25 Ways to Win With People.
How to Make Them Feel Like A Million Bucks.
By John Maxwell
1. Start with Yourself. Your relationships can only be as healthy as you are. - Neil Clark
Warren
2. Practice the 30-Second Rule. (Say something encouraging to people in the first 30 seconds of
the conversation.) He who waits to do a great deal of good at once, will never do anything. Samuel Johnson.
3. Let People Know You Need Them. The greatest compliment that was ever paid me was
when someone asked me what I thought, and attended to my answer. - Henry David Thoreau
4. Create a Memory and Visit it Often. Memory is the treasury and guardian of all things. Cicero
5. Compliment People in Front of Other People. Admonish thy friends in secret, praise them
openly. - Publilius Syrus
6. Give Others a Reputation to Uphold. Treat a man as he appears to be and you make him
worse. But treat a man as if he already were what he potentially could be, and you make him
what he should be. - Goethe
7. Say the Right Words at the Right Time. No man has a prosperity so high or firm, but that
two or three words can dishearten it; and there is no calamity which right words will not begin to
redress. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
8. Encourage the Dreams of Others. Keep away from people who belittle your ambitions.
Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great. Mark Twain
9. Pass the Credit on to Others. If each of us were to confess his most secret desire, the one
that inspires all of his plans, all his actions he would say: “I want to be praised.” - E.M. Cioran
10. Offer Your Very Best. I do the very best I know how - the very best I can; and I mean to
keep on doing so until the end. - Abraham Lincoln
11. Share a Secret with Someone. Conceal not your secret from a friend, or you deserve to lose
him. - Portuguese Proverb
12. Mine the Gold of Good Intentions. To err is human; to forgive is not company policy. Unknown
13. Keep Your Eyes off the Mirror. I don’t know what your destiny will be, but one thing I
know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who have sought and found
how to serve. - Albert Schweitzer
14. Do for Others What They Can’t Do for Themselves. You have not lived today until you
have done something for someone who can never repay you. - John Bunyan
15. Listen with Your Heart. The most important thing in communication is to hear what isn’t
being said. - Peter Drucker
16. Find the Keys to Their Hearts. Coaches who can outline plays on a blackboard are a dime a
dozen. The ones who succeed are those who get inside their players and motivate them. - Vince
Lombardi
17. Be the First to Help. After the verb “to love,” “to help” is the most beautiful verb in the
world. - Berth Von Suttner
18. Add Value to People. Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of
value. - Albert Einstein
19. Remember a Person’s Story. Many a man would rather you heard his story than granted his
request. - Phillip Stanhope, Earl of Chesterfield
20. Tell a Good Story. The universe is made of stories, not atoms. - Muriel Rukeyser
21. Give with No Strings Attached. Life’s most persistent and urgent question is: What are you
doing for others? - Martin Luther King, Jr.
22. Learn Your Mailman’s Name. Remember that a person’s name is to that person the
sweetest and most important sound in any language. - Dale Carnegie
23. Point Out People’s Strengths. The praises of others may be of use in teaching us, not what
we are, but what we ought to be. - August W. Hare
24. Write Notes of Encouragement. The power of words is immense. A well-chosen word has
often sufficed to stop a flying army, to change defeat into victory, and to save an empire. - Emile
De Girardin
25. Help People Win. The most important measure of how good a game I played was how much
better I’d make my teammates play. -Bill Russell, winner of more NBA championships than any
other player