Restoring the Foundations
Orphan Heart
Orphan Lifestyle
Chester and Betsy Kylstra
An Orphan
What Is An Orphan?
 One who does not have parents.
 One who believes he is all alone.
 One who believes he has to take care of
himself;
i.e., his survival depends on his own
efforts. He is without help or support.
HE IS ON HIS OWN!
Adam and Eve started the
process …..
and this Curse of the
“Orphan Lifestyle/Heart”
continues within the Human
Race
….. Even to Today!
Orphan Heart/Lifestyle
(Orphan Spirit – Jack Frost)
Stands on Two Pillars
Orphan Heart/LS
Abandonment
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Neglected
Rejected
Isolated
Victimized
Abused
Rebellion
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Deception
Defiance
Reject Parents (fire them)
Independence
Self-Sufficiency
But Jesus …..
Galations 4:4-5
4:4 But when the fulness of the time was
come, God sent forth his Son, made of a
woman, made under the law,
4:5 To redeem them that were under the
law, that we might receive the adoption of
sons.
But Jesus:
John 14:18
I will not leave you as orphans; I will
come to you.
Father’s Love
Contrasting the Orphan with the Son
* From Jack Frost’s Teaching on the Father’s Love
Father’s Love #1*
Orphan: Off-Center Father’s Love
Sonship: On-Center
Seeing God as
Master
Seeing God as
Loving Father
IMAGE OF
GOD
* From Jack Frost’s Teaching on the Father’s Love
Image of God
 Seeing God as Master
 Seeing God as Loving Father
Father’s Love #1*
Orphan: Off-Center Father’s Love
Sonship: On-Center
Seeing God as
Master
IMAGE OF
GOD
Seeing God as
Loving Father
Slaves/Servants
POSITION
Sons & Daughters
* From Jack Frost’s Teaching on the Father’s Love
Father’s Love #1*
Orphan: Off-Center Father’s Love
Sonship: On-Center
Seeing God as
Master
IMAGE OF
GOD
Seeing God as
Loving Father
Slaves/Servants
POSITION
Sons & Daughters
Independent & Self- DEPENDENCY Interdependent &
Reliant
Submissive
* From Jack Frost’s Teaching on the Father’s Love
Father’s Love #1*
Orphan: Off-Center Father’s Love
Sonship: On-Center
Seeing God as
Master
IMAGE OF
GOD
Seeing God as
Loving Father
Slaves/Servants
POSITION
Sons & Daughters
Independent & Self- DEPENDENCY Interdependent &
Reliant
Submissive
Love of Law
THEOLOGY
Law of Love
* From Jack Frost’s Teaching on the Father’s Love
Father’s Love #1*
Orphan: Off-Center Father’s Love
Sonship: On-Center
Seeing God as
Master
IMAGE OF
GOD
Seeing God as
Loving Father
Slaves/Servants
POSITION
Sons & Daughters
Independent & Self- DEPENDENCY Interdependent &
Reliant
Submissive
Love of Law
THEOLOGY
Law of Love
Insecure-No peace,
Burdens, Anxieties
SECURITY
Rest & Peace
* From Jack Frost’s Teaching on the Father’s Love
Father’s Love #2
Orphan: Off-Center Father’s Love
Sonship: On-Center
Seek the Praise of
man, which leads
to striving and
insecurity
Rest in Father’s
acceptance and
being justified by
grace
NEED FOR
APPROVAL
Father’s Love #2
Orphan: Off-Center Father’s Love
Sonship: On-Center
Seek the Praise of
man, which leads
to striving and
insecurity
Motivated by a
need for personal
achievement which
leads to a fear of
failure in God’s
eyes and thus,
deserving of
rejection
Rest in Father’s
acceptance and
being justified by
grace
Love precedes
service -- Service is
motivated by deep
gratitude for being
loved and accepted
unconditionally by
the Father
NEED FOR
APPROVAL
MOTIVE FOR
SERVICE
Father’s Love #3
Orphan: Off-Center Father’s Love
Sonship: On-Center
Duty & Burden
Pleasure & Delight
MOTIVE
BEHIND
CHRISTIAN
DISCIPLINES
Father’s Love #3
Orphan: Off-Center Father’s Love
Sonship: On-Center
Duty & Burden
Pleasure & Delight
“Must” be holy,
thus driven by
ever-increasing
guilt and shame
MOTIVE
BEHIND
CHRISTIAN
DISCIPLINES
MOTIVE FOR
PURITY
“Want to” be holy;
do not want anything
to hinder intimate
relationship
Father’s Love #3
Orphan: Off-Center Father’s Love
Sonship: On-Center
