Thirteen
and
pregnant.
December 1
2008
In this story I will be talking about my past pregnancy and the complications I
had going through with the pregnancy.
Thirteen and
pregnant.
Chapter 1
The day I found out I was pregnant was the most terrifying day of my life. I was only in 8th
grade when I found out I was pregnant. One day, my counselor called me into her office, and
when I got there my dad was waiting for me in her office. My counselor told him that I was trying
to avoid P E, because I said I was pregnant. My counselor told my dad to take me to the clinic,
my dad was upset about the reason why he was called into her office. When we left my
counselors office, my dad took me to get a pregnancy test. When we got to the clinic, my doctor
was surprised that I came in for a pregnancy test.
When I took the pregnancy test. I was scared for what the results would be. A couple minutes
later, the nurse came back and told me the result from the pregnancy test was positive. I was a
shamed from the results from the test because I was only 13 years old. The nurse asked me if I
wanted to tell my dad the results and I said no, so they called my dad and they told him for me.
When my dad found out I was pregnant, he was upset, and he couldn’t believe I was having a
baby especially at my age.
After we left the clinic, my dad called my counselor, and told her that I was pregnant my
counselor was a little surprised that I was pregnant. When my mom came home my dad had
told her about what had happened today. He told her I was pregnant and she was a little upset
also but she said she would always be by my side. A week later, I found out I was pregnant I
had to go in for an ultrasound, and I found out I was 9 weeks pregnant. After I finished doing the
ultrasound we went over to my boyfriend’s house and my parents and I had a talk with his mom.
When my mom told his mom that me and my boyfriend were expecting a baby his mom said
how could this baby be my son’s. I was surprised when she said that because I and my
boyfriend told her we were having intercourse.
What surprised me the most was when she wanted me to have an abortion I was very upset
with what she had said so I just said fine ill get an abortion. When I got home I was very upset
about what his mom had said about me getting an abortion. I didn’t want an abortion because
it’s not the baby’s fault and also I don’t believe in abortions. That same night after we left I was
talking to my mom and she asked if I really wanted an abortion and I said no. The reason I
didn’t want to get an abortion was because I didn’t want to go through the depression of the day
I had the abortion. The other reason I didn’t want to get an abortion was because why should I
just abort a poor selfless baby that can’t protect its self.
A week later after I found out I was pregnant I talked to my counselor and she said I had to
switch schools to a teen pregnancy school. I was really upset because I wasn’t the only teen
that was pregnant bit I was the only one that had to leave and go to a different school. I didn’t
want to leave because I had all of my close friends there and I felt like it was very unfair for me
to have to leave. When I started my new school I thought it was better because you get to relate
to other pregnant teens or teens that are already mothers. I made a lot of new friends at the
school I was at now it was a lot better than the other school because there weren’t a lot of
people teasing and making fun of me in the situation I was in. I felt very comfortable in the
school I was in because the teens there were very kind and they also educated me for the birth
and for what it would be like after the baby was born. I was very nervous for the birth because of
how they made it sound.
Chapter 2
Every two weeks I had to go to the clinic for a checkup and to hear the baby’s heart beat the
very first time I heard the baby’s heart beat was amazing. I was so amazed when I heard the
baby’s heart beat but I wish the baby’s dad was there to cherish the moment with me. At least I
had my parents there to support me through whatever decision I made. I really wanted the
baby’s dad there but he had school and I always had to go to the doctor appointments either on
my own or with a parent. Every time I went to the doctor for a checkup everyone there would
ask me if my dad was my boyfriend it was a little weird. Every time I go to the doctor I see all of
the other couples there I would always wish I had my boyfriend there with me. I was very grate
ful that I had my boyfriend there to be able to call and tell him what had happened at the
doctor’s appointment that same day I would always tell him I wish he was there with me.
I would always wish my boyfriend was there with me at the doctor’s for a checkup because a lot
of people would ask me if I’m a single mom and when I say no they would ask me where is the
baby’s dad and I would have to say oh he’s at school. When I would say that they would ask
how old am I and I would say I’m 13 in a half going to be 14 in January. Every time I would go to
the doctor for a checkup I would get to hear the baby’s heart beat. One day I was going to
school and I started to bleed so my mom took me to the hospital and they said I was having
contractions here and there.
