Emanu-El in the Neighborhood Training Manual - 2013 Two Lake Street San Francisco, CA 94118 (415) 751-2535 www.emanuelsf.org Clergy Message Dear Neighborhood Liaisons, These are the deeds which yield fruit in the time to come: honoring parents, doing deeds of loving-kindness; attending the house of study punctually, morning and evening; providing hospitality; visiting the sick; helping the needy bride; attending the dead; probing the meaning of prayer; making peace between one person and another and between husband and wife. And the study of Torah is the most basic of all. - Talmud, Shabbat 127a We hope that our new initiative, Emanu-El in the Neighborhood, will help us create a kehilah kedoshah, a “sacred community”. The Talmud teaches us that only be being there for each other during times of joy and times of pain can we create a sacred community. In our hectic, fast-paced lives, it's common to feel overwhelmed, isolated and alone. The sense of belonging we feel when we make the time to take an active role in our communities can give us a deeper sense of meaning and purpose. Some of you may already have this built-in community but we are aware that many of you don’t. This initiative is only possible due to the tremendous contributions of Emanu-El’s Caring Community which for over a decade has being providing meals, letters and visits to those in need. Our goal is to strengthen our culture of being there for each other in order to reinforce connectedness among our members. Thank you for volunteering to be a Neighborhood Liaison. We are grateful for your commitment to Congregation Emanu-El and its continued growth. L’Shalom, Rabbi Stephen S. Pearce, Senior Rabbi Rabbi Ryan T. Bauer Rabbi Carla Fenves Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe Rabbi Sydney B. Mintz Cantor Roslyn Barak Music Soloist Marsha Attie Welcome to Emanu-El in the Neighborhood! As a volunteer, you let every member you touch know they are part of a greater community, and their sorrow and/or joy touches all of us. Your acts might initially go unacknowledged, but they never go unnoticed and they are always appreciated. We are reminded of the power of faith that changes lives, the love of family that strengthens spirits, and the blessing of God’s forgiveness that allows us to repent of our sins and begin anew. Members participate in a wide array of worship, educational, and service opportunities, yet some may find it difficult to create an intimate connection with other congregants. Emanu-El in the Neighborhood addresses the challenge of building community by offering congregants the opportunity to meet, celebrate, and care for one another in neighborhoods, as well as at the Temple. Your actions enhance the services the Temple already provides. Our goal is to let our neighbors know they are not alone! The simple act of writing a condolence card, making a phone call, or cooking a meal is a privilege and a mitzvah. Please feel free to contact me with questions or new ideas. Sincerely, Sandy Sandy Rechtschaffen Community Engagement Director Congregation Emanu-El Two Lake Street San Francisco, CA 94118 (415) 751-2541 x 177 (415) 751-2511 Fax sandyr@emanuelsf.org Emanu-El in the Neighborhood Training Manual Table of Contents ~ How We Started ~ The Roles of the Neighborhood Liaison ~ How a Request Gets to a Liaison ~ Ritual Observance Support and Resources ~ Need to Know ~ Email and Phone Templates ~ Meal Train Program ~ Sample Invitations ~ Neighborhood Liaisons’ Contact Information ~ Neighborhood Liaisons’ Bios ~ How We Started We are grateful to Rabbi Ryan Bauer, whose passion for community building has highlighted the need to strengthen congregant-to-congregant relationships. Emanu-El in the Neighborhood is an enhancement of the wonderful and innovative work of the Caring Community, which has enhanced our congregation over the past decade. Based on information gathered from the more than 500 congregants engaged in house and one-to-one meetings, isolation, loneliness, and disconnectedness were identified as a common thread. Through the Board’s strategic planning process, some long-term goals were identified to engage our members in social and caring connections, congregant‐to‐congregant, building community, reaching out with acts of loving kindness (g’milut hasadim), and responding to the call for social action and social justice, tikkun olam (healing of a broken world). Two of these goals are: Providing opportunities for congregants to meet/talk/eat face‐to‐face, and to build relationships among themselves. Empowering congregants to organize community‐based activities that create and sustain congregant‐to‐congregant social relationships and caring relationships. Community involves learning to live in terms of an interconnected "we" more than an isolated "I”. As we invest in one another and accept responsibility for creating the community we want, our lives will be enriched. We believe that Emanu-El in the Neighborhood will offer our congregants the structure and forum to create this sense of belonging and interdependence. 1 ~ The Role of the Neighborhood Liaisons Neighborhood Liaisons are the cornerstones of our Emanu-El in the Neighborhood program, and are trained to communicate with members in their zip codes, connecting congregants to one another and to the synagogue. Communication will be through a combination of email, snail mail, and phone calls. Specific responsibilities are: Contacting congregants to cook and deliver meals for those in need by using www.mealtrain.com; Contacting congregants to attend a neighbor’s shiva; and Contacting congregants to host and celebrate Jewish holidays and Shabbat, such as hosting a neighborhood Break the Fast. Emailing monthly neighborhood newsletter Emailing welcome letter to new members 2 Emanu-El in the Neighborhood responsibilities are: Deaths Contact with the mourner by Neighborhood Liaison (NL) Set up Mealtrain if desired and email neighborhood Contact neighbors to attend shiva if needed Illness/accident/surgery Contact with the patient by Neighborhood Liaison (NL) Set up Mealtrain if desired and email neighborhood Visit if desired New babies Contact with the new parent by Neighborhood Liaison (NL) Set up Mealtrain if desired and email neighborhood Visit if desired Shabbat and holiday celebrations, including Havdalah in the Neighborhood Contact neighbors to solicit hosts Provide host with contact list, sample invitation and Evite instructions or create the Evite yourself (whichever the host prefers) Facilitate congregant-to-congregant engagement through publicizing neighborhood events 3 ~ How a Request Reaches Neighborhood Liaisons Each Neighborhood Liaison will receive the contact information of all congregants in the assigned zip codes with monthly additions and deletions 1. Neighborhoods with two or more liaisons need to decide how the responsibilities will be divided. 