Duty & Burden
Pleasure & Delight
“Must” be holy,
thus driven by
ever-increasing
guilt and shame
Compare yourself
with others – a
form of selfrejection
MOTIVE
BEHIND
CHRISTIAN
DISCIPLINES
MOTIVE FOR
PURITY
IMAGE OF
YOURSELF
“Want to” be holy;
do not want anything
to hinder intimate
relationship
Fully loved and
accepted as you are
Father’s Love #4
Orphan: Off-Center Father’s Love
Sonship: On-Center
Seeks counterfeit
affections –
addictions,
compulsions,
busyness,
escapism, hyperreligious activity
Daily seeks rest and
comfort in the
loving arms of
Father
COMFORT
Father’s Love #4
Orphan: Off-Center Father’s Love
Sonship: On-Center
Seeks counterfeit
affections –
addictions,
compulsions,
busyness,
escapism, hyperreligious activity
Competition,
rivalry, and jealous
of other’s success
and position
Daily seeks rest and
comfort in the
loving arms of
Father
COMFORT
RELATIONSHIP Humility & Unity –
WITH OTHERS Valuing others and
able to rejoice with
other’s successes
and grieving with
them over their
failures
Father’s Love #5
Orphan: Off-Center Father’s Love
Sonship: On-Center
Accusation &
Exposure
Love covers; seek to
restore in a spirit of
love & gentleness
HANDLING
OTHER’S
FAULTS
Father’s Love #5
Orphan: Off-Center Father’s Love
Sonship: On-Center
Accusation &
Exposure
HANDLING
OTHER’S
FAULTS
Love covers; seek to
restore in a spirit of
love & gentleness
Bondage
CONDITION
Liberty
Father’s Love #5
Orphan: Off-Center Father’s Love
Sonship: On-Center
Accusation &
Exposure
HANDLING
OTHER’S
FAULTS
Love covers; seek to
restore in a spirit of
love & gentleness
Bondage
CONDITION
Liberty
Distant
SENSE OF
GOD’S
PRESENCE
Close & Intimate
Father’s Love #6
Orphan: Off-Center Father’s Love
Conditional,
guarded, based on
other’s
performance –
seeking to get own
love need met in
others
Sonship: On-Center
EXPRESSION Patient, affectionate,
OF LOVE TO & gentle – laying
OTHERS
your life and
agendas down in
order to meet other’s
love need
Restoring the Foundations
Orphan Heart
Orphan Lifestyle
Applying the Four Ministry Areas
Key Facets of
Restoring the Foundations Ministry
 Forgiveness
 Sins of the Fathers and Resulting Curses
– Removing Affects of Generational Sins
 Ungodly Beliefs – Renewing the Mind
 Soul/Spirit Hurts – Healing the Inner Wounds
 Demonic Oppression – Deliverance
 Ongoing Cooperation with the Holy Spirit
– “Walking it Out”
Orphan Heart: Core Ungodly Beliefs
• I am all alone.
• No one cares about me.
• I have to take care of myself.
• The World is a cold, cruel, dangerous
place.
Typical Judgments and Vows
• People are dangerous.
• I will never trust anyone again.
• It is not safe to be submitted to another.
• I will not let anyone control me.
• Other people are incompetent.
• I will do “it” my way.
Sonship Prayer
Key Facets of
Restoring the Foundations Ministry
– Forgiveness
 Sins of the Fathers and Resulting Curses
– Removing Affects of Generational Sins
 Ungodly Beliefs – Renewing the Mind
 Soul/Spirit Hurts – Healing the Inner Wounds
 Demonic Oppression – Deliverance
– Ongoing Cooperation with the Holy Spirit
“Walking it Out”
Restoring the Foundations
Orphan Heart/Lifestyle
Ministry
Chester and Betsy Kylstra
Orphan Heart: Sins of the Fathers and Curses
Fear
Rebellion
of Submission
Unsubmissiveness Rejection
Entrapment
of Authorities
Independence
Wanderer
Slavery
of Man
Self-Reliance
Fatherless
Bondage
of Failure
Self-Sufficiency
Shame
Desolation
of Rejection
Stubbornness
Slave Mentality
Resistance
Poverty Mentality
Control
Dishonor
Abandonment
Victim
Fatherless ness
Manipulation
Homelessness
Anger
Domination
Loss of
Inheritance
Resentment
Pride
Orphan
Unforgiveness
Passivity
Illegitimacy
Hatred
Orphan Lifestyle: Ungodly Belief #1
UGB: I will always need to be strong, protect,
defend and take care of myself because there is
no one else to be responsible for me or care for
me.