The next day I was able to go back to school because the contractions stopped so they let me
go back to my normal routine. After I was released out of the hospital I was very happy to be
able to go back to school and be able to be with all of my friends again. While I was in the
hospital I was very scared because I thought I was going to lose the baby after I decided to
keep the baby and go ahead with the pregnancy. I was very happy that I didn’t lose the baby
due to my bleeding. I was very comfortable at the new school I was at because they let you do
independent study and also because school got out every day at 12:30. I was surprised at how
many teen moms that were there at the school and at how old they were when they had their
first child. There were teens that were 10 up to 18 years of age.
I didn’t fell as bad as I did when I first got there because there were a couple of teens there that
were my age and also I got to make new friends that were in the same situation that I was in. A
month has passed and I had to go to the hospital because I started having some complications
this time when I went in I was only three months at the time so I was very scared that I had to go
back in for the second time. What I had on my mind the most was me losing the baby but I told
myself if I do lose the baby it wasn’t in my path yet and I also told myself I do lose the baby. I
thought if I did lose the baby me and my boyfriend wouldn’t of stayed together but I was
surprised that I didn’t lose the baby.
After I left the hospital I had a doctor’s appointment to see how the baby was developing and
when I went in I had to switch doctors to a high risk doctor. The reason I had to go to a different
doctor was because I was considered a high risk pregnancy so I had to go to a high risk doctor.
When I got there I was very scared.
Chapter 3
I had a new doctor and the doctor’s name was Dr. Salceda I had to go to see her at least two
times a week. I really liked doctor Salcea because she was a good doctor because she was the
only doctor that I went to that actually remembered my name and who I was. I also liked the
doctor because she was the delivery doctor I was surprised when I found out that she would be
my delivery doctor. I had to give blood every time I went and of course I’m afraid of needles but I
got over it because I had to give blood every time I went to the doctor for a checkup.
One day when I went in for a checkup my doctor asked me if I wanted a 3D ultrasound to find
out the sex of the baby I said no because I didn’t have $90 dollars for it and if they can’t see the
sex of the baby I can’t get the money back. That’s the reason why I didn’t get a 3D ultrasound
the other reason why I didn’t want a 3D ultrasound was because most moms were already
getting the ultrasound so I just stuck to the original ultrasound. I really wanted a 3D ultrasound
but I couldn’t afford it well my parents and also I couldn’t get a refund of the money back if they
can’t see what sex the baby is. A month later my doctor told me that I had to go to valley
presbitarian hospital to get a ultrasound I was very happy that I was going to finally find out the
sex of the baby but I wish my boyfriend was there to find out what the baby was going to be with
me.
I was excited to finally find out what the baby was going to be when I finally got the news saying
that the baby was a boy I was very happy. When I got home I started to figure out a baby boy
name but something deep down inside of me sort of gave me a feeling that the baby wasn’t a
boy that it would be a baby girl. One day when my mom asked me what did I think the baby was
going to be because my mom had the same feeling I had that the baby wasn’t going to be a boy
and I said I have a feeling it’s a girl. When I said that my mom said I had the same feeling to and
that surprised me because I thought I was the only one that had that feeling.
I was so happy to at least have an ultrasound of the baby but I knew by looking at the first
ultrasound that it was going to be a baby girl. I was glad that I didn’t start buying things for the
baby because I was unsure of what the baby was going to be so I didn’t want to start buying
things and when the baby was born it would be the other sex then what they told me it was
going to be. I was so excited I called my boyfriend and told him that I found out the sex of the
baby he was happy and upset that he couldn’t be there with me.
One day while I was going to school I started bleeding and having contractions so when I got to
school I told one of the teachers there what was going on so they tried calling my parents but
they didn’t answer the phone so they keep on calling. Finally when they got a hold of my parents
they told my parents what happened and they asked if my parents could pick me up and they
said no so they had to call the ambulance and when they came I had to go straight to the
hospital. I was scared because I thought I was going into labor and also I was on my own.
