Got Cyber Etiquette?
Darcy W Hardy,PhD
April 18, 2013
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What is Cyber Etiquette?
(also called Internet Etiquette, iEtiquette, Netiquette,
Technology Etiquette, Digital Etiquette, etc.)
Netiquette /net-i-ket/, Noun: 1. The social code of
network communication. 2. The social and moral
code of the internet based on the human condition
and Golden Rule of Netiquette. 3. A philosophy of
effective internet communication that utilizes
common conventions and norms as a guide for rules
and standards.
www.networketiquette.net
What is Cyber Etiquette?
Manners applied to the Internet and the use
of technology in everyday situations.
Two examples of breaches of technology
etiquette are checking email messages in
meetings or taking cell phone calls during
business lunches.
- computer.yourdictionary.com
Facebook basics
• Do not post private matters. Call rather than
message extremely personal matters.
• When someone posts a question, respond if
appropriate.
• Avoid posting comments on every post.
• Be careful of your tone.
• Don’t try to friend someone you don’t know.
• Do not tag your friends in an unflattering photo.
• Don’t overshare, personally or professionally.
• No flaming.
• Do NOT repost or re-tweet chains.
Oh Rick…
Unwritten Rules, Written
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STOP.WITH.THE.SELFIES.
The untag button is your friend.
Profile pic vs. cover pic shelf lives – who knew?
ONE status update per day and no bad statuses.
Don’t advertise “it’s complicated.”
Keep comments to a minimum.
Don’t comment unless you actually know him/her.
Don’t poke.
Don’t chat me if we don’t talk in real life.
http://totalfratmove.com/1099124
The oldest adage, revisited
If you don’t have anything nice
that anyone else will give a shit
about to say, don’t say anything at
all. And for heaven’s sake, don’t
like your own status.
http://totalfratmove.com/1099124
Facebook Post Causes Woman To Attack Her
Boyfriend With A Furby
Speaking of Photos
• People do not want to see:
• Multiple PDA photos
• Tons of blurry vacation photos
• What you are eating/are about to eat/have eaten
• Inebriated people
• Shirtless people – men OR women
• Endless baby pictures
• Profile pictures of pets, cartoon characters, or anything that
isn’t the person in the profile
• Duck face
Texting – familiar?
OMW
IIRC
CU
B/F
LTNS
WB
POS
WTG
BBL
HRU
SPST
B4N
AFAIK
M8
RL
TTYL
ADP
UL
BF
KIT
NMP
BS
OTL
FWIW
GTG
STR8
ATM
TBD
BBL
NM
TTFN
AFK
JKBN
R
B4
FYEO
PPL
BRB
BFF
TAFN
OMG
GL
IAC
JK
BC
D/L
OTW
TMI
L8
WTH
AAP
LOL
GR8
B4
NBD
GB
OP
MF
RTFM
CYA
WK
GF
OIC
PLZ
WTF
BTW
IDK
BOL
WTS
IRL
DIKU
THX
HAGS
RSN
ROTFL
CYA
IRC
OIC
MYO
B
IMHO NOYB
Linguistic miracle?
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22 million texts a day across the world
Texting – not a written language
Texting is “fingered speech.”
LOL now represents much more than Laugh Out
Loud
• Julie: Just missed my flight. LOL!
• Susie: LOL, oh no!!
• We don’t speak the way we write and vice versa:
• It was so great to see you today - 
John McWhorter – TED2013
The linguistic miracle of texts
DYAC
Bad signs
• Digital Dirt (self-incrimination)
• Terrible Troll (annoying posts everywhere)
• Big Mouth (trashing the past)
• Copious Contacts and Comments (sketchy
people and trashy posts)
• Positively Negative (I hate everything)
mindflash-Social Screening
Who’s Looking?
• 45% of employers use social media
sites to screen applicants (one survey
by Microsoft says 70%)
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Facebook – 29%
LinkedIn – 26%
Twitter – 7%
Blogs – 11%
• facebook vs. twitter damage control
Mindflash.com-Social Screening, 2011
What are they finding?
• 35% negative
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Provocative/inappropriate photos/content
Alcohol and drug use
Bad mouthing
Poor communication skills
Discriminatory comments
Lies about qualifications
Confidential information about previous
employers
Mindflash.com-Social Screening, 2011
Only 18% Positive
• Good feel for personality
• Truth about qualifications
• Creativity
• Solid communication skills
• Well-rounded
• Good references from others
• Awards and accolades
Mindflash.com-Social Screening, 2011
Can facebook get your fired?
Five employees fired from this:
“Lydia Cruz, my coworker feels that we don’t help our
clients enough at [work]. I about had it! My fellow
coworkers how do u feel?”
Hispanics United of Buffalo – 12.14.12:
NLRB and administrative law judge concluded that
“the employees’ Facebook comments amounted to
concerted activity protected under Section 7 of the
NLRA.”
-socialnetworkinglawblog.com
Nick Bilton – What did he say?
What really got people going…
“My father learned this lesson last year after leaving
me a dozen voice mail messages, none of which I
listened to. Exasperated, he called my sister to
complain that I never returned his calls. “Why are you
leaving him voice mails?” my sister asked. “No one
listens to voice mail anymore. Just text him.”
My mother realized this long ago. Now we
communicate mostly through Twitter.”
-Nick Bilton
Disruptions: Digital Era Redefining Etiquette
Bashing Nick
My heart breaks for this man's father.
SHAME SHAME ON YOU.
Get over yourself.
Maybe Mr Bilton ought to listen to the song, "Cats in
the Cradle."
• [Your father] should have called your sister and told
her how rude and what a butt you are and that he
was writing you out of the Will yes said writing not
texting or emailing but writing.
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On the other hand…
“As a 17-year-old, it’s kind of frustrating to read the
comments here and find them all made by
condescending older folks who don’t seem to get
the gist of this article. As a society, we communicate
a lot more than we used to (or, at least, the younger
half of us do). We’re constantly in touch with each
other, via text, e-mail, Facebook, whatever. If we
don’t use these tools efficiently, they will consume
huge portions of our time.”
-Jake Soiffer, Brooklyn
Academia
• “Oh, the irony. It seems particularly ironic that
academics, who make a living talking and hoping
someone is paying attention, no longer think it is
important if they themselves pay attention.” (Essig,
Chronicle, 2.27.13)
• Writing Across the Curriculum - model
• Policies and rules that are student driven.
• Sexting…men vs. women
• Help students understand the risks.
And just one more…
darcywhardy@gmail.com