GB: God is my source, my strength, and my
defender. I choose to look to Him and trust
Him to provide for me in whatever way He
chooses. I release the responsibility of my life
into the hands of the Lord.
Orphan Lifestyle: Ungodly Belief #2
UGB: Something is wrong with me. I am not
worthy of being protected.
GB: I am accepted in the beloved. I have been
made worthy through Jesus and He desires to
be my protector and my shield.
Orphan Heart: Ungodly Belief #3
UGB: I'll never be a priority with those in
authority over me.
GB: I am a priority with God because of Jesus
Christ. I choose to submit to and pray for those
in authority that God has placed over me
knowing that as I humble myself He will exalt
me in due season.
Orphan Heart: Ungodly Belief #4
UGB: No one will ever love me enough to take
care of me.
GB: God loves me with an everlasting love and
He has drawn me with loving-kindness. He loves
me so much that He has a plan and a purpose
for my life, a plan to prosper me and to give me
hope and a future. He will bring those into my
life who will love me and be apart of fulfilling
that purpose.
Orphan Heart: Ungodly Belief #5
UGB: I'm a victim of my circumstances and
there is no hope of change.
GB: Jesus is my hope and He is changing me
from glory to glory so that I am free and an
overcomer no matter what my circumstances.
Orphan Heart: Ungodly Belief #6
UGB: The significant people in my life are not
there for me and will not be there when I need
them.
GB: The Lord is always there for me and when
I need help He will place the right people in my
life at the right time to help meet my needs.
Orphan Heart: Soul/Spirit Hurts
(We want a memory where rebellion and dishonor to your
mother or father began. When you judged them, closing
off your spirit to them. When you rebelled and made a
decision to become independent and said, “I can do it
better myself.”
What you are looking for is where did you begin to lack
sonship?
“At what moment did I cease
being a son or daughter”)
Ask this question:
Orphan Heart: Demonic Oppression
Fear
Rebellion
Abandonment
Victim
of Submission
Unsubmissivenes
s
Rejection
Entrapment
of Authorities
Independence
Wanderer
Slavery
of Man
Self-Reliance
Fatherless
Bondage
of Failure
Self-Sufficiency
Shame
Desolation
of Rejection
Stubbornness
Slave Mentality
Resistance
Poverty Mentality
Control
Dishonor
Fatherless ness
Manipulation
Homelessness
Anger
Domination
Loss of
Inheritance
Resentment
Pride
Orphan
Unforgiveness
Passivity
Illegitimacy
Hatred
Orphan Heart: Demonic Oppression #1
REBELLION
Independence
Self-Reliance
FEAR
ABANDONMENT
of Submission Rejection
of Authorities Loneliness
Self-Sufficiency
Stubbornness
Resistance
of Man
of Failure
of Rejection
Mistrust
of Losing
Withdrawal
Control
of Punishment Self-Pity
of Inadequacy Hopelessness
Confusion
Unsubmissive
Intimidation
Unprotected
Neglect
Isolation
Fatherlessness
Shame
Orphan Heart: Demonic Oppression #2
ANGER
UNFORGIVENESS
Resentment
Frustration
Hatred
Retaliation
Revenge
Strife
Bitterness
Accusation
Critical
Judging
Ridiculing
Murmuring
Mocking
Destruction
Blaming
Fault Finding
Sarcasm
Orphan Heart: Demonic Oppression #3
ORPHAN
VICTIM
Loss of Inheritance Entrapment
CONTROL
Manipulation
Homelessness
Vagabond
Slavery
(Slave Mentality)
Domination
Passivity
Wanderer
Nomad
Gypsy
Discontent
Bondage
Desolation
Poverty
Helplessness
Restlessness
Suspicion
People Pleasing
Pride
Selfishness
SelfCenteredness
Possessiveness
Fatherlessness
Illegitimacy
Orphan Heart: Demonic Oppression #4
DECEPTION
Doubt
SHAME
Embarrassment
Unbelief
Lying
Humiliation
Guilt
Confusion
Self-Deception
Delusion
Condemnation
Unworthiness
Inferiority
Justifying
Insecurity
Restoring the Foundations
Orphan Heart
Orphan Lifestyle
Chester and Betsy Kylstra