Chapter 4
I was scared I tried to call my boyfriend when he answered I told him where I was and I asked
him if he could come and he said no he was busy so I had to stay there on my own. Couple
hours later my parents came and I was so releaved that my parents were there now. I was very
happy that I had someone there and I wasn’t alone anymore but I was very upset that my
boyfriend couldn’t even attempt to try and come. The same night I was released from the
hospital and a week later I had to go to the doctor’s for a checkup and my doctor put me on bed
rest because I keep on bleeding. I was very upset that I had to go on bed rest especially when I
made a lot of new friends at my new school. When I was on bed rest I was able to get to know
my dad again because he was always at work and now that he was disabled he had to stay
home from work so I was home with my dad every day and every week. It was ok in the
beginning but then it got very boring because I couldn’t go anywhere except on weekends or not
even then my parents wouldn’t even let me out on weekends because they were afraid of me
going back to the hospital while I was out with my boyfriend and his parents.
My boyfriend’s dad never knew about me being pregnant for the whole nine months. Every time
I would go over I would always do the things we did before I got pregnant like play sports and
we would just have fun. I would change my clothing style I would wear big shirts so my stomach
wasn’t showing and I would still use my same jeans until I was five months then I started using
maternity clothes especially there jeans. I think it is hard being pregnant especially when your
boyfriend isn’t there to help you or even going to your doctor’s appointment. I wish he was there
when I need him there to help me get through the tough times in my pregnancy.
The only time I would be happy is when I’m away from the stress from my parents or from
school is when I’m either at the beach or with my boyfriend. The only time I would even try and
think of a name was when I’m with my boyfriend because whatever name I would choose he
wouldn’t like or hell have something bad to say about the name I would like to name our baby. I
really liked the name Rose leilani santoyo but my boyfriend didn’t like the name for some
reason. Then we came up with trinity leilani santoyo then we both agreed to that name for our
baby I really liked it and so did anyone else did.
For my fifth month I had to go in for a checkup for another ultrasound and then I found out that I
was having baby girl when my boyfriend found out that we were expecting a baby girl he was
very excited. I was scared because I only had three more months left until I had to deliver the
baby. I was afraid that I was going to be alone in the delivery room on my own especially for my
first time having the baby.
Chapter 5
I had a doctor’s appointment on a Wednsday and when I got there my doctor seen me and she
said I was three centimeters dilated. When she said that I was scared because the thought that
ran in the back of my mind was saying that the baby was on her way soon. When I got home I
called my boyfriend and told him I was three centimeters dilated and he was very nervous that I
would have the baby soon and that he wouldn’t be able to be there.
The same day I walked around the block and I was in so much pain that I could barely walk but I
never did stop until the time was up for me to stop walking. After I finished walking around I
went in to the house and ate then took a shower then went to bed. The next morning around
5:00 or 5:30 I went into labor early in the morning I was in so much pain that I couldn’t believe I
have been in for all of my life.
Before I went to the hospital I took a shower and then my mom took me to the hospital and on
the way there I was so afraid of going in because I never experienced this much pain in my
whole life. When my mom and I got to the hospital I had to fill out paper work and then by the
time I was able to be seen by a nurse I was already ten centimeters dilated and I was surprised
when they told me I was already ten centimeters.
When I got to the labor and delivery room I was so scared because I never had this happen in
my life before so I didn’t know what to expect from this situation before. My mom called my
boyfriend and told him I was in labor and she told him if they were able to come to the hospital
to see the baby be born but I guess they had something to do so my mom said she was going to
check on my dad and my brother. Couple minutes after she left my doctor came in and she
induced my labor.
I went in to the delivery room and I was so scared because I was all on my own I didn’t know
what to do and how to react to the situation I was in the nurse asked if I wanted my dad to come
in but I said no because my brother couldn’t come in to the delivery room and I didn’t want to
leave my brother outside. I was surprised at how quick my labor went I thought my labor would
go on for hours but then I remembered some of my friends telling me if this is your first baby it
will go pretty fast. When my mom and my boyfriend came back to the delivery room the baby
was already born and my mom was upset that she had missed me giving birth to the baby.
My advice to teens is don’t have a baby until you are at least ready to be able to raise and
support a baby. Personally I think teens should at least be able to settle down with someone
they love and also they shouldn’t just have a baby just to keep their relationship together like
most teen couples that have a baby just to keep their relationship from falling apart. I think teens
who are trying to have a baby should wait until there at least out of school and in to collage
before they start having a baby is what I think is best if I could re do everything I would of waited
until I was in college or at least married before I brought a baby in to this world. A baby is not a
puppy you can’t just play with it and put it down or just walk away from the baby it’s helpless it
depends on its parents to be there for the baby.
Thank you for reading my story Jasmine