Ashley Hales
FHS 2400-011
Becoming a Parent
In our society today it’s more common to see couple’s having children later on in life and
having fewer children because of their goals with higher education and careers. The advantage I
see here is having the time to enjoy being young and the fact that they’ll be better off financially.
The disadvantage I see is the fact that they’ll be old parents physically and mentally.
As a newlywed wife I’m very excited to start having children but, not as excited as my
husband. If it were up to him we’d be having children right now. For me, I feel as though it’s
harder to go to school and start a career with having a young family to provide for. Ideally,
we’ve decided that we’ll start having children when I’m done with school. But Michael and I are
both very religious people, so ultimately we’ll have children when God asks us to. I don’t think
that someone can be too old to have children. Personally, I don’t want to be an older parent that
has age against them so I can’t do all of the fun things with my children. But I also don’t want
children for a few more years. I’m thinking two or three more years is a good time to start our
family.
There’s already a chance that it’ll be difficult for me to bare children. If that’s the case
I’m pro adoption. I feel as though I can love any child as my own and that’d be a perfect
opportunity for me to give a child less fortunate a good life. Michael and I have already decided
that we want to adopt at least one child for that very reason. I don’t like the idea of a surrogate
mother, it works for other people but to me it’s the same as adopting except planning who the
baby comes from.
It makes me sad that not everyone who wants to has the opportunity to have children
because of finances. I feel as though the ability to be blessed with a child should be given to
everyone who truly seeks to have kids. Maybe if there were some sort of financial assistance or a
program that can assist couples who want to have children. Although, there should be a line. The
parents should be able to provide the child adequately financially.