2. Ruth Pepper, Membership Department Administrative Assistant, will email Liaison(s) each Friday a list of births, deaths, or illnesses, in the form of Care Calls, which have occurred in their assigned zip code(s). The Care Call provides each NL with all the necessary information to then reach out to the congregant. Ruth may be reached at rpepper@emanuelsf.org or (415) 751-2541 x 170. 3. Please send Sandy Rechtschaffen, at sandyr@emanuelsf.org, a copy of any communications you send so the Temple can print and mail them to those congregants who do not have email access. ~ Need to Know Confidentiality Your name and your bio are posted on our website at www.emanuelsf.org/ein Your contact information is also posted. This can be changed if you wish. All emails should be BCC’d Sending emails When an email bounces back to you, please call the congregant to get an updated email address and then email the update to Database Administrator Irina Leinova, ileinova@emanuelsf.org or (415) 7512541 x129. All emails should be BCC’d Please include, “Let us know if you wish to be removed from this list” on all emails. If a congregant asks not to be contacted in the future, please keep track of this on a separate spreadsheet, as our midyear update will again include the congregant. 4 When confirming a host for a neighborhood celebration, please inquire whether there is a pet, as many congregants may be allergic. Having a pet should not preclude someone from hosting an event, but invitations sent should explicitly let congregants know about a pet. (Sample invitations for celebrations are at the end of this manual. Please share these samples with each confirmed host). When confirming a host for a neighborhood celebration, please inquire whether children are welcome. Congregants’ expectations This year of Emanu-El in the Neighborhood, we would like each group to try to schedule o Break Fast o Havdalah: see the schedule on page 16. This is a firm date because clergy are involved. o Hanukkah o Shabbat You have the freedom to use this manual as a guide to add more programs. You may want to judge the receptiveness of congregants in your area before experimenting/expanding the prior outlined responsibilities. Please be aware, however, that congregants from different areas will compare experiences. If some have the opportunity to celebrate holidays together and others don’t, there may be hard feelings. You also have the freedom to survey your neighbors to determine their needs and willingness to participate. Sample questions Are you interested in our neighborhood coordinating…? What kinds of neighborhood coordination would you like to participate in? Are you interested in carpooling to Emanu-El classes, services, Youth Education….? Can we count on you to help out when meals are needed in times of illness, bereavement, etc.? Example Email: Greetings neighbors, Laura and I are excited to officially be your Emanu-El neighborhood co-liaisons and we look forward to meeting each of you throughout the year. Our "neighborhood" includes Hayes Valley, SOMA, Potrero Hill and the Financial District. Our goals, as your 5 liaisons, are to provide opportunities for us to meet, talk, and build relationships with each other face-to-face. We hope this will connect congregants to know more people who live nearby. Our neighborhood is only as strong as we make it. With your help, we're hoping to host holiday get-togethers in our neighborhood and support each other in times of need and celebration. To start with celebrating, please save-the-date for a Hanukkah party: December 20, 2011. An evite with more details will be sent shortly. Please respond to this email and let us know the following: 1) Are you willing to host a holiday in your apartment/condo/house? If yes, how many people can you accommodate? (Don't worry, all activities are potluck so you won't be responsible for cooking!) 2) Are you willing to cook or pick-up and deliver a meal to a neighbor in need (ie. a neighbor who just had a baby, lost a relative, or who is ill)? 3) What type of neighborhood event would you most likely participate in or help organize? (This could include brunch, a happy hour, shabbat dinner - or perhaps one stop on a progressive shabbat dinner, etc.) 4) Are you excited to meet your Emanu-El neighbors? This program is new and we would love to hear feedback! Thanks again, Elisa and Laura PS: If you do not want to be on these mailings, please let us know and we'll remove you. 6 Your time commitment There will be weeks with multiple events—several births and deaths as well as slow periods. Not everyone contacted will need our services, and if the requests outnumber the volunteers, please ask Sandy R. for help. Please expect to put in 1–2 hours each week through emails and/or phone calls. Know your boundaries and limitations of what you can do. If you find yourself in an uncomfortable situation, please contact Sandy R. immediately. Our goal is to confirm 2 co-liaisons in each zip code grouping. Until we have reached our goal, please refer all questions you may have to Sandy R. If there are 2 liaisons in your zip code group, we recommend that 1 liaison is responsible for contacting congregants regarding celebrations and 1 liaison be responsible for contacting congregants regarding births, deaths and illnesses. If you have more than 2 liaisons, you may decide how to break down the work. There will be 2 NL meetings spread out throughout the year to discuss progress and ideas. Dates to be determined. ~ Email and Phone Templates Suggestions for Making Contact with a Congregant The very nature of care is spontaneous and personalized. However, sometimes it is difficult to know just the right thing to say or the most appropriate way to offer help. Here are some guidelines in case you are unsure. Let the person know you represent Emanu-El in the Neighborhood. In most cases, you can end your email by letting them know you will be following up to offer a Mealtrain. Sample Emails For those who are ill Dear ____, I am writing on behalf of our synagogue's "Emanu-El in the Neighborhood " program. I understand that you (or family member) have been ill/or just had surgery. I hope you’re feeling better and I would love to check in to see if offering you a 7 week of meals during recovery would be helpful. I will give you a call in a couple of days, or please feel free to call me at ______. Subject line: Emanu-El in the Neighborhood would like to help you Dear Erica, I am writing on behalf of our synagogue's "Emanu-El in the Neighborhood Marina" program. I understand that your mother is now in hospice and you