CHAPTER 9 LIFE-SPAN DEVELOPMENT PHYSICAL AND COGNITIVE DEVELOPMENT IN ADOLESCENCE 1. What is the nature of adolescence? • Dramatic biological changes • Relationships with parents, peers and teachers change • Thoughts become more abstract and idealistic • Most adolescents make transition to adult life successfully • Many do not because of too few opportunities and lack of support 2. What physical changes do we experience in adolescence? • • • • Puberty: period of rapid physical maturation Includes hormonal and bodily changes Usually early in adolescence Order of physical changes for males and females in puberty -- GEC opportunity 3. What hormonal changes occur in adolescence? • Hormones: chemicals secreted by endocrine glands • Carried throughout body using blood stream 4. Which endocrine glands are involved in adolescent changes? • Hypothalamus, pituitary and gonads • Hypothalamus = structure in the brain controlling eating and sexual behavior • Pituitary = brain structure controlling growth and regulating other glands • Gonads = testes in males and ovaries in females 5. Which hormones dominate in males and females during puberty? • Testosterone in males affects height and voice change • Estradiol (form of estrogen) in females affects changes in breasts, uterus and skeletal system • Both hormones are present in both boys and girls 6. What are other influences on changes in adolescent physical development? • Social factors contribute to changes • Stress, eating patterns, exercise, sexual activity tension and depression also affect hormonal levels 7. When does puberty begin? • For boys = as early as 10 and as late as 13 ½ • For girls = sometime between ages 9 and 15 • Specific time influenced by nutrition, health, and other environmental factors 8. What are influences on body image changes in adolescence? • Adolescents more likely preoccupied with bodies than other age groups • Girls tend to be less satisfied than boys, in general 9. How does brain develop during adolescence? • Corpus callosum thickens - improving ability to process information • Amygdala ( influences emotions, especially anger) matures earlier than prefrontal cortex • Adolescents capable of strong emotions • Prefrontal cortex not developed enough to control emotional expressions 10. How does sexual identity develop during adolescence? • Involves learning to manage sexual feelings, developing new forms of intimacy, learning skills to regulate sexual behavior • Sexual identity involves activities, interests and behavior styles • Sexual orientation develops during this time also • Wide variety in tendency toward sexual activity • May be influenced by religious and other values • Development of gay and lesbian preferences may be characterized by same-sex attractions in childhood, lack of heterosexual dating, and recognition of sexual orientation in mid- to late adolescence • Other adolescents may experience both samesex and other-sex attractions 11. What are sexually transmitted infections? • Diseases associated with sexual activity • Not prevented by use of contraceptives, such as birth control pills or implants • Examples: HIV-AIDS, gonorrhea, syphilis, chlamydia (- further discussion in chapter 11) 12. Why is adolescent pregnancy a concern? • In US - highest rate of adolescent pregnancy and childbearing among industrialized countries • Rate of pregnancy and childbearing in US decreased since 1991, because of increased contraceptive use and fear of STIs, such as AIDS • Adolescent pregnancy associated with risk for mother and baby • Often mother drops out of school • Usually mother never catches up economically with women who postpone childbearing • Risk for rapid subsequent pregnancies • Infants have higher risk of low birth weight and neurological problems • Pregnancy alone not associated with negative consequences • Adolescent mothers likely from low-SES families • Adolescent pregnancy in general is high-risk circumstance • Support for adolescent mothers is important in assisting educational and occupational opportunities 13. What are issues important in adolescent health? • Nutrition and exercise affect quality of health • Poor nutrition and low-level exercise major contributors to obesity in adolescence • Problems with nutrition and health can lead to poor health habits and early death in adult life • Sleep patterns also contribute to general health in adolescence • Inadequate sleep associated with fatigue, sleepiness, irritability, depression and increased use of beverages containing caffeine • Increased sleepiness during the day in older adolescents associated with changing biological rhythms 14. What are major causes of death in adolescence? • Accidents (Risky driving habits (speeding and tailgating, driving under influence of alcohol or drugs) • Homicide (especially among African-American male adolescents) • Suicide ( discussed further in chapter 10) 15. How do parents, peers and school environment affect substance use and abuse in adolescence? • Special