I. letnik psihologije Prof. dr. Janek Musek Doc. dr. Darja Kobal Asist. dr. Andreja Avsec MOTIVACIJA IN EMOCIJE pojmovanja definicije, vloga historično drugi aspekti oblike, vrste, vidiki bio/psih, prim/sek, notr/zun, pot/privl zav/nezav instinktivistični m. Darwin, McDougall etologija evol. psih./biosociologija redukcija potrebe/gona homeostaza Freud, Hull aktivacijske teorije modeli in teorije spodbude kognitivne teorije vrednost/verjetnost humanistične teorije hierarhija motivov MOTIVACIJA definicije, značilnosti oblike, vidiki modeli, teorije definicije, vloga značilnosti emocij vidiki emocij vrste emocij klasične teorije James/Lange Cannon/Bard kognitivni modeli Izard, Tomkins, Plutchik drugi biološki in nevoznanstveni modeli motivacije in emocij emocije, motivi in kognicija vroča kognicija afekt (+,-) optimizem/pesim. upanje sreča/zadovoljstvo EMOCIJE definicije, vrste vidiki, značilnosti modeli, teorije hranjenje radovednost spolnost storilnost mojstrstvo nemoč, neuspeh združevanje odobravanje jeza, sovraštvo agresivnost moč ljubezen navezanost empatija anksioznost krivda, sram samoaktualizacija smisel transcendenca POMEMBNI MOTIVI IN EMOCIJE glavni motivi pomembne emocije TEMATSKI SKLOPI Pregled tematike dinamika motivov frustracija konflikt obrambno obnašanje stres izgorevanje soočanje kriza izbira, odločanje vedenjske namere atribucija načini atribuiranja jaz in samopodoba kot motivacijska dejavnika samoregulacija volja samoučinkovitost samodoločanje MOTIVACIJSKA DINAMIKA frustracija, konflikt stres, kriza Predavanje 10: LJUBEZEN IN NAVEZANOST MOTIVACIJA IN EMOCIJE Ljubezen kot predmet psihološkega proučevanja Teorije ljubezni Navezovanje in slogi navezanosti Ljubezen in navezanost pomembni vidiki ljubezni privlačnost, ljubezen in partnerstvo vrste in značilnosti ljubezni pojem ljubezni v psihologiji Ljubezen kot predmet psihološkega proučevanja Povzetek "temporary insanity curable by marriage or by removal of the patient from the influences under which he incurred the disorder." Bierce, 1943 – dejavniki ljubezni – komponente ljubezni Teorije ljubezni Narava in vrste ljubezni Ljubezen - vodilna tema človeštva Ljubezen Ljubezen – erotična ljubezen – ljubezen med sorodniki (npr. starši in otroki) – duhovna ljubezen in ljubezen do bližnjega Več kategorij ljubezni – miti, ljudske pesmi in pripovedi – umetno pesništvo, proza (romani) – 2000 in več pred našim štetjem (sumersko, egipčansko, kitajsko, indijsko izročilo) pričevanja odkar jih lahko beležimo – ljubezen in borba – lirika in epika človeštva – pogosto povezani (zgodba o Parisu, Ramayana...) ena od dveh poglavitnih tem človeštva Ljubezen - zgodovinski pogled – ljubezen je univerzalen fenomen – pojmovanja in prepričanja o ljubezni pa se v različnih kulturah razlikujejo kulturne razlike – bogovi ljubezni (Afrodita, Venera, Eros, Amor...) obsedenost (božanska) – misterij ljubezni – pozitivni in negativni aspekti (bittersweat) – Sapfo fascinantno in skrivnostno izkustvo Ljubezen - zgodovinski pogled (nad.) – pojmovanje, da je erotična ljubezen vrhunsko in usodno čustvo, pogoj za partnerstvo, zakon in srečo romantika – duhovna ljubezen kot najvišja stvarnost – odraz božje narave – ljubezen do bližnjega, do sebe in do Boga krščanstvo zahodna kultura Ljubezen - zgodovinski pogled (nad.) Mit o človeku iz Platonovega Simpozija Tri vrste prvotnega človeka (mm, žž, mž) Nevarni bogovom, ki so jih zato razpolovili Od tedaj iščejo ljudje svoje izgubljene polovice LJUBEZEN KOT POTREBA PO ZDRUŽITVI Platonova teorija fiziološko vzburjenje, ki ga posameznik interpretira kot ljubezensko čustvo kulturno ozadje, ki ceni ljubezen in v katerem se posameznik uči ljubiti ter pričakuje ljubezen prisotnost osebe, ki je potencialni ljubezenski partner (glede na privllačnost, starost, ...) Transcendentne prvin Socialne prvine Razumske prvine