are traveling back and forth to Ohio. The Marina Neighborhood would like to extend our thoughts to you during this difficult period. Please know that we are thinking of you. I would love to check in to see if offering you a week of meals during this time would be helpful. I will give you a call in a couple of days or please call me at XXXXX Bereaved Dear ____, I am writing on behalf of our synagogue's "Emanu-El in the Neighborhood " program. I understand that you have just experienced the loss of _________. Our Neighborhood extends its condolences during this time of loss. Please know that we are thinking of you and send our hopes that you will find solace and comfort during this time. I would love to check in to see if offering you a week of meals during your time of mourning would be helpful. I will give you a call in a couple of days. Another care email example: Subject line: Sorry for your loss Dear Nicole, I am writing on behalf of our synagogue's "Emanu-El in the Neighborhood" program. I understand that you have just experienced the loss of your mother, Colette. Our Neighborhood extends its condolences during this time of loss. Please know that we are thinking of you and send our hopes that you will find solace and comfort during this time. Please let me know if a week of meals during your time of mourning would be helpful. I will call you in a couple days to check in with you or please feel free to email or call me. Warm regards, Anna 8 New Baby- subject line: Mazel tov from the Neighborhood! Dear ____, I am writing on behalf of our synagogue's "Emanu-El in the Neighborhood " program. I understand that you just had a baby and our neighborhood extends a huge mazel tov during this happy time. Please know that we are thinking of you and I would love to check in with you to see if we can offer you a week of meals to make your life easier. I will give you a call in a couple of days. Telephone Calls Take a moment before the call and think about the situation. If you get an answering machine, it is okay to leave a message. Be natural. Imagine how your voice and your message can be soothing to the person on the other end. Say your name and that you are calling on behalf of Emanu-El in the Neighborhood. Say you will try again in a couple of days. Leave your phone number, but make it clear that s/he should not feel pressured to return your call. If the congregant answers, say, in just a few sentences, that you are calling as part of Emanu-El in the Neighborhood and that we are interested in how the congregant is doing. Sense if it is appropriate to offer a Mealtrain. Listen and respond in a warm and natural way. If there is a request for something that seems beyond the scope of Emanu-El in the Neighborhood, let the person know you will check into it and get back to them in a day or so. Please contact Sandy R. for clarification. Example phone call: Hi _______, My name is _______________ and I am the Neighborhood Liaison for Congregation Emanu-El in your zip code. Do you have a minute? 9 First I wanted to offer our condolences/congratulations on _________________. How are you doing? One of the ways Emanu-El in the Neighborhood works is to help support our neighbors during just these occasions. Would you find meals cooked and delivered to your home by fellow congregants something that would help you during this period? If recipient says “yes” please follow directions on how to set up a Mealtrain. If congregant says “no”, please ask them to reconsider. Further declines may be followed up with your name and phone number in case they change their mind. Phone calls should be followed up with an email confirming what has been discussed and what has been agreed upon going forward. 10 ~ Mealtrain Program How to Create a Calendar for Food Delivery Once the Neighborhood Liaison has spoken with the congregant in need and determined that they would like to receive food (we will begin with one week of food service), the NL asks about the following: Dietary restrictions, if any Food likes and dislikes Delivery window and where food should be left (ring doorbell, leave in cooler on front porch, etc.) Create a Meal Calendar for: Arrival of a new baby Injuries/Surgeries Extended illnesses Welcoming a new neighbor Military deployment Death of a family member 1. Visit: www.mealtrain.com 2. Click on “Start a new Mealtrain 3. Enter the recipient of this Mealtrain 4. Enter the address where meals are to be dropped off 5. Select dates 6. Enter recipient preferences Invite congregants in that zip code to sign-up through email. NL must regularly check this Mealtrain to see that slots are being filled! If slots are not filled, a reminder email may be sent through Mealtrain to your neighbors. NL must also include Alicia Sullivan on ALL Mealtrains created! asullivan55@sbcglobal.net. Mealtrains must be canceled by the NL, and neighbors notified by email if congregant dies. Example Mealtrain email: Emanu-El in the Neighborhood invites you to join the meal train for (CONGREGANT NAME). CONGREGANT will be recovering from XXXX and we encourage you to help your neighbor by selecting a date and cooking one extra portion when preparing your regular dinner. What is a Mealtrain? A Mealtrain is the coordinated effort to support a friend through meals. 11 It is our suggestion that congregants cooking and delivering a meal do not use containers that they need back, which eliminates the burden for the recipient to manage what belongs to whom. There is a wonderful explanation of a Mealtrain posted on our website at http://www.emanuelsf.org/EIN 12 Principles to Help the Volunteer You have an obligation to carry out your action(s) with confidentiality and kindness. Your contact represents Congregation Emanu-El. Health and safety—yours and the congregant’s—are the highest priority. If either of you is ill or contagious, don’t visit. Be mindful of the help that we can realistically offer. In most cases, simply your presence or your voice is an enormous comfort. Be yourself. Learn as you go along, both what you do well and what you may want to do better. The prepared comment can sometimes sound insincere. Whenever possible, use your own words of care and concern. If you receive a request beyond your comfort level or the scope of your training/responsibilities, contact Sandy Rechtschaffen for guidance sandyr@emanuelsf.org People under stress may not want our services at the time of contact. Do not feel rebuffed or hurt. This is a new initiative. We will stumble and there will be room for improvement. It will be helpful to share your neighbor’s feedback, as well as your own, with the Temple and other NLs so that we can adjust as needed. 