Harley Davidson Marriages Week 2 Small Group Discussion Guide 1. Discuss how your own personal desires conflict with what is best for your spouse / marriage. Give an example (that wont start a fight) ______________________________________________________________________________________________
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______________________________________________________________________________________________ 2. How can you identify for yourself when you have started the cycle of self deception. ______________________________________________________________________________________________
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______________________________________________________________________________________________ 3. Read James 4:1-­‐3 again. Now think about your last fight. Is this verse accurate to your situation or not? Don’t apply it to the other person in the argument, apply it to yourself. ______________________________________________________________________________________________
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______________________________________________________________________________________________ 4. According James 4:2-­‐3, Is it wrong to have desires? What makes your desires “good” and how then do you go about getting them appropriately? ______________________________________________________________________________________________
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______________________________________________________________________________________________ 5. Pastor Dusty said on Sunday that “We steel the pleasure of what we enjoy by our desire for more of it.” Discuss this statement; do you agree or disagree and give examples in your own life of how may have stolen the pleasure of a good thing by desiring more of it. ______________________________________________________________________________________________
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______________________________________________________________________________________________ 6. From James 4:6-­‐10, list the ways that we can keep from fighting for our own desires and begin to bring peace and joy into our marriages / key relationships. ______________________________________________________________________________________________
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