Motivacijske prvine Čustvene prvine Prvine in aspekti ljubezni Freud Maslow Rubin Lee Hatfield Aron & Aron Hazan & Shaver Sternberg Fehr Kovecses Teorije ljubezni potlačitev ene ali druge komponente lahko vodi v nevrozo – emocionalna naklonjenost – čutnost dve komponenti ljubezni – odrasla ljubezen je v bistvu reprodukcija infantilne – transformacija kratkotrajnih spolnih impulzov v dolgotrajno afektivno navezanost ljubezen in spolnost imata korenine v zgodnjem otroštvu – “Prispevki k psihologiji ljubezni” Freud (1910) Teorije ljubezni: Freud Če bi bil p. žalosten, bi bila moja prva Trije vidiki ljubezni dolžnost, da ga potolažim. – navezanost Mislim, da lahko p. zaupam praktično vse. – žrtvovanje (skrb za) Ni mi težko sprejeti p. slabe strani. – intimnost Za p. bi lahko storil skoraj vse. Do p. imam velike posedovalne zahteve. Tipi ljubezni Če nikoli ne bi mogel biti skupaj s p., bi bil – potreba po navezovanju in zelo nesrečen. odvisnosti Ko se čutim osamljenega, je moja prva – podpora in pripravljenost pomagati misel, da bi poiskal p. Dobro počutje p. je ena mojih največjih – potreba po “posedovanju” in skrbi. izključnosti v odnosu do ljubljene P. bi skoraj vse odpustil. osebe Čutim se odgovornega za p. Rubinova lestvica ljubezni Če sem skupaj s p., si vzamem veliko časa za to, da ga gledam. Zelo bi bil vesel, če bi se mi p. zaupal. Zelo težko bi prenesel ločitev od p. Zick Rubin (1970, 1973, 1974) Teorije ljubezni : Rubin Hendrick & Hendrick (1986) Love attitude scale osnovni tipi eros (ljubezen do idealne osebe) ludus (ljubezen kot igra in zabava) storge (ljubezen kot prijateljstvo) kombinirani tipi mania (strastna, obsesivna ljubezen: eros in ludus) – pragma (realistična, praktična ljubezen: ludus in storge) – agape (nesebična, samožrtvovalna ljubezen: eros in storge) – – – – – – Lee (1973) Barve ljubezni Teorije ljubezni : Lee lo v e o s Ma s e s n ia s ive (P ) Pragm a (P ra gma tic love ) Eros (P a s s iona te love ) Love S tyle s ( S F r ie to n d s rg e h ip l ov e ) p e ve ) a A g tic lo is u r t l (A (G us g d Lu a yin l p e am e lo v ) subscales, developed to assess the six major love styles of Lee's multidimensional theory of love (Lee, 1988). The Love Attitudes Scale is composed of 24 items, organized in six Ljubezenske barve žensk in moških designed to measure four dimensions: Permissiveness (casual sexuality), Sexual Practices (responsible sexuality), Communion (idealistic sexuality) and Instrumentality (biological sexuality). The alpha coefficients ranged from a low of .70 for Instrumentality to a high of .88 for Permissiveness. The Sexual Attitudes Scale (Hendrick & Hendrick, 1987) is a 43-item scale Ljubezenske barve žensk in moških (nad.) research is limited romantic (eros) and altruistic (agape) had positive correlations with satisfaction at all ages game-playing (ludus) had negative correlation companionate (storge) had positive correlation only for couples with children at home possessive (mania) and pragmatic (pragma) unrelated Druge ugotovitve – močno hrepenenje po združitvi s partnerjem – močna fiziološka komponenta Strastna ljubezen (passionate love) – čustva do partnerja s katerim smo tesno povezani Tovariška ljubezen (companionate love) – nista vedno združljivi Hatfield in sod. (1978, 1988) Dve kategoriji ljubezni Teorije ljubezni: Hatfield in sod. – gliha vkup štriha – nasprotja se privlačijo – na začetku je podobnost izhodišče za samoekspanzijo (brez nje partnerstvo ni možno) – nato postanejo to izhodišče drugačnosti (?) Kontroverzna vloga podobnosti in nasprotij v ljubezni – zaljubimo se v ljudi, v katerih slutimo priložnost za ekspanzijo samega sebe – intimnost: tretiranje partnerja kot del samega sebe Aron in Aron (1986) Teorije ljubezni: Aron & Aron Samoekspanzija – npr. strastna ljubezen (spolnost) – tovariška ljubezen (skrb in navezanost) Znani