13 EIN Jewish Celebrations: Break Fast Havdalah Havdalah schedule is on page 16. Dates are firm because clergy are involved. Hanukkah Shabbat Items to send to confirmed hosts: Sample invitation Neighborhood email list columns “C” and “H”(and please remind the host to send invitations using the “Bcc” line) Evite directions Host Event Evaluation Form Sample email to host: Dear XXXXX, Thank you so much for offering to invite and host our XXXXX neighborhood for the celebration of XXXXXX on DATE! I am attaching a sample invitation for you to use to ensure you remember to include all pertinent information. Please send out this invitation by XXXXX (1 month prior to event). Please email (or include in the invite) Sandy Rechtschaffen at sandyr@emanuelsf.org, so she can print and mail your invitation to those congregants without email. Please keep me apprised, as the Neighborhood Liaison, if response rate seems too low or too high as you track RSVPs. Please email Sandy R. the list of names of attendees after event. Feel free to call me with any questions you may have. Sincerely, XXXXXXXXX 14 ~ Directions for creating an Evite: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. 11. Go to Evite.com Click on “Create an Invitation” Scroll down to select the invitation you wish from the choices by clicking on it. Enter details for the event: Event Title: “Emanu-El in the Neighborhood Break the Fast” or “Havdalah” or “Hanukkah Party” or “Passover Seder” Event Type: Religious Host Phone Address, City When: Date and Time Your message to guests will appear below your invitation design. a. See samples beginning on page 14. Click “preview” invitation to see if you like the way it looks. Click “Save Draft” on bottom left. Send the draft Evite to yourself and Sandy R. (sandyr@emanuelsf.org) by adding your email address and hers, and clicking on “finish and send”. This is to ensure that you like the way it looks. Click “next step” and copy and paste email addresses into left-hand box and then click on “Add to Guest-List”. For neighborhoods with too many email addresses, you must copy and paste in chunks for the Evite to accept all recipients. Click on Next Step. Reply Options—please check the following Notify me when guests RSVP Notify me when guests comment Consider option to hide guest list Evite automatically sends reminder emails two days before your event to any of your guests who have replied yes or maybe as well as those who haven't replied. If you'd like to send additional reminders to your guests, you can use the Send a Message feature on your invitation. When you send your guests a message, the email will include a link to your invitation. Set the maximum number of guests who can attend (please make this larger than what you can accommodate as some will RSVP “yes” and then cancel). Allow guests to indicate number of kids attending Note: If you are more comfortable using another email invitation program, please feel free to do so. 15 Havdalah Schedule 2012-2013 October 20 Group 16 October 20, 2012 Rabbi Bauer So. Marin Mill Valley Group 14 Sausalito 94102, October 20, 2012 Cantor Barak SOMA 94103, Potrero 94104, Group 15 94107, 94158 October 27, 2012 October 27, 2012 November 3, 2012 November 3, 2012 January 12, 2012 January 26, 2013 March 2, 2012 Rabbi Fenves Rabbi Pearce Rabbi Jaffe Rabbi Fenves Rabbi Bauer Rabbi Pearce Rabbi Fenves April 13, 2013 Rabbi Mintz April 20, 2013 Rabbi Jaffe Mission/Bernal Group 1 94110 94134 94124 Castro/Noe Valley 94114 Group 3 NOPA Group 5 94117 Marina Group 9Pacific Heights Group 4 Outer Richmond Group 7 Nob/Russian Hill Groups 2 & 12 Sunset/SW Groups 8, 10, & 11 Inner Richmond Group 6 16 94123 94115 94121 94108, 94133, 94109 94122, 94131 plus more 94118 94129 Rabbi Fenves CONGREGATION EMANU-EL CARING COMMUNITY Care Call and Neighbor Liaison REPORT FORM Date: 2/27/12 Congregant’s Name: Suzanne Dowling Address: 1779 Alabama St., SF, CA 94110 Name/age of family members: husband: Frank Email: sbattat@yahool.com Involved Rabbi: Reason for call: Illness Death ILLNESS Name of ill person: What relationship is ill person to member? Reason for illness call: Comments: Age: 46 Phone: 643-9608 Birth Homebound Age: DEATH Name of deceased: Erna Wertheim What relationship is deceased to member? grandmother Comments: Age: 105 Date of death: 2/25/12 BIRTH Name of baby: Comments: Date of birth: HOMEBOUND Name of homebound: What relationship is homebound to member? Comments: REFERRAL INFORMATION Referred to: Date of Rerferral: 17 Age: Sample of a Monthly Newsletter to be sent to your Neighborhood: February 2013 Emanu-El in the Neighborhood Newsletter Welcome to our Newest Members: Eliza Nemser and Matthew Quan, Cole Street, San Francisco Condolences to our Neighbors on the Following Deaths: Miriam Meyerowitz – died 7/24/12, mother of Robin Meyerowitz, Ashbury Street, San Francisco If you wish to reach out to your one of your Neighbors, contact your Neighborhood Liaisons, Patrece Bryan at patrecebryan@yahoo.com and Bonnie Miluso at bonniemiluso@gmail.com Emanu-El in the Neighborhood Invites You to Celebrate Havdalah Group #1: Havdalah Saturday, February 9, 6:30-8:00 pm with Rabbi Carla Fenves Hosted by: Patrece Bryan and Bonnie Miluso 45 Massasoit Street 94110 Space is limited! Please RSVP to: patrecebryan@yahoo.com no later than February 5! THE HAVDALAH (literally, “separation”) ceremony is observed at the end of Shabbat (on Saturday night, when three stars are visible in the sky), in order to mark the distinction between the departing sacred day and the coming ordinary weekday. Join us in the mitzvah of observing Havdalah and thanking God for separating the days and making our Shabbat sacred. Please bring a dish to share: Last names beginning with: A-E cheese, vegetables, nuts, olives F- J appetizers K-M fruit N-S dessert T-Z refreshments, including wine *No pork or shellfish please. Vegetarian dishes encouraged. *Feel free to contact us with suggestions or preferred alternative SOMAnu-El Shabbat Family Worship Friday February 22 @ 6:00 pm - Bernal Heights Neighborhood Center PASSOVER IS EARLY THIS YEAR! 18 MONDAY, MARCH 25 & 26 Emanu-El in the Neighborhood Seder Matching What are your plans for Passover? Have a space? Need a space? Contact your Neighborhood Liaisons to host or be hosted. Thinking about hosting a Seder but not sure how? Passover in Two Hours: the Message and the Culinary Sunday, March 10, 9:30 – 11:30 am Guild Hall A rabbi and a chef walk into Guild Hall—what happens? You get two hours of a fast paced and super informative participatory workshop on the all basics of Passover. The HOW TOs: How to know what is kosher for Passover How to arrange the Seder plate How to cook special Passover dishes How to understand the message of Passover How to participate in a Seder How to conduct a Seder with ease Whether you are