concern for children who begin use in early adolescence or childhood • Person who begins drinking before age 14 more likely to become alcohol dependent than peers who wait • Positive relationships with parents and others associated with lower probability to have substance use problems 16. What are 2 eating disorders affecting adolescent development? • Anorexia nervosa = obsession with being thin associated with starvation • Symptoms = (1) weighing less than 85% of normal weight for height and bone size; • (2) intense fear of gaining weight; • (3) having distorted body image • Anorexia nervosa usually begins in early to middle adolescence • Most people affected are young, white individuals in adolescence or early adulthood • Usually from middle-class, well-educated families • Set high standards, feel stress about not meeting standards and obsessed about how others perceive them • Bulimia nervosa = individual consistently follows a binge-and-purge pattern • Consumes large amounts of high-calorie food followed by purging through vomiting or use of laxatives • Preoccupied with food, strong fear of being overweight, experience depression and anxiety 17. How does Piaget’s theory describe cognitive development during adolescence? • Piaget believed the formal operational stage of cognitive development begins during adolescence • Formal operational stage associated with ability to think more abstractly • No longer limited to actual experiences to anchor thinking • Increased ability to develop make-believe situations, abstract propositions and hypothetical situations • Example in verbal problem-solving ability • Formal operational thinker can think through the process involving A, B, and C and understand that if A=B and B=C, then A=C without actually seeing concrete examples of A,B, and C • Another example is ability to think about thinking ( metacognition and considering the nature of thought) • Adolescents also display idealism and concern with possibilities • Speculate about ideal characteristics and qualities • Can lead to comparison with others in light of these ideal qualities • Adolescent formal operational thinkers begin to use hypothetical-deductive reasoning • Creating a hypothesis and deducing implications and possible consequences • Also develop ways to test hypotheses 18. What criticisms have been applied to Piaget’s ideas? • GEC possibility 19. What is adolescent egocentrism? • Heightened self-consciousness • 2 key components: • (1) imaginary audience = belief that others are as interested in them as they themselves are • Associated with attempts to gain attention by others • and • (2) personal fable = associated with sense of uniqueness and invincibility or invulnerability • Can lead to risky behaviors and believing that nothing bad will happen as a result 20. How does information processing theory describe cognition during adolescence? • Most important change in adolescent thinking is improved executive functioning • Involves reasoning, decision-making, monitoring critical thinking, and monitoring thinking progress • Improved executive functioning leads to more effective learning, improved use of attention and critical thinking 21. How does decision making change during adolescence? • Increased time in decision-making – concerning friends, dating, possibility of sex, plans for the future • Adolescents, more so than children, can generate different options, evaluate them, anticipate the consequences and consider source credibility • Ability to make good decisions not always associated with actually carrying them out in a specific life situation ( example, driving) 22. How does critical thinking change during adolescence? • Increases with age • Not as frequent as might be expected in late adolescence • If fundamental skills (literacy and math) are undeveloped, critical thinking skills also likely to be immature • Improved critical thinking allows 4 benefits 23. Benefits of improved critical thinking • (1) increased speed and automaticity • (2)increased breadth of content knowledge in variety of domains • (3) increased ability to construct new knowledge combinations • (4)greater range and more spontaneity of using strategies for obtaining and applying knowledge 24. What are characteristics of how schools influence adolescent development? • First year of transition can be difficult • Transition occurs at same time adolescents are experiencing physical, emotional and social changes • Adolescents may experience the top-dog phenomenon • Moving from being biggest, oldest and most experienced to being youngest, smallest and least powerful 25. What recommendations have been made to create effective educational environments for young adolescents? • GEC possibility 26. What are concerns about the high school experience affects adolescent development? • Criticism that high schools encourage passivity • Recommendation that schools create variety of paths to develop secure identity • Concern that many students graduate