tipi ljubezni so njihove kombinacije – navezovanje (kot otrok) – skrb, negovanje (kot mati) – spolnost Iz teorije navezanosti (Bowlby, Harlow, Ainsworth) Hazan, Shaver Ljubezen je integracija treh biološko utemeljenih vedenjskih sistemov 0 10 20 30 40 50 60 varnost izogibanje ambivalentnost Hazan, Shaver in sod.: teorija ljubezni A. I am somewhat uncomfortable being close to others; I find it difficult to trust them completely, difficult to allow myself to depend on them. I am nervous when anyone gets too close, and often, others want me to be more intimate than I feel comfortable being. B. I find it relatively easy to get close to others and am comfortable depending on them and having them depend on me. I don't worry about being abandoned or about someone getting too close to me. C. I find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like. I often worry that my partner doesn't really love me or won't want to stay with me. I want to get very close to my partner, and this sometimes scares people away. – izogibalen – gotov (varen) – ambivalenten Hazan, Shaver, 1987 Lestvica romantične ljubezni Less invested in relationships Show less grief following loss During sex with a partner, fantasizes someone else More casual sex Prefers to work alone Workaholics as a way to avoid close relations Tend to recall parents as rejecting and rebuffing Tend to have experienced childhood trauma (e.g., abused, alcoholic parents) Withdraws from partner when partner or self is stressed Find social interactions boring and irrelevant Do not like self-disclosure by self and others Positive mood induction fails to increase their creativity Unable to remember relationships well Hostile/hateful when provoked More likely to be atheist/agnostic; "born again" religious experience during adolescence if mother was not religious Have death anxiety but tend not to reveal it directly gre za različne zgodnje dispozicije ali za razlike v poznejšem oblikovanju slogov? – prepuščeno izogibanje (več moških, višje samospoštovanje) – anksiozno izogibanje (več pri ženskah) dva podtipa 25 odstotkov Izogibajoči ljubimci 20 odstotkov High breakup rate despite deep involvement Intense grieving following loss Unstable self-esteem combined with self-doubt Prefer being "cuddly" than actual sex Although like to work with others, often feel under-appreciated Views spouse as unsupportive Daydreams about success but often unable to sustain efforts Vulnerable to eating disorders Perceive parents as intrusive and unfair Tend to be emotional, especially when under stress Worry about rejection during daily interactions Have a tendency to self-disclose to every one and like others to disclose Jealous and untrusting Easily distracted by mood swings (even when it is positive) Preoccupied with personal relationships; can't turn thoughts away Hostility and anger More likely than other attachment styles to be overtaken by religious emotions Afraid of separation Afraid of death Anksiozni/ambivalentni ljubimci More trusting Less lonely Tend to have long-term relationships Enjoy sex, especially with long-term partners High self-esteem and high regards for others Seeking social support when under stress Generous and supportive when lovers are under stress Self-disclose appropriately and like others to selfdisclose Positive, optimistic, and constructive in interacting with others Likely to adopt parents' religion Relatively unafraid of death More creative and cognitively open following a positive mood induction 55 odstotkov Samogotovi (varni) ljubimci Sternberg (1986) Tri dimenzije ljubezni Sedem tipov ljubezni Sternberg: triangularna teorija ljubezni strastna ljubezen STRASTNOST romantična ljubezen nora ljubezen popolna ljubezen INTIMNOST ugajanje ZAVEZANOST prazna ljubezen tovariška ljubezen neljubezen (0) popolna ljubezen (I, S, Z) nora