conducting, cooking, or attending, you will be ready! You will leave with a CD of Passover music by Cantor Roslyn Barak. Leaders: Rabbi Ryan Bauer and chef extraordinaire Rebecca Ets-Hokin No charge; individual and family congregants welcome Passover culinary samples and coffee will be served Please contact Terry Kraus with any questions: tkraus@emanuelsf.org or (415) 750-7552 Register by March 6 Beginning March 5 (six sessions): Caring For Your Aging Loved One – Who Knew? Instructions Not Included. Are you involved with aging or ill parents or loved ones? Are you unsure if the changes you’re observing are “signs”, and if so, of what? Do you worry you have what it takes to be supportive through one of life’s greatest challenges? Do you often feel isolated and alone? For more information, click here Register online at: www.emanuelsf.org/register Questions? Contact Ruth Pepper at rpepper@emanuelsf.org or (415) 751-2541 x 170 19 New Member Welcome Email Dear XXX, Welcome to our Neighborhood! As a new member of Congregation Emanu-El, we would like to welcome you to our Temple family and to our community. We look forward to meeting you and connecting at neighborhood celebrations, such as Shabbat and Holiday dinners, to name a few. Please visit https://www.emanuelsf.org/eingroups to see how we broke down the Bay Area into neighborhood groups as well as the dates for our upcoming events. Please consider hosting an event, as it’s a great way to meet your fellow Emanu-El neighbors and build community. All events are potluck and attendance can be capped at your comfort level. You also may click on the names of your Neighborhood Liaisons, which will bring you to their bios and contact information. Please feel free to reach out to us at any time for help or support, if needed. As fellow neighbors and congregants, we are here for you and your family in times of joy and sorrow. Best, NLs signatures 20 Emanu-El in the Neighborhood Invites You! To ensure that all members feel a sense of community, Emanu-El congregants are opening their homes to break the fast together. Please join us! WHO: Our Emanu-El Neighbors WHAT: Emanu-El Neighborhood Shabbat potluck to celebrate with others the sweetness of life and the New Year. Congregants are asked to select at least one item from the following list that will serve a minimum of 6 adults. Last names beginning with: A-E F- J K-M N-S T-Z cheese, vegetables, appetizers, smoked fish bagels, assorted cream cheese, noodle kugel, lox, assorted spreads chicken, lasagna, brisket, pasta salad, quiche cake, cookies, rugelach, fresh fruit, blintzes refreshments, including wine *No pork or shellfish please. Vegetarian dishes encouraged. *Feel free to contact host (hostess) with suggestions or preferred alternative WHERE: (neighborhood and host(s) name(s) and address (cross street) and parking details) WHEN: Wednesday, September 26 at 6:30 pm (If applicable, the start time should always be after a service). Space is limited! RSVP by Thursday, October 6th (your email and phone number) Children of all ages are welcome. Please note that this household has a (cat) (dog). 21 Emanu-El in the Neighborhood Invites You! Shabbat is the most important ritual observance in Judaism. It is the only ritual observance instituted in the Ten Commandments. Shabbat is primarily a day of rest and spiritual enrichment. The word "Shabbat" comes from the root Shin-Beit-Tav, meaning to cease, to end, or to rest. Shabbat involves two interrelated commandments: to remember (zakhor) Shabbat, and to observe (shamor) Shabbat. WHO: Our Emanu-El Neighbors WHAT: Emanu-El Neighborhood Shabbat potluck to celebrate with others the day of rest. Congregants are asked to select at least one item from the following list that will serve a minimum of 6 adults. Last names beginning with: A-E F- J K-M N-S T-Z cheese, vegetables, appetizers salads chicken, lasagna, brisket, pasta salad, quiche cake, cookies, fresh fruit refreshments, including wine *No pork or shellfish please. Vegetarian dishes encouraged. *Feel free to contact host (hostess) with suggestions or preferred alternative WHERE: Jennifer Moses and Ron Beller, 2090 Vallejo Street WHEN: Friday, February 3, 6:30 pm Space is limited! RSVP by XXXXXXX jennifer@rbjm.net or (415) 346-2171 Children of all ages are welcome. Please note that this household has a (cat) (dog). 22 Emanu-El in the Neighborhood Invites You to Celebrate Havdalah THE HAVDALAH (literally, “separation”) ceremony is observed at the end of Shabbat (on Saturday night, when three stars are visible in the sky), in order to mark the distinction between the departing sacred day and the coming ordinary weekday. Join us in the mitzvah of observing Havdalah and thanking God for separating the days and making our Shabbat sacred. WHO: Our Emanu-El Neighbors WHAT: Emanu-El in the Neighborhood ushers in the new week at the close of Shabbat. Congregants are asked to select at least one item from the following list that will serve a minimum of 6 adults. Last names beginning with: A-E F- J K-M N-S T-Z cheese, vegetables, nuts, olives appetizers fruit dessert refreshments, including wine *No pork or shellfish please. Vegetarian dishes encouraged. *Feel free to contact host (hostess) with suggestions or preferred alternative WHERE: (neighborhood and host(s) name(s) and address (cross street) and parking details) WHEN: Saturday, Month Day, 6:30 pm (If applicable, the start time should always be after a service) Space is limited! RSVP by Day of week, month, date (your email and phone number) Children of all ages are welcome. Please note that this household has a (cat) (dog) 23 Emanu-El in the Neighborhood Invites You to Celebrate Hanukkah Hanukkah means “dedication”. Help us kindle the lights as we commemorate the rededication of the Holy Temple. Hanukkah starts on the 25th of the Jewish month of Kislev- December 20, 2011 WHO: Our Emanu-El Neighbors WHAT: Emanu-El in the Neighborhood celebrates the Festival of Lights. Congregants are asked to select at least one item from the following list that will serve a minimum of 6 adults. Last names beginning with: A-E F- J K-M N-S T-Z potato pancakes - latkes appetizers – cheese and crackers fruit jelly-filled doughnuts –sufganiyot or blintzes refreshments, including wine *No pork or shellfish please. Vegetarian dishes encouraged. *Feel free to contact host (hostess) with suggestions or preferred alternative WHERE: (neighborhood and host(s) name(s) and address (cross street) and parking details) WHEN: Saturday, December 24, 6:30 pm (If applicable, the start time should always be after a service) Space is limited! RSVP by Saturday, December 17 (your email and phone number) Children of all ages are welcome. PLEASE BRING A HANUKKIAH AND CANDLES! Please note that this household has a (cat) (dog) 24 Emanu-El in the Neighborhood Event Evaluation Form: 1. What was the best part about being a host? 2. What was the most difficult part about hostingt? If food was involved: 3. How did the potluck assignment process work out? Did you have enough food and enough variety? 