with deficient reading, writing and math skills • Increased concern about high school drop outs 27. What is service learning? • Form of education promoting social responsibility and service to community • Encourages activities such as tutoring, helping older adults and assisting at child care centers • Can lead to decrease in being self-centered and more motivated to help others 28. What are 2 conditions that make service learning more effective? • (1) giving students a degree of choice as to the service learning activity they participate in • (2) providing students with opportunities to reflect on their service learning experiences • Have resulted in higher grades, increased goalsetting and higher self-esteem and improved sense of making a difference in the lives of others CHAPTER 10 Socioemotional Development in Adolescence 1. What is identity? • • • • • • Self-portrait Career and work path Political identity Religious identity Relationships Achievement and intellectual identity • • • • • Sexual identity Cultural and ethnic identity Hobbies and interest Personality Physical identity 2. Erikson’s view • 5th developmental stage • Psychological moratorium • -- gap between childhood security and adult autonomy • Free to try out new identities • Experimentation to find place in the world 3. Developmental changes • • • • • Continuous during adolescence Begins with attachment Sense of self Emergence of independence Final phase with life review in old age • Late adolescence - physical, cognitive and socioemotional development allows synthesizing and constructing adult maturity • 4 stages of identity- • Diffusion – not yet experience crisis or make commitment • Foreclosure – make a commitment but not experience crisis; especially with authoritarian parenting style • Moratorium – experiencing crisis with no commitment • Achievement – past crisis and has made an identity commitment 4. Beyond Erikson • Key changes in identity may occur in early adult life – 18-25 years • MAMA cycle possible during adult life – moratorium and achievement alternation 5. Family influences • Individuality has 2 dimensions • - self-assertion, when you have and communicate a point of view • - separateness, using communication to express difference from others • Connectedness also has 2 dimensions • - mutuality, or sensitivity to and respect for others • - permeability, openness to others’ views • Identity formation supported by family relationship characterized by • Individuation, encouraging adolescent to develop an independent point of view • Connectedness, providing secure base for exploring • Strong connection and weak individuation results in identity foreclosure • Weak connection leads to identity confusion 6. Ethnic identity • Includes sense of membership in an ethnic group • Also attitudes and feelings associated with ethnic membership • If member of ethnic minority, can choose among 2+ sources of identity • May develop bicultural or multicultural identity 7. Autonomy and attachment • Parents may have difficulty coping with adolescent’s search for autonomy and responsibility • Adolescent ability to gain control of behavior develops best if adult support is appropriate • Wise adults gradually allow adolescent to make mature decisions on their own 8. Role of attachment • Securely attached adolescents less likely to engage in problem behaviors such as illegal drug use and delinquency • Also more likely to have positive peer relationships • Caution: moderate correlations 9. Parent-Adolescent conflict • Most conflict experienced in everyday situations • Conflict may increase in early adolescence, stabilize in mid-adolescence and decrease in late adolescence • Every day conflict can serve positive developmental function • Transition to increasing independence • Old model- • Suggest adolescents detach from parents as they mature • High stress and intense conflict • New model- • Parents are important attachment source and support system • Moderate conflict 10. Competent adolescent have parents who: • Show warmth and respect • Demonstrate sustained interest • Understand and adapt to cognitive and socioemotional changes • Communicate expectations for high standards • Recognize moderate conflict is normal • Demonstrate constructive ways to resolve problems • Understand the developmental journey 11. Peers • Friendships- • In adolescence, fewer friendships and more intense and intimate • More important • Failure to develop intimacy can lead to loneliness and depression with reduced sense of self-esteem • Young adolescents more influenced my peer pressure • Cliques – small groups, usually same sex and same age, may develop from club or sport activities • Crowds – larger and less personal, membership based on reputation – Defined by activities and level of self-esteem 12. Developmental changes in dating • Usually 10th to 12th grade before relationships last more than 2+ months • Early adolescents usually gather in groups for social acitivites • Cyberdating can