ljubezen (S, Z) tovariška ljubezen (I, Z) romantična ljubezen (I, S) prazna ljubezen (Z) strastna ljubezen (S) ugajanje (I) Tipi ljubezni po Sternbergu S TRAS TNOS T nizka vis o ka nizka vis o ka nizka vis o ka vis o ka nizka INTIMNOS T vis o ka nizka nizka vis o ka vis o ka nizka vis o ka nizka NELJUBEZEN POPOLNA LJUBEZEN vis o ka nizka NORA LJUBEZEN TOVARIŠ KA LJUBEZEN ROMANTIČNA LJUBEZEN PRAZNA LJUBEZEN S TRAS TNA LJUBEZEN UGAJANJE TIP LJUBEZNI vis o ka vis o ka nizka vis o ka nizka nizka ZAVEZANOS T Secure *76.4% *84.8% *77.9% Love Test Scale Score Passion Intimacy Commitment 70.6% 78.0% 69.8% Avoidant F 69.3% f(2,692)=18.1 74.3% f(2,692)=25.1 71.3% f(2,692)=13.4 Anxious/ Ambivalent Attachment Style Mean Love Test Experience Scores by Attachment Style – pri stilu gotovosti so dimenzije močneje izražene < .0001 < .0001 < .0001 p Ali se osebe z različnim slogom navezovanja razlikujejo v strastnosti, intimnosti in navezanosti? Dimenzije ljubezni in slog navezanosti kaj je ljubezen? kaj ljudje mislijo, da je ljubezen? Znanstvena in laična pojmovanja ljubezni afekcija (simpatija, naklonjenost) spolna ljubezen platonska ljubezen prijateljska ljubezen romantična ljubezen najstniška ljubezen strastna ljubezen slepa zaljubljenost zvesta ljubezen koliko se različni besedni opisi približujejo centralnemu pojmu določenega tipa ljubezni – pojem prototipa (Rosch, 1973, 1975, 1978) analiza prototipov ljubezni Fehr (1988, 1991) Fehr - prototipi ljubezni – trije faktorji, ki se ujemajo s Sternbergovimi dimenzijami Fehr - Sternberg Faktorska analiza prototipov ljubezni .78 .73 .68 .51 Puppy Passionate Sexual Romantic .80 .72 Platonic Friendship .87 .66 .44 Committed Romantic Friendship Commitment .84 Affection Intimacy .82 Loading Infatuation Passion Dimenzije prototipov ljubezni hugging kissing fondness closeness concern friendship being there for the person a bond doing things for the person happiness helping the person holding hands sharing warmth can be one-sided not too intense not sexual caring afekcija Uganimo tip ljubezni - afekcija spolna ljubezen Physical attraction arousal lust expressed through sexual intercourse person is seen only as a sex object for one's own gratification commitment contentment excitement fulfills a need heart rate increases intimate kissing touching not long lasting close while having sex, but not necessarily after emotional giving happiness special think about the other person all the time Uganimo tip ljubezni - spolna ljubezen friendship not sexual caring doing thing together not physical supportive enjoy each other's company feel relaxed with the person happiness helping the person normal behavior sharing trust contentment feel free to talk about anything being reliable respect platonska ljubezen Uganimo tip ljubezni - platonska ljubezen prijateljska ljubezen Feel free to talk about anything caring, helping, supporting honesty doing thing together trust sharing understanding sharing emotions, sharing thoughts,sharing experiences being there for the other person good times happiness long lasting loyalty openness a bond, sense of belonging closeness common interests concern feeling relaxed with the person listening to each other respect sadness Uganimo tip ljubezni prijateljska ljubezen romantična ljubezen candlelight dinners taking walks happiness idealistic your world revolves around the person want to be with the other person all the time, think about the person all the time giving gifts dream about the person like a fairy tale feel relaxed with the person good times physical attraction sharing courtship doing things together don't know the person very well kissing honesty glowing giving friendship feel free to talk about anything problems seem to vanish sexual sweaty palms soft music Uganimo tip ljubezni romantična ljubezen occurs at a young age