4. What comments can you share from attendees? 5. What would you do differently leading up to a hosted event? 6. Any recommendations for improvement welcome Host Name(s): Number of Actual Attendees: 25 Contact List of Neighborhood Liaisons: Hightlighting indicates still looking for the first or second liaison—please suggest names Group 1 Mission/Bernal Heights, Visitacion Valley, Bayview 94110, 94134, 94124 Neighborhood Liaison(s): Patrece Bryan and Bonnie Miluso Group 2 Nob Hill 94109 Neighborhood Liaison(s): Aliza Sinkinson Faraz Shooshani and Diane Sharp Caren Alpert Group 3 Castro, Noe Valley 94114 Neighborhood Liaison(s): Misha Weidman Silvia Cheskes Leora Fulvio Group 4 Pacific Heights 94115 Neighborhood Liaison(s): Barbara Cohrssen Powell Sara Ehrlich Group 5 Cole Valley, NoPa 94117 Neighborhood Liaison(s): Liz Winograd Ilana Minkoff Group 6 Inner Richmond, Jordan Park, Laurel Heights, Presidio, Presidio Heights 94118, 94129 Neighborhood Liaison(s): Eleanor Coffman Peggy Sugar Dale Rogers Group 7 26 Outer Richmond 94121 Neighborhood Liaison(s): Jean Levinson Alicia Sullivan Group 8 Inner Sunset 94122 Neighborhood Liaison(s): Michael Edelstein and Rachel Styne Lindesy Moses and David Sikes Group 9 Marina/Cow Hollow 94123 Neighborhood Liaison(s): Jorun and Harmon Shragge Nancy Alpert Group 10 West Portal, St. Francis Wood, Ingleside, Twin Peaks, Glen Park 94127, 94112, 94131 Neighborhood Liaison(s): Tristan Seifer Nancy Levine Group 11 Outer Sunset, Lake Merced 94116, 94132 Neighborhood Liaison(s): Venessa Garner and Michael Kobrin Looking for second liaison Group 12 North Beach, Embarcadero, Chinatown, South Embarcadero 94133, 94111, 94108, 94105 Neighborhood Liaison(s): Julia Vetromile Looking for second liaison 27 Group 13 Peninsula Neighborhood Liaison(s): Looking for liaison Group 14 Mill Valley 94941 Sausalito 94965 Neighborhood Liaison(s): David and Arianna Orleans Group 15 Hayes Valley, SoMa, Potrero Hill, Financial District 94102, 94103, 94104, 94107 Neighborhood Liaison(s): Laura Saunders Elisa Haidt Marty Schneider Group 16 East Bay Neighborhood Liaison(s): Donna Craft Looking second liaison Group 17 Northern Marin Kentfield Greenbrae Larkspur Cortre Madera San Rafael Novato Ross San Anselmo 94904 94904 94939 94925 94901 94949 94957 94960 Neighborhood Liaison(s): Carol Ross Jennifer Zukerkorn 28 Temple Staff Contact List Sandy Rechtschaffen sandyr@emanuelsf.org Community Engagement Director (415) 751-2541 x 177 Irina Leinova Database Administrator ileinova@emanuelsf.org (415) 751-2541 x 129 Ruth Pepper rpepper@emanuelsf.org Community Engagement Admin. Asst. (415) 751-2541 x 170 Terry Kraus tkraus@emanuelsf.org Director of Membership Services (415) 751-2541 x 111 Rabbi Ryan Bauer (415) 751-2541 x 180 rbauer@emanuelsf.org 29 Neighborhood Liaison Bios Group 1 Mission/Bernal Heights, Visitacion Valley, Bayview 94110, 94134, 94124 Bonnie Miluso, Bonnie Miluso grew up in Napa and made her way back to the Bay Area in 2008 after spending law school in DC. Bonnie is a litigation attorney at Grotefeld, Hoffmann, Schleiter, Gordon & Ochoa. She is also a long time LGBT activist and currently serves as a member of San Francisco's Human Rights Commission's LGBT Advisory Committee. She loves living in Bernal Heights with her partner, Patrece, and their three dogs, Boise Giuseppe, Rufus and Tuch. In her free time Bonnie enjoys volunteering for the SPCA's Animal Assisted Therapy Program with her schnoodle, Boise, visiting patients at the VA hospital and senior citizen homes throughout SF. Patrece Bryan, A military brat, Patrece spent her childhood moving every 3 years. This early exposure to the world still greatly influences Patrece's worldview. She graduated from Amherst College and spent the early years of her career working at prestigious advertising agency, Leo Burnett, in its' Account Management training program. Prior to starting her own consulting business, Patrece was a Vice President of Business Development for user experience strategy, design and digital production consultancies. A recent convert to Judaism, Patrece completed her Mikvah on August 9th, after completing The Course and studying closely with Rabbi Bauer during the conversion program. 30 Group 2 Nob Hill 94109 Aliza Sinkinson grew up in the Bay Area and left to attend college at Indiana University. She then moved to Washington, DC where she worked for AIPAC. Aliza moved to San Francisco three years ago with her fiancé, Dave, and they have been members of Emanu-El since then. She works in government affairs for McKesson Corporation. Faraz Shooshani has been a member of Emanu-El with his partner, Diane, for a couple of years. He was born in Iran and grew up in Chicago after his family moved to the States. Faraz first came to the Bay Area to attend UC Berkeley, then moved to the East Coast, LA (where he and Diane met), and back to the Bay Area most recently about five years ago. He works in downtown San Francisco in finance / investments. Diane Sharp grew up in Omaha and came to San Francisco via Washington DC, Atlanta, and most recently, LA. She converted to Judaism two years ago after several years of study, first in LA and then at Emanu-El. Diane works for Stanford Management Company in Palo Alto. Caren Alpert has been a member of Congregation Emanu-El for five years and serves on the Art Committee with Michelle Ackerman for the past two. She is a San Francisco-based photographer whose work has appeared in Conde Nast Traveler, Departures, Real Simple, The New York Times, San Francisco Magazine, Martha Stewart Living and LUXE. She specializes in food, travel, and lifestyle topics, and teaches editorial photography at Academy of Art University in San Francisco. Caren started her career at Time Inc. as a photo editor working with titles such as Health and Money Magazines. In addition, she's worked as an editor and researcher for Vogue, George (JFK Jr.'s political magazine), and for Miramax Films. For the past 2 years, she has been working on a fine art project where she shoots food using scientific microscopes. It combines Caren's love of food, technology and art. Born in New York, and raised in Tucson, Ariz., Caren earned a bachelor's of fine arts in photography and graphic design from the University of Arizona. When not shooting, enjoys cooking, traveling, snowboarding, hiking, and raising her pet rabbit, Moose. She looks forward to meeting her Emanu-El neighbors. 