LETTING GO
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SA IN T F R ANCIS UNIV ER SITY
CO UNSEL ING CENTER
David Wilson, Director
Susan Obarsky, Counselor
Barbara Barto, Administrative Assistant
Located in Room 120, Saint Francis Hall
814-472-3211
Counseling Center
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Individual, marital, group therapy
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Educational programs
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Crisis intervention & consultation
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Services are free and unlimited
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Located in 120 Saint Francis Hall
What Makes
A Good University…
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Faculty?
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Staff?
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Programs / Majors?
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Graduation Rates?
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Facilities?
What Makes
A Good University…
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If there is a problem with son or
daughter, a parent feels
confident the issue can be
resolved, and assistance is
immediate and professional.
Most Difficult Times
During Freshmen Year
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1 . The first two weeks and last two
weeks of semester
2 . Semester exams (mid-term and
final)
3 . Mid-semester and holiday
breaks
Feelings
You May Experience
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RELIEF
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FEAR
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ANXIETY
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SADNESS
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LONELINESS
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PEACE
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3 C’s
of the Freshman Year
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1. CHAOS
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New residence
New friends
New schedule
New language: RA, Professor, “Torvo”
What do we know about chaos?
3 C’s of the
Freshman Year
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2. CONFLICT
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New friends vs. old friends
Boyfriend / girlfriend separation
Space issues with sharing close
quarters
3 C’s
of the Freshman Year
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3.CRISIS
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Little things become BIG
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Everything becomes a CRISIS
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Panic – CALL
HOME
Homesickness
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NOT UNCOMMON!
Is it a vague complaint of “I just don’t want
to be here?”
Is this the same reaction that others have at
work, boot camp, high school?
Is it “normal” to struggle with something new?
“Helicopter Parents”
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DEFINITION:
Hovering so long
their offspring
never get a chance
to grow up.
“BULLDOZER
PARENTS”
“HOW CAN I
MISS YOU…
… IF YOU WON’T GO
AWAY?”
U.CAL - DAVIS
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Three R’s of
Freshmen Adjustment
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 R EASSURE
 R EINFORCE
 R EFER
X RESCUE
Time
Management
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15 HOURS OF CLASS
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10 HOURS OF STUDY
5 HOURS OF WORK
30 HOURS / 105 HOURS PER WEEK
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WHAT’S MISSING?
“BELLS”
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SEX
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PARENTS, PLEASE TALK TO
YOUR STUDENTS
ABOUT
SEX!
SEX
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List three things your student will
miss most about home this fall.
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2.
3.
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List three adjustments you
anticipate making this fall.
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2.
3.
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Questions to
SFU Freshmen
THE THREE THINGS YOU MISS
MOST SINCE COMING TO
COLLEGE?
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Answer
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1. Parents
3.
Sibling
2. My friends
4.
Bedroom
5.
Pet
How often did you communicate
with your parents?
• 1-2 TIMES PER WEEK
• 3-4 TIMES PER WEEK
• EVERY DAY & SEVERAL
TIMES PER DAY
• 5-6 TIMES PER WEEK
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How often did you communicate
with your parents?
1. 1-2 TIMES PER WEEK
2.
3-4 TIMES PER WEEK
3.
SEVERAL TIMES PER DAY OR
EVERY DAY
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How often do you recommend
parents communicate with first-year
students?
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1-2 TIMES PER WEEK
3-4 TIMES PER WEEK
5-6 TIMES PER WEEK
EVERY DAY
SEVERAL TIMES A DAY
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Answer
1. 3-4 TIMES PER WEEK
2. 1-2 TIMES PER WEEK
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How did you communicate with
parents?
• PHONE CALL
• TEXT
• FACEBOOK
• TWITTER
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Answer
1. PHONE CALL
2. TEXT
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Question
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HAS THE LEVEL OF APPRECIATION
FOR YOUR PARENTS IMPROVED,
DECREASED, OR HAS HAD NO
CHANGE?
Answer
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Mark Twain said…
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“When I was a boy of 14, my father
was so ignorant I could hardly stand
to be around the man. But when I
got to be 21, I was surprised at how
much he had learnt in 7 years.”