Speak by Laurie Halse Anderson Introduction What is the Definition of Rape? Rape is defined as sexual penetration without consent where there is force or coercion. Rape is not limited to only genital intercourse. ANSWERS: ‘Date rape – true or false?’ 1. True – a staggering 90% of people are raped by someone they know. 2. False – rape includes many other sexual acts (e.g. oral sex, unwanted touching). 3. False – it can happen in longer-term relationships as well, or be committed by people you’ve known for a long time (e.g. a friend of the family). 4. False – both partners need agree to have sex together. Also, a girl shouldn’t have to be the one who says no – and guys can say no too. 5. True – it’s entirely possible and does happen. Just because you’re going out with someone doesn’t mean they can have sex with you against your will. 6. False – it happens to guys as well. It is thought that about 5% of all date rape happens to guys. 7. False – Telling someone is a normal thing to do, and nobody gets a bad reputation for being raped. 8. True – Of course it is. Sex is natural and being sexy is fine. Getting the wrong message and raping someone is not. 9. False – It’s easy and natural to get aroused by someone else, but it’s controllable. It is no excuse for raping someone. 10. True – It’s hard enough for many girls to be confident enough to say no in the first place. If they say it, they really do mean it. Answers 11. False – No matter how long you’ve been in a relationship with someone it’s never OK to be pressured into having sex against your will. 12. False – Nobody gets over rape quickly, but there are many ways to deal with it over time. 13. False – If sex is against one’s will, it is rape. Wearing a condom or not makes no difference. 14. True – Slipping drugs into drinks does happen but it’s rare compared to adding extra alcohol or giving someone more drinks than they realise. 15. False – She doesn’t owe him sex at all. If the dinner went well, then things may develop or they may not, but whatever happens must be with the agreement of both people. Your score 1-4. You need to wake up. 5-8. You’ve got an idea but you should get more informed. 9-12. Not bad. Keep learning. 13-15. Excellent. You obviously keep your eyes open. Answers to the Date Rape Quiz 1. true – “passion” means anger & aggression 2. false – it is about control and aggression 3. false – although the incidents are more common when alcohol is involved 4. false 5. false 6. false 7. true 8. false 9. false 10. false True 12. False 13. True 14. True 15. True 16. False 17. True 18. False 19. False 20. False 21. False 22. False 23. False 24. False 11. Sexual Assault Statistics Teenage Rape * 38% of women who have been raped were 14-17 years old at the time of the attack * Nearly all female teenage victims know their attacker * 56% of teenage girls who are raped are raped by a date * 30% of teenage girls who are raped are raped by a friend * 11% of teenage girls who are raped are raped by a boyfriend * 78% of teenage victims do not tell their parents about the incident * 71% of teenage victims tell a friend that they were raped * 6% of teenage rape victims report the assault to the police * 75% of acquaintance rapes involve alcohol * 3.3 million Americans aged 14-17 are considered problem drinkers * The risk of rape is four times higher for women aged 16-24 than for any other age group Rape on College Campuses Incidence facts: * One in four college women surveyed are victims of rape or attempted rape * 85% of rapes on campus are acquaintance rapes * One in six female college students reported having been a victim of rape or attempted rape during the preceeding year * 27% of women have experienced a rape or attempted rape since age 14 * The majority of reported victims and offenders are college age, with the rape victimization highest among 16-19 year olds Women's responses to assault facts: * Only 27% of the women whose sexual assault met the legal definition of rape thought of themselves as rape victims * 42% of college women who are raped tell no one about their assault * 42% of the women who were raped said they had sex again with the men who assaulted them * 42% of raped women said they expect to be raped again Men's responses to rape facts: * 84% of college men who committed rape said that what they did was definitely not rape * 55% of the men who raped said they had sex again with their victims * One in fifteen male students reported committing a rape or attempting to commit rape during the preceeding year * Nearly one third of college men said they were likely to have sex with an unwilling partner if they thought they could get away with it THE FACTS: Reporting facts: * 5% of college women who are raped report the rape to the police * 5% of college women who are raped seek help at a rape crisis center Alcohol facts: * 90% of acquaintance rapes involve alcohol * Alcohol is a factor in 100% of gang rapes Diseases, pregnancy, etc.: * Three in 1000 college students are HIV-positive * Every year, one million teenage girls get pregnant Rapist Profiles Power-assertive rapist: Athletic, has a "macho" image of himself. More often than not, this is the type who commits date rapes. He typically meets his victim in a bar or nightclub. Instead of targeting a specific victim, he looks for an opportunity to get a woman alone with him, perhaps with an offer of a ride home or an invitation back to his place. Or he may con his victim into trusting him or letting him into her home, perhaps by posing as a policeman or repairman. Approximately 44 percent of rapes are committed by power-assertive rapists. He is physically aggressive, and will use the amount of force needed to control you -- degrading or obscene language, [brandishing] a weapon, slapping or punching -- but he does not intend to kill you. Generally, begging and crying doesn't work with this guy. If you're going to resist, you've got to be serious. You've got to scream and fight him as hard as you can to get away. Rapist Profiles Anger-retaliatory rapist: He feels animosity towards women and wants to punish and degrade them. Often he is a substance abuser. He is impulsive and has an explosive temper. He looks for an opportunity to commit the rape rather than for a specific victim. He attacks spontaneously and brutalizes the woman into submission. Thirty percent of rapists fall into the angerretaliation category. He