Teasing, Bullying &
Gossiping
Presenters
Ralph Whalen, Students & Parents
April 15, 2010
Schedule
Teasing: Two types
Parent Q: Good T examples?
Classroom: Videos on T
Classroom Bullying & Video
Books Gossiping & Bullying
What we do at TAS when kids
TBS. (Mr. Rabon)
What can you do at
home to help with
TBG.
Kids’ Skits (9:00)
What to do when
have a problem with
TBG.
General Q’s
Future: Seminars &
Book groups
Evaluation
Student Skits
Teasing (a friend)
Cheyenne & Rachel
Teasing (Not a friend)
Asher & Christine
Bullying
Maggie, Michelle,
Anna, Ella & Anya
Gossiping
Jacqueline, Patricia & Charlotte
Teasing- Two Types
Teaser
Good/Fun
Bad
Person teased
Good Teasing
Expression of affection
Form of play
Teaches laugh at self
Teaches non literal
communication
Round Table Discussion
Introduce yourself
to everyone at the
table.
What examples of
good teasing can
you give?
Bad Teasing
Ask: Why is this
person teasing me?
If a friend: Ask to
stop.
Not a friend:
Ignore/Walk away.
Don’t tease back.
Verbally skillful?
Why are these two teasing Frankie Flowers?
2:05 & 3:20
Why is this boy teasing his sister? 4:15 & 6:03
Bullying
Different than teasing
Different types
Solution: Power on
your side
80% Solution
“STOP THAT, I
DON’T LIKE IT”
80% Solution: Power in Numbers 7:00 & 8:25
Gossiping
Why? Power, Fun.
Gossiping hurts
everyone.
If gossiped to…
If gossiped about…
Mr. Peabody’s Apples
Partner Discussion
What has worked
for you as you
deal with TBG?
Preventing TBG At TAS
Positive role models
Create caring environment
Establish limits & explain
acceptable behavior
Monitor student behavior
Guidance Units
Gr. 3: TBG
Gr. 4: Conflict Resolution
Gr. 5: Leadership & Friendship
When TBG happens at TAS
Take it seriously
Encourage students to
solve problems if they
can.
Have students talk to a
school adult.
Complete a Values
Learning Plan.
Preparing For TBG: Parent Role
Model, Model, Model
Teach Good T
Monitor home TBG
Teach assertiveness
Communicate
Bullying Video
What is the
father doing
correctly?
What could he
do differently?
When Your Child Reports TBG
Listen
Help problem
solve.
Brainstorm
support.
Have faith in
your child.
Check back.
Should Parents Call the Other Child’s Parents?
Why not?
What if the Problem Persists?
Talk to the
classroom
teacher.
Talk to the
counselor.
Talk to the
principal.
What Child Sees TBG?
Responsibility VS
Safety
If danger is involved, get
an adult.
They can
Listen
Discourage Revenge
Use TAS Values
Befriend
What If Your Child TBG?
Listen
Give appropriate
attention & power
Ask for help
Community Center
Final Steps
Handouts
Evaluations
Next Year
Most bullying is just kids being kids.
Kids don’t do these sorts of thing
intentionally.
FALSE
Most kids don’t
bully intentionally,
but 5% do.
The majority of bullying involves
acts of physical aggression
TRUE
It could however
be verbal or social
manipulation
Adults are generally unaware of the
extent of bullying among children.
TRUE
It usually happens
in unsupervised
areas and often
very quickly.
10-15% who are
often bullied don’t
tell.
Children who bully others often
believe the other child antagonized
them and therefore caused the
problem.
TRUE
Bullies may suffer physical punishment.
Bullies may have negative or indifferent parenting.
Bullies may have a learning disability.
Some bullies don’t read social situations correctly.
Children who are bullied are usually
more sensitive than their peers.
TRUE
They may react
more to a bully.
Boys and girls are involved in
bullying at about the same rate.
TRUE
Boys are more direct
open physical or verbal
Girls are more indirect
gossiping
social isolation
manipulating friendships
popular girls often bullies
Bullying: What Kids Should Do
Can’t ignore it because it will
get worse.
Loud assertive voice,
“Stop that, I don’t like it.”
Get more power on your
side.
Get a friend to help.
Get an adult to help.
Kids are powerless to stop bullying
among peers.
FALSE
The 80% solution
5% are the bullies
15 % are bullied
The 80% can help
the 15%
by stopping the 5%.
Gossiping: What Kids Should Do
Tell the person to
stop. That you
don’t want to hear
gossip.
Ask, “How do you
know that’s true?”
Ask, “How can we
help?”
Adults can play only a limited role in
preventing bullying. It is up to the
children to change.
FALSE
Adults can create a positive
atmosphere.
Adults can supervise effectively.
Adults can intervene and stop bullying.
Preparing For Gossiping: Parent Role
Realize ages 8-12
is the prime time
of gossip
Realize kids are
trying to fit in
Teach empathy
Preparing For Bullying: Parent Role
Model Social Skills
Monitor Home Bullying
Monitor Electronics
Model Anger Expression
Connect Your Child