31 Group 3 Castro, Noe Valley and Eureka 94114 Silvia Cheskes was born and raised in Mexico City and did high school in Houston (although she hasn’t lived there in over 20 years.) After a couple of stints in other cities (Austin, Ann Arbor, Cincinnati) she moved to San Francisco and has loved every minute of it. Her husband is from St. Louis, but also calls SF home, and their daughter Daniela, 20 months old, is a native San Franciscan. They have really enjoyed being members of Temple Emanu-El, especially when they get to meet so many great people! Misha Weidman was born and raised in Sydney, Australia. He has lived in San Francisco for (gulp!) nearly 30 years. Now a broker-associate at Paragon Real Estate Group, Misha began his professional life as a real estate attorney and accidentally cofounded a small chain of gourmet chili bars along the way. His wife, Nina, originally hails from Princeton, New Jersey. She is a research scientist in the field of technology and internet privacy. Their twins, Maya and Adam, are recent B'nei Mitzvah of the Temple. After having “synagogueshopped” over the last five years or so, they feel they have finally found in Temple Emanu-El the vibrant, open community they were looking for. Leora Fulvio, Leora is a New York City native who has been in San Francisco since the first dot com boom. She was planning on moving back East upon finishing graduate school at CIIS but her plans were foiled when she fell in love and married her husband Matthew. She is currently in private practice in Noe Valley as a Marriage & Family Therapist and Matt works downtown as an architect. In the Fall of 2011, they welcomed a baby boy into the world. Though they love San Francisco, they felt the void of not having a community of family close by. They decided to join Emanu-El because they wanted to feel a sense of family to share the joys (and not so joyous times) of life with. Group 4 Pacific Heights 94115 Sara Ehrlich grew up in New York City and moved to San Francisco with her husband, Chris, eleven years ago for his dream job. She thought that they would be here for just two years but grew to love San Francisco as if they were natives. She and Chris have a daughter, Charlotte, who is eight years old and enrolled in Hebrew school at the Temple and a son, Harrison, who is six weeks old. They joined the Temple last year when their daughter asked whether she could do 32 Communion with the other girls in her class at Convent Elementary School. They figured it was time to introduce her to her own religion. Barbara Cohrssen Powell has lived in San Francisco for over forty years and joined the Temple about eleven years ago after her husband died. She decided that she needed to connect. Since then, she has been semi-active in various Temple activities. Currently she is editing a multi-volume book, working out at the JCC, and trying to remember the Hebrew that she learned for her Bat Mitzvah. Group 5 Cole Valley, NoPa 94117 Liz Winograd: Upon graduating from college, Liz took a couple of months off before starting to work and decided to travel around the west coast. When she landed in San Francisco, she knew this is where she wanted to live for awhile, and twenty years later still calls San Francisco her home. She has lived in NOPA for fifteen years and joined Emanu-El ten years ago. Liz currently works for a national research, consulting, and legal organization dedicated to building economic health and opportunity in vulnerable communities. Her role as Director for the early care and education program is to help create systems that provide every child with access to high-quality, affordable early care and education. She is also the newest member of Emanu-El’s Local Organizing Committee. Ilana Minkoff has lived in Cole Valley for eleven years and has belonged to Emanu-El for most of them as part of the Young Adult Community initiative. She is a Realtor with Sotheby's International Realty and has a "little dog" dog walking business in Cole Valley, as well. Both parts of Ilana’s career allow her to do what she loves most, socializing and getting to know her neighbors (and their dogs). Ilana loves the small town feel of walking down the street and knowing everyone! She spends much of her free time doing volunteer work with Young Adult Cancer Survivors and the Breast Cancer Community through UCSF and Breast Cancer Emergency Fund. Ilana looks forward to getting to know more neighbors and sharing the good times and assisting during the bad. 33 Group 6 Inner Richmond, Jordan Park, Laurel Heights, Presidio, Presidio Heights 94118, 94129 Eleanor Coffman’s family has belonged to Emanu-El since 1925 when her grandparents joined at the time the present sanctuary was completed. She is a 4th-generation San Franciscan and grew up at Temple. Eleanor was a member of Cantor Barak's first Anshei Mitzvah class, as she wanted to finally learn to read Hebrew so she could help her son prepare for his bar mitzvah. Since 1988 Eleanor has taken many adult education classes. She is a member of the Museum Committee and has been Care Call Captain for the Caring Community for the past several years. Eleanor’s son David went all through Emanu-El religion school. He lives in Glen Park with his wife Heather, daughter Naomi, age 2 ½, and son Leo, age 13 months. David has been blowing the shofar at High Holiday services since he was about 10 years old so many of you may know or recognize him. Peggy Sugar - Peggy was born in New York, raised in Palo Alto and has lived almost all her adult life in San Francisco. She works as an internal consultant with the Medical Group of Kaiser Permanente at their Northern California headquarters in Oakland, and lives in Lone Mountain with her husband, Eric, and their 7 year-old son, Will, who attends Town School. Will is also currently enrolled in the Youth and Family Education program on Sundays at the Temple after 'graduating' from 4 years of Temple preschool. Peggy and Eric joined Temple Emanu-El shortly after Will was born seeking a Jewish community home and access to a vibrant youth education program. David Bass- Dave has been a member of Congregation Emanu-El since 2007 and lives in the inner Richmond with his family. David is originally from NY and has lived in San Francisco for the past 25 years. David has four children whose ages range from 8 to 14 years old. Group 7 Outer Richmond 94121 Jean Levinson and her husband Gershon have been members of Emanu-El for just four months and already feel that they have found their spiritual home. Jean is a retired nurse and Gerhson is an anesthesiologist. They have two sons, one 34 of whom is a bureau chief for the WSJ living in Jerusalem and the other a graduate student at Columbia. Alicia Sullivan and her husband, Michael