DR. DAVID ECKMAN
EMPATHY
THE PHYSIOLOGICAL SYMPTOMS OF
EMPATHY
共情（体谅）的生理现象
EMPATHY
MIRROR NEURONS
镜子反射试验
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镜子反射试验中的大脑图
知道心思的脑细胞
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MIRROR NEURONS 镜子反射试验
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Mimicking Actions 模仿动作
Reading Intentions 了解意图
Reading Implications 了解含义
Reading Emotions 了解情感
“Our nervous systems. . . are constructed to be
captured by the nervous systems of others, so
that we can experience others as if we are
within their skin.”
“我们的神经系统的构成…是能够体会他人的神经系
统的知觉，好像我们自己亲身经历一样”。
Dr. Daniel Stern University of Geneva 日内瓦大学
Stern博士
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EMPATHY
EXERCISE
MIRROR IMAGE THE PHYSICAL
MOVEMENTS AND THE FACIAL
EXPRESSIONS OF THE OTHER PERSON
FOR THREE MINUTES, AND THEN
REVERSE IT FOR THREE MINUTES!
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EMPATHY 学习同情体谅
• Ask for a story 询问一个故事
• Picture the story in your mind
心中想象出来
• Listen and ask questions until you feel
the story
聆听和询问，直到你能感受到对方的情感
• Then respond sympathetically
以体恤去回应
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TEMPORAL-PARIETAL
JUNCTION SYSTEM (TPJ)
• Found where the
lobes of the brain
intersect
• Helps us to
understand other’s
emotional states
• Responsible for
Cognitive Empathy
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TEMPORAL-PARIETAL
JUNCTION SYSTEM (TPJ)
• Utilized more by men
• Mirror Neuron System
used more by
women
• Mirror Neuron
Responsible for
Emotional Empathy
• In the analytical
mode men may not
feel other’s emotions
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SONG OF
SOLOMON所罗门
的雅歌
The Woman
Beautiful One (13)
Yafathy 2:10 美人
Companion (9)
Rathy 1:9伴侣
Bride (6) 新娘
Caalah 4:8
Sister (5)
Aghaty 4:12妹子
The Man
Beloved (33)
Dody 1:14良人
Beloved (4)
Ahavah 3:7亲爱的
My Friend (1)
Rathy 5:16伴
侣
Dove (3)
Yonathy 5:2 鸽子
Brother (1)
Aghy 8:1兄弟
Perfect One (2)
Tamathy 5:2完全
人
Pure One (2)
Barah 6:9纯贞
COMPANION RATHY
1:9伴侣
PERFECT ONE
TAMATHY 5:2
完全人
BELOVED
AHAVAH 3:6
亲爱的
BRIDE 新娘
CAALAH 4:8
PURE ONE
BARAH 6:9
纯贞
BEAUTIFUL
ONE YAFATHY
2:10美人
DOVE YONATHY
5:2 鸽子
SISTER
AGHATY 4:12
妹子
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6:8 “There are sixty queens and eighty concubines,
And maidens without number;有60王后、八十嫔妃，并
有无数的童女，
9 One she is, my dove, my perfect one: One she is to
her mother; Pure One she is to the one who bore her.
The maidens saw her and called her blessed, The
queens and the concubines also, and they praised
her, 她却是我的鸽子，我的完全人：她母亲所独生钟爱的纯
贞女。众女子见了就称她有福；王后嫔妃见了也赞美她。
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GREATEST COMPLIMENT EXERCISE
最大赞许的练习
• Write Gender on Paper在纸条上写下自己的性
别
• Write Greatest Compliment from your
Mother写下你母亲对你的最大赞许
• Write Greatest Compliment from your Father
写下你父亲对你的最大赞许
• Write Greatest Compliment from Opposite
Gender写下异性对你的最大赞许
• Hand in and redistribute to groups of five to
sort out best one of each将纸条收集起来，将
人分为5至六人的小组，将纸条混合重新发给大家
• Hand in best from each group各组选出最好的
赞许交上来。
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EMPATHY
THE PHYSIOLOGICAL SYMPTOMS OF A
HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
THE EMOTIONAL SYMPTOMS OF A
HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
THE ACHIEVEMENT OF A HEALTHY
RELATIONSHIP
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EPHESIANS 5:28-29
So husbands ought also to love their
own wives as their own bodies. He who
loves his own wife loves himself;
29 for no one ever hated his own flesh,
but nourishes and cherishes it, just as
Christ also does the church,
(Eph 5:28-29 NAS)
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COMPASSION
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EPHESIANS
5:31-33
“31 For this cause a man shall leave his
father and mother, and shall cleave to
his wife; and the two shall become one
flesh. 32 This mystery is great; but I am
speaking with reference to Christ and
the church. 33 Nevertheless let each
individual among you also love his own
wife even as himself; and let the wife
see to it that she respect her husband.”
COMPASSION
GENDER CYCLE
性别间的循环
LOVE
爱
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GENDER CYCLE
性别间的循环
RESPECT 尊重
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GENDER CYCLE
性别间的循环
LOVE
爱
RESPECT 尊重
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PRACTICAL APPLICATION
实际应用
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
情绪智商
BY: DANIEL COLEMAN
“HIS AND HER MARITAL ADVICE”
PAGES 141-142
“他与她的婚姻指导”141-142页
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PRACTICAL APPLICATION
实际应用
“ . . . be careful not to attack their
husbands - to complain about
what they did, but not criticize
them as a person or express
contempt”
“应当小心，不要攻击她们的丈夫 - 可
投诉他们的行为，但不要作人身攻击或
表现轻视。”
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PRACTICAL APPLICATION
实际应用
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
情绪智商
BY: DANIEL COLEMAN
“HIS AND HER MARITAL ADVICE”
PAGES 141-142
“他与她的婚姻指导”141-142页
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PRACTICAL APPLICATION
实际应用
“Most especially, wives want
their feelings acknowledged
and respected as valid, even if
their husbands disagree.”
“最重要的是，妻子希望她们的感受
是被承认及尊重的，即使他们的丈
夫不认同她们的想法。”
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SKILL
Skill: have groups of four
write out what are the four
marks of a happy and stable
marriage (then lecture on
them)
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