courage to make tough decisions, and the
compassion to listen to the needs of others. They do not set out to be a leader, but becomes one
by the quality of their actions and the integrity of their intent.”
~ Unknown
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