will grab you from behind and drag you into the bushes. He will often beat you to nearunconsciousness before committing the rape. Any level of resistance may well enrage him and cause him to beat the life out of you until he gets what he wants. He's not looking to kill you, but the beating could be fatal. You do not want to challenge or enrage this type of rapist. You could try to escape. If you cannot get away or incapacitate the assailant, it's best to submit and try to limit the level of violence of the assault to the extent that you can. Rapist Profiles Power-reassurance rapist: He lacks the self-confidence and interpersonal skills to develop relationships with women. He is passive and nonathletic. He lives or works near his victim, and "preselects" her by peeping or stalking. He typically breaks into her home in the early hours of the morning and awakens her. He uses minimal force and will threaten her with a weapon, but usually does not have one. He fantasizes that he is his victim's lover so he may ask her to disrobe or to wear a negligee and he will kiss her and engage in foreplay. The power-reassurance type accounts for 21 percent of rapists. He is the least violent type of rapist, and does not intend to hurt or kill you, Among the different types of rapists, he is most likely to be dissuaded if you scream, cry, plead or fight." In general it is more probable that you can discourage a rapist who uses this [power reassurance] approach. But you could instead be dealing with a power assertive rapist who is starting off with a softer approach. Try nonviolent tactics, crying, pleading, praying aloud while you're sizing up the assailant. If it works you may be able to escape the situation. But if he responds by becoming verbally abusive or degrading, he is likely a power assertive rapist and you will have to evaluate whether you are capable of fighting him off. Rapist Profiles Anger-excitation rapist: A sadist, who derives sexual gratification from inflicting pain. He is typically charming and intelligent. The crime is premeditated and rehearsed methodically in his mind before it is attempted. His victims may or may not be strangers. He will tie, gag and blindfold them and torture them over a period of days, even recording his crimes in a diary, taking photographs or videotaping them. Just five percent of rapists fit this description. Of the four types he is the most criminally sophisticated and it's difficult to catch him. He's got absolute control over you so there's no question of any type of resistance or of escaping. Oftentimes he kills his victims, either to get rid of a witness or to gratify a psychosexual need." This is probably the most dangerous situation a woman can be in. If you're tied up, you're going to have to match wits with this guy and trick him or talk him into untying you so you have at least some chance of escape. Rapists Most rapists are not murderers. It is less likely that a woman - even one who has taken a women's selfdefense course -- can overcome the intensity of the violence that an anger rapist will inflict. But power rapists commit nearly two-thirds of all rapes, and you have a fighting chance to fend them off. If you assess the situation and feel confident of your ability to fight or talk your way out of [being raped], go ahead and do it. "Women need to rely on their instincts. When confronted with a rapist they will try various techniques. In this situation, take full advantage of your instincts in trying to figure out which type of rapist you are dealing with". What You Should Do: There are women who have yelled or fought back, whether they've taken self-defense classes or not, and have not gotten raped. To tell a woman 'don't do anything, be the passive female' is absolute (nonsense)." Given that the goal of all women who are in imminent danger of being raped is to avoid it, they should rely on their instincts rather than assume that they have to submit. But whatever her instincts tell her to do, If a woman survives, she made the right choice. Tips to Avoid Date Rape STEP 1: Realize that date rape typically occurs when the couple is alone. Go out in a group with new dates. STEP 2: Avoid drinking or doing drugs, which could affect your judgment and make it easier for someone to take advantage of you. STEP 3: Be aware of your date intruding on your personal space. This is a sign that he may not respect your boundaries. STEP 4: Be clear with the signals you send out so a man doesn't have to guess what you mean. Speak up if you feel things are getting out of hand. STEP 5: Set sexual limits. It's OK to stop sexual activity when you've had enough. Tips to Avoid Date Rape STEP 6: Examine unconscious messages you may be sending out that could be putting you at risk. For instance, consider the way you dress, walk, gesture and talk. STEP 7: Pay your own way to retain your independence and avoid a man feeling you "owe him something" in return for your meal. STEP 8: Trust your instincts. If you feel uncomfortable, remove yourself from the situation immediately, even if you think you're being rude. STEP 9: Always carry taxi fare so you can get yourself home if you need to. STEP 10: Avoid going to a man's home or inviting him to yours until you know him very well. Tips & Warnings Remember that there is no excuse for rape. Try to be aware and minimize your risks as much as you can. Laurie Halse Anderson 1961-present She married Gregory H. Anderson June 19, 1983, and the couple has two daughters. Anderson’s most noted work is Speak, a book she wrote for teenage readers. The book tells the story of Melinda, a high school freshman. Melinda is an outcast at her school and is sexually assaulted by a senior at a party. The book documents Melinda’s reactions to the assault and her feelings of isolation and rejection from those who surround her. Anderson had the idea to write Speak after awaking from a nightmare in which she heard a young girl screaming for help. As Anderson wrote Speak she found it hard to remember that Melinda was merely a character in the book and not a real person. Anderson rewrote the ending of Speak three times before she was satisfied with the story. Anderson also wrote Fever 1793, which is the story of a teenage girl’s life during a yellow fever breakout. She has also published numerous books as part of the “Wild at Heart” series. Anderson currently resides in Maple Glen, Pennsylvania.