begin in middle school – Hazardous – Declines in high school when real-life relationships more important 13. Gay and lesbian dating • May go out with same-sex peers to clarify sexual identity or disguise it • Relatively rare in adolescence because of few opportunities and social disapproval 14. Cross-cultural comparisons • Variations in adolescent behavior – 2/3 Asian Indian adolescents accept parent choice of marital partner – Philippines, many female adolescents migrate to city to work and support families – Middle East, adolescents do not interact with peers, even in school • Street youth in Kenya and other countries, if abandoned by parents engage in delinquency or prostitution to survive 15. Health • Improved in some areas and not in others • Few adolescents die from infectious diseases and malnutrition • Increased health-risky behaviors such as drug use and unprotected sex 16. Gender • In many countries outside US, males have greater access to educational opportunities • Females usually have less freedom to pursue variety of careers and engage in leisure activities • Especially in Southeast Asia, Latin America and Arab countries – more restrictions on sexual activities of adolescent females 17. Families • In some countries outside US, close-knit families and extensive extended family networks • In US, parenting usually less authoritarian – More adolescents grow up in divorced families or step-families 18. Peers • Cultural differences in peer influences – South American street youth peers can serve as substitute family for survival 19. Ethnicity • Immigration- high rates contribute to growing cultural minorities in US • Characterized by stressors uncommon for native residents – Language barriers – Dislocations and separation from support networks – Change in SES status – Dual struggle to maintain identity and acculturate • Assimilation – absorption of ethnic minority groups into dominant culture – May mean loss of behaviors and values from ethnic minority group • Pluralism – – Coexistence of distinct cultural and ethnic groups in same society 20. Ethnicity and socioeconomic status • May interact in ways that exaggerate influence of ethnicity • Ethnic minorities overrepresented in lower SES groups • Poverty adds to stress of ethnic minority adolescents • Double disadvantage :1) prejudice, discrimination and bias because of ethnic minority status • 2) stressful effects of poverty 21. Juvenile delinquency • Breaking the law or engaging in illegal behavior • Broad concept: littering to murder • More likely male than female • More frequently property offense than personal offenses • Delinquent rates higher for minority and lower SES groups than for others • Causes - • Many proposed – -heredity – Identity problems – Community and family influences --characteristics of lower SES culture may promote delinquency – Norms of lower SES peer groups may be antisocial and counter to goals and norms of larger society • Adolescents in communities with high crime rates – Characterized by poverty, unemployment, and feelings of alienation from general society – Lack quality schooling, educational funding and organized activitiesd 22. Depression • • • • More likely in adolescents than children Higher in girls than in boys Females more likely to ruminate about moods Female self-image more likely negative compared to that of boys • Females encounter more discrimination • • • • • • Family factors – depression more likely if parents are depressed, emotionally unavailable, experiencing marital conflict, having financial problems • Peer relationship influences • Depression more likely if peer relationships are unsatisfactory • If no best friend • Having troubles with friends • Experiencing peer rejection • • • • Suicide more likely if – Long history of family problems Family instability and unhappiness Lack affection and emotional support • Suicide – cont. • Experience high control and pressure for high achievement • Physical or sexual abuse • Lack supportive friendship network • Recent or current stressful experiences Life-span exam 3 notes • Chapter 11 • Physical and cognitive development in early adulthood 1. Transition from adolescence to adulthood • Emerging adulthood (18-25 years) • Identity exploration, especially in love and work • Instability (residential changes) • Self-focused – autonomy in running own lives • Feeling in-between • Age of possibilities – opportunity to transform lives 2. Markers of becoming an adult • In US, having more or less permanent full-time job • Economic independence • Wide variability in individual independent between ages of 17-27 (309) • Taking responsibility for one’s own actions • In other countries – marriage is an important marker 3. Transition from high school to college (309) • Involves stress and change • Recurrence of top-dog experience? • May involve moving to more impersonal school structure • More geographically and culturally diverse • Increased focus on achievement and assessment • Positive