Culture, Class, and
Learned Helplessness:
Recognizing Our Own Issues
and Frustrations
presented by
Keith A. Bailey, Ph.D.
Keith Bailey Consulting
www.keithbaileyconsulting.com
keith@keithbaileyconsulting.com
Copyright © 2006 by Keith A. Bailey
How many times have you
heard, thought, or said:
“Why
won’t they just try harder?”
“He’s just given up?”
“She just doesn’t want to be helped!”
“Why should I keep helping them when
they won’t help themselves?”
This leads to:
We will think about:
Culture
Class
Middle-class
mindset
Learned helplessness
Recognizing our issues and frustrations
What we can do
What makes up a Culture?
Socio-economic Background
Education
Salary
Job
status
How do we assess people by
Class?
Credit lines
Disposable income
Vacations
When to start work
or retire
How many
How safe is it
paychecks they are
from homelessness
Physical and mental
(Kliman & Madsen)
well-being
Gender
Ethnicity
Religion
Sexual orientation
Where they live
Classes
Superstars
Business Owning
Professional/
Managerial
Working Class
Underclass
(Kliman & Madsen)
Upper
Middle
Lower
The Middle Class Mindset
Just
World Theory
“You
The
get what you deserve.”
American Dream
“If
you just work hard enough, you can be
anything you want to be.”
An
Internal Locus of Control
Learned Helplessness
There
“I’ll
No
Is No Justice
get a bad deal no matter what I do.”
Dream
“Why
work at it; it’s not going to get any
better.”
External
Locus of Control
Learned Helplessness
Seligman’s
experiments with dogs
Learned Helplessness
Motivational
Deficit
Cognitive Deficit
Emotional Deficit
Children and
Learned Helplessness
Abuse
Can
associate old events with new
situations
Attribution of failure made to self rather
than the circumstances
Personal helplessness
Universal helplessness
Learned
helplessness can lead to
depression.
Learned helplessness
leads to
hopelessness
Helplessness can be
Unlearned
Seligman’s
We
dogs …
… the rest of the story.
can help our children and families
unlearn helplessness by helping them to
succeed and gain control in their lives.
But first …
…we
have to remember that our own
class background will color our view of
those with whom we work
But first …
…we
have to understand our mindsets
as opposed to theirs … and be
sympathetic (understanding) or even
empathetic (sharing of feelings).
“…we
must … fit our understanding to
[children and] families rather than fitting
[children and] families to our
understanding.”
(Kliman & Madsen)
“The poor and lower classes, because of
their lack of resources and power, often
are unable to manage stressful events
will, and thus remain highly vulnerable
as they depend on the coping strategies
of passive acceptance or fatalism
simply because
these are all they have.”
(Pauline Boss)
Then …
… we have to deal with our frustrations and
not give up on them, too.
Vent to a peer or supervisor
Be patient and persistent
Problem solve
Be patient
Seek guidance
Be persistent
Pray or meditate …
…to develop the patience of a saint
But …
don’t give up.
…
Because they need …
…AND YOU MAY BE THEIR LAST HOPE !!
Help and Hope
Regain
[or gain] self-esteem in self or
family member and pride in themselves
or in the family as a team
Regain
control over what happens to
themselves or to the family members,
individually and as a group.
(Pauline Boss)
Help and Hope
Make
some bit of sense out of what
happened by finding some meaning in
what happened.
Share
with others while actively working
to prevent it from happening again.
(Pauline Boss)
Help and Hope
Set
them up to succeed
Point
out and praise every success,
no matter how small.
What are your successes in
helping others to succeed?
You are the
embodiment of hope
for someone.
References
Boss, P. (1988). Family stress manamement. Newbury Park, CA:
Sage Press.
Kliman, J. & Madsen, W. (1999). Social class and the family life
cycle. In B. Carter & M McGoldrick (Eds.), The expanded family
life cycle: Individual, family and social perspectives (pp. 88105). Needham Heights, MA: Allyn & Bacon.
Martin E.P. Seligman, et al. Learned helplessness: A theory for the
age of personal control.
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