How to become Proactive
 Having a positive attitude towards life
 Use language such as -I can, I will, I prefer.
 Focus their time and energy on things they
can control.
Example
Signs of Proactiveness
 Self-awareness – the understanding that
you do have a choice between stimulus and
response. If someone insults you, you can
choose not to become angry. If you are
offered a donut, you can choose not to eat it.
 Conscience – the ability to consult your
inner compass to decide what is right for you.
You can make decisions based on
unchanging principles, regardless of what is
socially favored at the moment.
Signs of Proactivness cont’d
 Creative Imagination – the ability to visualize alternative responses.
By using your imagination, you can mentally generate and evaluate
different options.
 Independent Will – You have the freedom to choose your own
unique response. You aren’t forced to conform to what others expect
from you.
PROACTIVE OR REACTIVE?
What is the difference?
Your chance to be choose!
 Each day everyone is given 100 chances to choose
whether to be proactive or reactive.
Take 100% Responsibility
 “People are always blaming
their circumstances for what
they are. I don’t believe in
circumstances. The people
who get on in this world are
the people who get up and
look for the circumstances
they want, and, if they can’t
find them, make them.”
George Bernard Shaw, “Mrs.
Warren’s Profession”
Reactive choices
 Telling people off and hitting them when
you are upset
 Going into a depression
 Calling people a two faced liar and giving
silent treatment
 Spreading vicious rumors
Proactive Choices
 Forgiving others
 Confronting one and sharing how you feel
 Ignoring it and giving others a second
chance
Proactive v.s. Reactive Language
Reactive Language
I’ll try
I have to
I can’t
Proactive Language
I’ do it
I choose to
There’s gotta be a way
How being proactive pays off
 Are not easily offended
 Take responsibility for their choices
 Think before they act
 Bounce back when something bad happens
How being proactive pays off pt 2
 Focus on things they can do something about and
don’t worry about things they can’t
 Always find a way to make it happen
4 Steps to being proactive
 Self awareness- I can stand apart from myself
and observe my thoughts and actions
 Conscience- I can listen to my inner voice to
know right from wrong
4 Steps to being proactive Cont’d
 Imagination- I can envision new possibilities
 Will power- I have the power to choose
We can control only one thing
 We can’t control everything that happens to
us
 We can control how we respond to what
happens to us.
Be Proactive!
Its good for you 