features of college life: • Feel more adult • More time to spend with peers • More time to explore different lifestyles and values • More independence from parental monitoring • Many colleges have counseling centers to help cope with stress • Provide information on coping and academic matters • (310) 4. Physical development (310) • Often reach peak physical development between 19-26 • Same for athletes as well as non-athletes • Begin physical decline at this time • Muscle tone and strength begin to decrease around age 30 • Sensory abilities show little change • Lens of eye loses some elasticity • Hearing peaks in adolescence and seems stable during early adulthood • Increase of fatty tissue begins 5. Health (311) • Emerging adults have > 2x mortality rate of adolescents • True of males more so than females • Have fewer chronic health problems • Most bad health habits begun in adolescence continue into early adulthood • Inactivity, diet, obesity, substance use, reproductive health care, health-care access get worse • If develop poor health habits – • Not eat breakfast • Not eat regular meals • Rely on snacks as main food source • Eat excessively to point of being obese • Smoking and/or drinking moderately or heavily • Getting by on few hours of sleep • Poor health habits contribute to level of life satisfaction • Health habits can be improved: – Eating healthy kinds and amounts of food – Appropriate exercise – Avoid abusing drugs 6. Eating and weight • (312) • Obesity is serious and pervasive issue • Defined as having BMI of 30+ • Linked to hypertension, diabetes and cardiovascular disease • Dieting: • Practiced by many • Low rate of continuing success • Most effective programs involve exercise • Places individual at risk for other problems – Yo-yo weight loss and gain – Liquid diets and low-calories diets linked to gall bladder damage 7. Regular exercise • (313) • Exercise helps to prevent disease – Heart disease and diabetes – Recommend 30 minutes of aerobic exercise per day – Aerobic = sustained, stimulating heart and lung activity • Exercise also • Improves self-concept • Reduces anxiety and depression 8. Substance abuse • Alcohol use • Binge drinking increases during college years • Chronic binge drinking more characteristic of males • Consequences of binge drinking: missing classes, physical injuries, problems with police, unprotected sex • Binge drinking peaks at ages 21-22 • (314) • Alcoholism - • Disorder involving long-term, repeated uncontrolled compulsive and excessive alcohol use • Impairs health and social relationships • High frequency of first-degree relatives who abuse alcohol • Cigarette smoking and nicotine - • Dangers of smoking or being around smokers • Linked to death as a result of cancer, heart disease, chronic pulmonary problems • Secondhand smoke linked to lung cancer • Addiction to nicotine makes quitting difficult • Nicotine is stimulant • Increases energy and alertness • Stimulates neurotransmitters that have calming or pain-reducing effect • Quitting smoking reduces risk of cancer death 9. Sexuality • Sexual activity (315) • By age 18 more than 60% have experienced sexual intercourse • By age 25, most have experienced sexual intercourse • Age 18-25 is time most likely sexually active and unmarried • Patterns of heterosexuality - • 1)males more likely to have casual sex and females more selective • 2)casual sex more likely between 18-25 than other times of life • Sexual orientation and behavior -(316) • Heterosexual attitudes and behavior: • 3 categories: 1/3 have sex 2x/week+, 1/3 have sex few times/month, 1/3 few times/yr or not at all • Married and cohabiting couples have sex more frequently than noncohabiting couples 10. From 1994 survey • Most Americans do not report kinky sex activities • Adultery is more the exception than the rule • Men think about sex more so than females • Sources of sexual orientation - • Until late 1800’s, most believed people were either heterosexual or homosexual • More recently, sexual orientation is viewed as a continuum: male-female, same-sex or bisexual • Most people, regardless of orientation, experience similar physiological arousal during sexual activity • Most people report no differences in attitudes, behaviors and adjustments regarding sexual activity • Link between same-sex orientation and being exposed to high levels of hormones • characteristic of female fetuses between 2-5 months of prenatal development • Possible reason why same-sex orientation s difficult to modify • same-sex orientation likely determined by • combination of environmental, physiological, hereditary and cognitive factors • Attitudes and behavior of lesbians and gay males - • Gender differences characteristic of heterosexual relationships also appear in same-sex and GLB relationships • Lesbians and gay males develop bicultural identity • (317) • May adapt best if don’t define themselves in either-or terms • Sexually-transmitted infections - • Diseases contracted primarily through