a new experience not long lasting think about the person all the time infatuation feel shy around the person a crush dream about the person feel like your floating initially strong, but then fades painful if not reciprocated see only the person's good qualities act immaturely attraction heart rate increases kissing sweaty palms najstniška ljubezen (“puppy love”) Uganimo tip ljubezni najstniška ljubezen sexual caring intense think about the person all the time a bond heart rate increases want to be with the person all the time arousal emotional expressive kissing lust attraction don't know the person very well euphoria excitement feel flushed giving your self completely to the person hugging intimate irrational physical the person is the most special person in your life not long lasting touching want to make each other happy strastna ljubezen Uganimo tip ljubezni - strastna ljubezen Think about the other person all the time not long lasting physical attraction see only the person's good qualities intrigued by some fascinating quality of the person your world revolves around the person you don't know the person very well excited when you see the person being love-struck heart rate increases sweaty palms think you're in love talk about the person all the time want to be with the person all the time a crush based on first impressions irrational slepa zaljubljenost (ljubezen na prvi pogled) Uganimo tip ljubezni - slepa zaljubljenost commitment continues regardless of the circumstances long lasting think about the person all the time being there for the person felt for only one person honesty sharing caring closeness giving respect a promise sexual trust understanding a bond devotion faithfulness feel free to talk about anything give and take relationship live together openness passionate sacrifice zvesta ljubezen Uganimo tip ljubezni - zvesta ljubezen Although Kovecses suggested that languagebased models (either "ideal" or "typical") may influence the way people experience love, without empirical studies he could not be certain whether people actually use them in interpreting their experiences. Thus, he reviewed some studies on the psychological validity of language-based models done by Averill and Boothroyd (1977). In one study, subjects were asked first to read a love story that was taken to be a good illustration of romantic love. Next, they rated on a 10-point scale how closely their most intense love relationship matched the conception of romantic love represented by the story. The results showed that 40% of the subjects confirmed the conception, and 40% did not. Kovecses thought such results suggested that language-based models of love have some psychological validity. idealni model tipični model • “midva sva eno” • “ona je njegova boljša polovica” – “ljubezen je združitev” Kovecses (1988, 1990, 1991) jezikovni model ljubezni analiza metafor o ljubezni metafore sugerirajo pojmovanja ljubezni Kovecses: metafore ljubezni 6. 5. 4. 3. 2. 1. It views love relationships as having a temporal structure, instead of being a static state. It replaces passive waiting for love with active searching for, and controlling love. According to it, love culminates in marriage. It replaces "love lasts forever" with "wild romantic love turns into peaceful affection in a natural way." It recognizes the possibility that love may not be mutual. In that case, one may "play hard to get," and one may have to "conquer" another. It also recognizes the possibility that everything resulting from the unity metaphor (e.g., perfect harmony) may not be found. – družbena pričakovanja o ljubezenskem obnašanju tipični model – združitev dveh komplementarnih delov – vedenjski vzorec – pomankanje kontrole idealni model V čem se razlikujeta idealni in tipični model? 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