Pastors and Wives CG:
Fellowship in Marriage
Please set aside an evening to go over these questions with your wife, and come prepared to
share your answers at CG.
1. Encouragement
I Thess. 5:11: Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.
Acts 11:22-23: News of this reached the ears of the church at Jerusalem, and they sent Barnabas to
Antioch. When he arrived and saw the evidence of the grace of God, he was glad and encouraged them all
to remain true to the Lord with all their hearts.
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Do you feel that I consistently and effectively encourage you?
Is my encouragement specific and meaningful? How could it improve?
Are you more aware of my correction (or criticism), or my encouragement?
What evidences of God’s grace do I regularly point out in your life?
What evidences of grace do I tend to be unaware of or not point out to you?
2. Confession of Sin/ Pursuit of Evaluation and Help
James 5:16: Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.
Proverbs 28:13: He who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds
mercy.
a. Do I confess sins to you that you would otherwise be unaware of?
b. Do I ask you to help me evaluate the issues of sin in my heart and to help me gain
clarity about them? How consistently do I do this?
c. How do I generally respond when you bring observations or questions to me? Do I
appear grateful for your care for my soul? Do I make it easy for you to bring me
observations?
d. Are you convinced that I consider you to be the primary person God has placed in
my life to help me grow in godliness through your counsel, insight, and
encouragement? Do you feel that I value anyone else more than you as a friend to
pursue and enjoy fellowship with?
3. Sharing Observations/Biblical Correction
Proverbs 27:5-6: Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an
enemy multiplies kisses.
a. Am I a faithful friend to you by raising concerns about your words, actions,
and attitudes? Do you believe that I ever hold back from doing so?
b. Do I come to you more often with questions or with judgments? Do you feel
that I more often share observations, or do you feel that I make premature
judgments about your heart?
c. Do you believe that I am for you, and that my correction is usually brought
with God’s glory and your good as my motive? How can I improve this?