sexual activity • Including intercourse, oral-anal and oral genital contact • Most common: • bacterial infections (gonorrhea, syphilis, Chlamydia) and • those caused by viruses (AIDS, genital herpes, and genital warts) • Most serious STI: infection caused by HIV which destroys body’s immune system • (319) • Best strategies for protecting against HIV and AIDS: • Knowing your and your partner’s risk status • Having regular physical exams • Having protected sex • Avoiding sex with multiple partners 11. Forcible sexual behavior and sexual harrassment • Rape - • Forcible and nonconsensual sexual intercourse • Definitions vary from state to state • Victims may be reluctant to experience consequences of reporting rape • Women more likely victims of rape • Traumatic for victims and those close to them • Consequences of rape - • Depression and anxiety • Increased substance use and/or abuse • Sexual dysfunction (reduced desire and inability to experience orgasm) • Date or acquaintance rape is increasing concern • Coercive sexual activity with someone known to the victims • Sexual harassment - • Power display of one person over another • Many forms: • inappropriate sexual remarks and physical contact, • blatant propositions and • physical assault • Women more likely victims than men • Serious psychological consequences 12. Cognitive development • (321) • Piaget’s view - • Concluded adults and adolescents think qualitatively basically the same • At 11-15 years we enter formal operational stage • Young adults more quantitatively advanced compared to adolescents • Piaget and information processing theorists believe - • adults increase amount of knowledge in specific areas 13. Realistic and pragmatic thinking • Realistic – idealism of adolescents decreases as young adults face realities of postadolescent life • Switch from acquiring knowledge to applying knowledge as pursue success in employment 14. Reflective and relativistic thinking • Adolescents often view world in either-or terms and polarities • Young adults often move away from absolutist thinking • Reflective thinking also becomes possible • Developmental changes - • Young children often have • idealistic fantasies of what life will be like as adults (superheroes, sports or entertainment stars) • High school age adolescents – • think about careers, • less idealistic as realize the requirements for certain occupations • Late adolescents and young adults • become aware of training and educational requirements in terms of college majors • By early to mid-20’s, many are settling into full-time employment • Begin to establish themselves in their chosen career fields • (324) • Monitoring occupational outlook - • Important to be knowledgeable about a variety of career fields and employers • Good source is Occupational Outlook Handbook • OOH describes employment possibilities for various career fields as well as • training/education requirements and job duties and responsibilities 15. Impact of work and employment • Work defines an important part of a person’s identity • Influences financial standing, housing, where and how we spend our time, friendships and health • Creates structure and rhythm to life, often not conscious of until missed • Creates stress • (324) • 4 characteristics of work settings linked to stress and health problems – High job demands – Inadequate opportunities to participate in decision making – High level of supervisor control – Lack of clarity about criteria for competent performance • • • • • • (325) Work during college - Many college students work full or part-time Can help pay for or offset college expenses Can restrict student opportunities to learn Increased work hours linked to increased risk of dropping out of school • Employment can contribute positively to education • Cooperative or co-op programs involve paid apprenticeships for students • Internships or summer employment can support education, especially in your field of study • Can lead to employment after graduation • (325) • Dual career couples - • May have special problems balancing work and other life responsibilities • If both partners work, sharing household tasks can be an issue • Having children as well can cause complications • (236) • For dual career couples, division of home responsibilities is changing: • US men take increased responsibility for maintaining the home • US women taking increased responsibility for working outside the home • US men showing greater interest in family life and parenting • Diversity in the workplace - • In developed countries, women increasingly working outside the home • Ethnic diversity increasing in the workplace • Women and ethnic minority members experience problems breaking through glass ceiling (invisible barrier to career advancement and being hired in managerial positions ARE THERE ANY QUESTIONS? • REQUIRED EXAM AND SGQ CONTENT FROM CHAPTERS 9, 10, 11 • BRING YOUR REFERENCE CARD TO THE EXAM LIFESPAN DEVELOPMENT • CHAPTER 12 • SOCIOEMOTIONAL DEVELOPMENT