Baumstein, came out to the Bay Area from New York City twelve years ago with their two children: Jennifer, now 25 and Daniel, almost 13. They joined the Temple six years ago. Alicia is a fundraising professional and is also the Chair of the Caring Community. Group 8 Inner Sunset 94122 Rachel Styne, her husband Michael Edelstein and their son, Cooper, have been members of Emanu-El for just over a year. Through various groups within Emanu-El such as a havurah and Building Blocks, they have found the community they craved to help make San Francisco their home. Michael was raised in New Jersey and Rachel, while born in San Francisco, was raised in Davis, CA. Together, they moved from New York City four years ago. Rachel is a trained opera singer and opened Sprout San Francisco with a close friend (and Emanu-El member) in 2009. Michael is a sales manager at Thomson Reuters in San Francisco and sits on the board of Bay Area America SCORES. Lindsey Moses Sikes & David Sikes—Lindsey is a third generation San Franciscan. She is a real estate broker working for KD Real Estate in the city. She loves helping her fellow San Franciscans pursue their desired lifestyle. Dave is a Los Angeles native (but San Franciscan by disposition), here by way of New York, Michigan, and Berkeley. He's an attorney, but happiest grilling something on a rare warm summer day. Lindsey and Davie met at an Emanu-el young adult event and were recently married in the Main Sanctuary. They are enjoying life in San Francisco as first time homeowners in their beautiful Inner Sunset home. Lindsey and Dave are excited to expand their Emanu-El community through acting as Neighborhood Liaisons. Group 9 Marina/Cow Hollow 94123 Jorun was born in Stockholm, Sweden and moved to San Francisco twenty years ago when she married Harmon Shragge. Her whole family is still in Sweden and they visit every summer. Harmon is a 2rd generation San Franciscan as well as a 2nd generation member of Temple Emanu-El where they were married. Harmon is also 2nd generation member of the Concordia Argonaut Club 35 where the whole family swims and works out and has dinners all the time. Jorun and Harman have three children, Ingrid (14), Ulrika (10) and Henrik (6). The children attend school in San Francisco and they are currently all enrolled in the Temple Emanu-El youth education. Ingrid had her Bat Mitzvah at temple EmanuEl last year and it was just wonderful! Nancy Alpert has been a member for about three years (about the time her now 10-year-old daughter started going to Sunday School!), though she had participated in Emanu-El's great programs before that. Nancy especially loves attending the Women's Retreats and highly recommends them. She also is a Book Buddy and volunteered with Jewish Coalition for Literacy for two years. Nancy grew up in Long Beach, came north for school, and was a social worker for the elderly for twenty years. She is now on hiatus and pursuing her interest in writing (travel essays, poetry, children's books, and her daughter's school newsletter.) Nancy misses her family, who are all in the southland, and hopes to connect more deeply with neighbors through this Temple initiative. Group 10 West Portal, St. Francis Wood, Ingleside, Twin Peaks, Glen Park 94127, 94112, 94131 Tristan Seifer and her husband Brian Aubry have been members of Emanu-El for over six years. Originally from Pennsylvania, Tristan took a circuitous route through many states before settling down in San Francisco in 1998. She is an editor and writer. Brian is a hydrogeologist and is a co-founder and partner at GeoLogica, Inc., an environmental consulting firm. Their two children, Madeline (10, 5th grade), and Evan (7, 2nd grade), attend Brandeis Hillel Day School. Nancy Levine has been a member of Emanu-El for five years and has lived in San Francisco for twenty. She is originally from Idaho. She works for Genentech in their central IT organization and her husband Rich works at Charles Schwab in San Francisco. Their two daughters are in the 4th and 6th grades at San Francisco School. They make the trek to Emanu-El three times a week for their various classes. Group 11 Outer Sunset, Lake Merced 94116, 94132 Michael Kobrin and Venessa Garner are both California natives who grew up in the Central Valley. Michael moved to San Francisco 6 years ago to finish his 36 BA degree in History and Jewish Studies at SFSU. He recently graduated from Hebrew Union College (DeLeT Fellow) and will begin his Education Administration MA at SFSU January 2012. Venessa moved to San Francisco 4 years ago and works for the Social Security Administration. She is also a member of the US Army Reserves. They will be married this December! They are excited to connect with the Emanu-El community in their neighborhood! Group 12 North Beach, Embarcadero, Chinatown, South Embarcadero 94133, 94111, 94108, 94105 Julia Vetromile was born in SF and grew up and went to school primarily in the Richmond district. Julia grew up Catholic and became a Jew by choice twenty years ago. She and her husband David Goldstein have been members of Emanu-El about six years. Previously they belonged to Beth Israel Judea. Julia loves the fabulous adult education at Emanu-El. They have two grown children, Elianna and Abraham, who both live on the East Coast. Julia and David have lived at the same address on Washington Street since 1977, where they moved after graduating from UC Berkeley. They raised both their kids here, and sent them to SF public schools. Julia is an engineer by profession, working in energy efficiency consulting. Group 15 Hayes Valley, SoMa, Potrero Hill, Financial District 94102, 94103, 94104, 94107, 94158 Elisa Haidt is a native Californian who, for the most part, grew up in Los Altos. After heading to the Midwest for college, spending a few years in NY, and then grad school in LA, she is happy to be back in the SF Bay Area. She has lived in SoMA (or “South Beach”) for over five years now and has been a member of Emanu-El for the same amount of time. Laura Saunders grew up in the suburbs of Chicago and after trying out many different cities, settled in San Francisco nine years ago. Laura is active in the Emanu El young adult community, and for the past four years, SoMA has been home. Marty Schneider Group 16 East Bay 37 Group 17 Northern Marin- Belvedere, Corte Madera, Greenbrae, Kentfield, Larkspur, Ross, San Anselmo, San Rafael, Tiburon Carol Ross has lived in San Rafael for 35 years and has been a member of Emanu-El for the past 5 years. Her eldest daughter, Amy, lives in SF and is also a member of the Congregation. She looks forward to meeting more of her fellow Marin congregants and is happy to become more involved in our Emanu-El community. Jennifer Zukerkorn 38