The Power of The Tangible

The Power of the Tangible
Copyright 2015 Larry Moen, M.Ed LPC
Uncommon Therapy
The importance of tangible things
In this world where more and more our lives are expressed and captured by digital
means, it can seem strange to tout the importance of tangible things.
Yet there are good reasons to do so.
There are all kinds of reminders of this – “If it isn’t documented, it didn’t happen.” “I
won’t believe it until I see it in writing.” “the proof is in the pudding.” “Actions
speak louder than words.” “You don’t really know it until you’ve been there.” and
many many similar expressions.
It is the reason we give out certificates and award plaques, medals and gold stars. It
is the basis behind wedding rings and souvenirs.
It is why we have a picture of loved ones on a desk or keep love letters or hang on to
the childhood toy someone special gave to us.
The power explained
Tangibility is the way that we validate the external reality of our internal thoughts.
It is the primary way that we know that something “isn’t just in our head.” It makes
things “seem more real.”
We know that our inner reality can change, that our thoughts can shift from moment
to moment. We want something outside of ourselves to verify that we aren’t
somehow just making things up. This is especially true when what we want to
verify is something intense, unusual, beyond what we normally experience or expect.
We want a moon rock or a piece of the Berlin Wall, a signed program that shows you
really did meet the artist, or a teacup your grandmother always used and cherished.
We want tangible things that engage all of our sensory associations, not simply our
cognitive ones. We learned to associate things by their color, sound, warmth, taste,
or smell long before we learned to do so by language or by logic. There are a wealth
of connections made from a single stone we found at the ocean when we were six
years old and out with a favorite aunt that nothing else can elicit as quickly and
We exist in a tangible reality that we express even in our words – it “grounds” us, it
“anchors” us, it “keeps us in touch with reality. “ When we understand we say, “Yes,
I see.” When we are unsure we say “Something about this smells funny.” When we
find something we like we say “That’s to my taste.” We use tangible things in most
of our metaphors , because they encapsulate meaningful associations and attributes
in ways we know are based on what is real to us.
Keep using tangibles
Because of all of this, and because we are ever-more into an age of virtual rather
than tangible things, it is helpful to remember to make sure that tangible things
remain part of your expressions of meanings and communications. Perhaps one day
technology will give us the ability to instantly and temporarily recreate tangible
objects in all their sensory aspects – but the rock from the beach will still not have
the same meaning as the virtual rock if we are aware that it is a replica. Tangible
things hold the meaning of experiences in ways we are unlikely ever to reproduce.
Express the meanings in your life verbally or digitally, but also tangibly and
Copyright 2015 Larry Moen, M.Ed LPC
Uncommon Therapy