Are YOU Adding to OR...
Taking Away?
Working in schools
can be stressful!
These articles are intended
to help the great people
who work in schools to
reduce their stress and
increase their sense of
satisfaction.
Key points
You are either adding to a
relationship or taking way
from one
Our energy and attitude
impacts on other people
We are not invisible! There is no neutral. You are either adding to a relationship or
taking away from one. Sadly, many people attempting to be neutral don’t even realise
that they are taking away. These are the people who when they are lied about at their
farewell morning tea, don’t even know! Their self-awareness of their own energy and
more importantly, its negative impact on others is either negligible or completely non
existent!
There is of course a more dangerous group of people. These are the people who are
busy taking away. Their reasons vary and are often complicated. Some sadly enjoy
the negative attention whilst others are so scared, hurt and cynical, they have either
forgotten or have never been taught how to add positively to a relationship.
The challenge is that we cannot not communicate. Our energy and attitude, everything
we do, or don’t do, impacts other people in some way and whether we like it or not, it
is judged either consciously or unconsciously as an adding to or a taking away.
Students, parents, colleagues, family and friends all have an opinion about their
experience of you which is primarily based on your energy and attitude.
There will of course be days where you don’t have the energy of a four year old. In fact
as you already know, there will be days where you just don’t want to play. Life will
bring both good and bad.
It’s on those days that we need a return on our investment. If we have been adding
positively to the lives of others almost every day, we can reasonably expect others to
show forgiveness, patience and concern on those days each year, when we don’t
have the energy for whatever reason.
So are you adding to or taking away?
Others gain an impression
of us through our energy
and attitude
The four-year-olds
complete focus is on
solving the problem
and not wasting one
ounce of energy
whingeing to their
mates.
Bruce Sullivan
Please consider your answer to the following questions!
•
Do you truly appreciate that everything you do communicates in some way to
others?
•
How aware are you of how your energy and attitude impacts on others both
positively and negatively? (There is nothing sadder than someone being lied
about at a farewell morning tea and they don’t even realise they are being lied
about!)
•
What are you doing at a very practical level to invest positive energy into your
relationships at work and at home?
Enjoy more adding to and enjoy being sensitive to the impact of your own energy on
others. It’s what you do already when you are at your personal best!
How do you ADD to other people’s lives?
Bruce Sullivan
Bruce is known worldwide as an authority on relationships and personal motivation. He is the author of
the best-selling books ‘Rippa! How To Have The Energy Of A Four Year Old Almost Every Day’ and
‘Hannah’s Christmas Gift’. Bruce’s books are full of practical strategies for improving your life.
To order your copy of ‘Rippa!’ or book Bruce for your conference visit www.brucesullivan.com.au
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