IN EARLY ADULTHOOD • SOURCE OF BONUS ITEM CONTENT Intimacy • 331 • Self-disclosure and sharing private thoughts important for intimacy • 332 • Erikson’s stage of intimacy versus isolation • Inability to establish meaningful relationships can interfere with healthy personality development • Important to develop balance between intimacy and isolation • Challenge of developing independence from parents • Task of making own decisions without relaying excessively on other people • 332 • • • • • Friendship in adult life serves several functions Companionship Intimacy Support Source of self-esteem • Friends can be better source of support in times of stress compared to family members • We choose our friends • Adult friends tend to come from same age group • 333 • Romantic love • Also called passionate love • Strong components of sexuality and infatuation • Complex combination of passion, fear, anger, sexual desire, joy and jealousy • Affectionate love • Also called companionate love • Occurs when desire to have another person close by • Deep caring affection for the other person • 334 • Consummate love • (can think of love components [Sternberg, 1988] as intimacy, commitment and passion) • Involves optimal levels of all three components • Infatuation = high in passion, low in commitment • Affectionate love = high in intimacy and commitment; lower in passion • • • • • Single adults 335 Enjoy lifestyles Can be stereotyped Swinging single versus being desperately lonely • Singles share some issues • Common problems: forming intimate relationships, confronting loneliness, finding place in a couples-oriented society • Advantages of being single • Time to make decisions about life, time to develop personal resources, freedom to make decisions on your own, opportunities to explore possibilities and new places • 335 • Cohabiting adults • Living together in sexual relationship without being married • Percentage increased between 1970 and 2005 • May view cohabiting as on-going lifestyle • Avoid official aspects of marriage • • • • Cohabiting relationships tend to be short-lived Offers problems as well as advantages Increased risk of domestic violence Higher level of disapproval from parents and friends • Difficulty with owning property jointly • Married adults • Stable marriage viewed as most desired endpoint of adult relationship development until about 1930 • More recently, personal fulfillment more often a goal compared to marriage stability • Benefits of a good marriage • Live longer, healthier lives • Potential for lower level of biological and cardiovascular risk factors • Divorced adults • Number of divorced adults increased between 1950 and 2002 • • • • • • Risk factors for divorce: Youthful marriage Low educational level Lack of religious affiliation Having parents who are divorce Having a baby before marriage • 337 • Divorce more likely early in marriage • Remarried adults • Divorced adults usually remarry within 4 years of divorce • Men remarry sooner than women • Stepfamilies occur in many forms • 338 • Strategies for coping with stress of living in a stepfamily • Have realistic expectations • Develop new positive relationships within the family • Gay male and lesbian adults • Gay and lesbian relationships tend to be similar to heterosexual relationships in satisfactions, joys, loves and conflicts • Increasing number of gml couples create families that include children • 338 - misconceptions about gml relationships • Stereotype of having one masculine and one feminine partner true in small percentage of relationships • Having large number of multiple partners is rare • 338 • Majority of gml individuals prefer long-term, committed relationships • • • • 339 Gottman, 1994; Principles for making marriage work Establish love maps – personal insights and detailed maps of partner’s life and world • Nurture fondness and admiration – • Turn toward your partner rather than away, seeing your partner as a friend • Allow your partner to influence you • Create shared meaning, being honest and sensitive with your partner • Becoming a parent • Requires number of interpersonal skills • Imposes emotional demands • Learning to be a parent presents challenges • 340 • Trends in childbearing • Women who give birth to fewer children have more freedom in other aspects of their lives • Increased numbers of women who work outside the home invest less actual time in children’s development • Men are investing more time in parenting • Parental care is often supplemented by institutional care • Dealing with divorce • Think of divorce as opportunity to grow personally • Make decisions carefully • Focus more on future than on the past • 342 • Use strengths and resources to cope with problems • Don’t expect to be happy and successful in everything you do • • • • • 342 Gender, communication and relationships Tannen (1990) Report talk – designed to give information Rapport talk – language of conversation, establishing connections and negotiating relationships