Inclusion:
Harmony & Conflict
Agenda
Outcome: USC7.4
Demonstrate a personalized and coherent understanding of the importance of nurturing harmony in
relationships (with self, others, and the environment), and apply effective strategies to re/establish
harmony when conflict arises.
• Express insights into what makes a relationship
harmonious.
• Create an informed personal definition of conflict.
(Fishbowl?)
• Analyze potential sources of conflict.
• Examine how disagreements are not the same as
conflicts.
• Conclude that a certain degree of disagreement in
relationships is normal.
• Propose why some disagreements lead to conflict and
some do not.
• Examine feelings associated with conflict.
• Analyze personal strategies for dealing with conflict (e.g.,
reduce/avoid barriers to communicating clearly and
constructively).
• Analyze the connections between self-esteem and
personal conflict management strategies.
• Assess the impact of conflict on the health (i.e.,
physical, mental, emotional, spiritual) of self and others.
• Reduce/avoid barriers to communicating clearly and
constructively.
• Demonstrate and adapt strategies of conflict
management in a range of contexts.
• Examine what is meant by negotiation, mediation,
anger management, compromise, consensus building,
and other means of resolving/managing conflict.
• Demonstrate the basics of two or three strategies for
re-establishing harmony and for resolving/managing
conflict.
Express ideas of what makes a relationship
harmonious.
Create a skit or a talk show
• Oprah
• Dr. Phil
• Jerry Springer
• Mystery Date
Create an personal definition of conflict.
• How are disagreements not the
same as conflicts?
• Why do some disagreements
lead to conflict and some do
not?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KY5TWVz5ZDU
Feelings Associated With Conflict
• Does personal conflict strategies create self-esteem?
• What’s the impact of conflict on the health (i.e., physical,
mental, emotional, spiritual) of self and others?
-Write a life experience down how you or
someone you know (disguise names) was
impacted by a conflict and what became the
conflict strategy to solve it. Did the problem
get solved?
Activity:
Video Example:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W2U6azSrePc
Script: http://freechild.org/Firestarter/CrossingTheLine.htm
Ten Strategies for Conflict
Resolution
http://www.citizensnyc.org/sites/default/files/publicattachments/workshop/conflict_resolution.pdf
• When angry, separate yourself from the situation and take time to cool out. • Attack the
problem, not the person. Start with a compliment. • Communicate your feelings assertively, NOT
aggressively. Express them without blaming. • Focus on the issue, NOT your position about the
issue. • Accept and respect that individual opinions may differ, don’t try to force compliance, work
to develop common agreement. • Do not review the situation as a competition, where one has to
win and one has to lose. Work toward a solution where both parties can have some of their needs
met. • Focus on areas of common interest and agreement, instead of areas of disagreement and
opposition. • NEVER jump to conclusions or make assumptions about what another is feeling or
thinking. • Listen without interrupting; ask for feedback if needed to assure a clear understanding
of the issue. • Remember, when only one person’s needs are satisfied in a conflict, it is NOT
resolved and will continue. • Forget the past and stay in the present. • Build ‘power with’ NOT
‘power over’ others. • Thank the person for listening.
Through skits, examine what is meant by…
• Negotiation
• Mediation
• Anger management
• Compromise
• Consensus building
As means of resolving/managing conflict. You will work with your tables
and present them to the class.