“Embracing Change To Experience Life!”
Proverbs 19:26
The WISE person is someone who
learns to live his life
with the grain of God’s wisdom
rather than
fighting against the grain.
Exodus 20:12….
“Honor your father
and your mother….”
(NIV; Deuteronomy 5:16 )
This important command….
Establishes the significance and
importance of the family in God’s
eyes.
Defines the relationship between
parents and children as a lifelong,
significant relationship.
… given to ADULTS,
to determine how
they treat their
parents after
reaching
adulthood.
When we enter into ADULTHOOD,
things change!
Genesis 2:24….
“For this reason a man shall
leave his father and his
mother and be united to
his wife, and they will
become one flesh.” (NIV)
“leave his father
and his mother”
means to "forsake" or to
"sever a covenant
relationship."
Will the
COVENANT RELATIONSHIP
with our mom and dad ends when
we get married, or are the ties with
them cut off?
It simply changes
to a different kind
of relationship.
The essence of this
new relationship is –
Proverbs 23:24,25….
“The father of a righteous
man has great joy; he who
has a wise son delights in
him. May your father and
mother be glad; may she
who gave you birth rejoice!”
(NIV)
When the grown child is
characterized by
righteousness and wisdom, that
causes joy.
“Righteousness”
refers to the moral
dimension of our lives.
“Righteousness”
isn’t just being a good person,
… but it’s being in the kind of
relationship with God that
enables you to know WHAT true
goodness is.
This personal knowledge of God
provides this person with ….
refers to the outworking
of this righteousness
in everyday life.
pictures most
“wise people” as successful
in life, because they’ve learned
how life works.
We treat our parents wisely when
we
“embrace a life of wisdom”
ourselves.
It
our mom and dad’s effort.
Proverbs 19:26….
“He who robs his father
and drives out his mother
is a son who brings
shame and disgrace.”
(NIV)
This PROVERBS is picturing
a son or daughter who
robs his or her parents
of their property.
(Hebrew word)
… here implies VIOLENCE.
If it’s true that exploiting
our parents is wrong,
it must be equally true to that
protecting our parents from
exploitation is good.
We treat our parents wisely when
we PROTECT
their rights.
EXPLOITING
our parents is foolish,
PROTECTING them is wise!
Part of OUR ROLE in our
parents’ lives as they age
is to ….
• protect them
• provide for
them
• care for them
• be their friend
Proverbs 20:20….
“If a man curses his father
or mother, his lamp will be
snuffed out in pitch
darkness.” (NIV)
your parents was a
serious matter back in
ancient Israel.
was to call God’s judgment down
on that person.
was to invoke a future on that
person that involved suffering and
death.
So to CURSE someone was…
to hate that person
at the deepest level,
to treat the person
with contempt & disdain.
The image of
“a person’s lamp
going out” is a
picture of DEATH.
…. describes a person
who’s life is cut short.
Exodus 21:17….
“Anyone who curses his
mother or father should
be put to death.”
(NIV)
We treat our parents wisely when
we BLESS
them with our words!
were usually spoken out loud
was thought to actually
shape that person’s future
(in ancient Israel)
The ancient Hebrews
understood the
POWER OF OUR WORDS in
shaping a person’s future.
Expressing APPRECIATION
about what our parents did do in
our lives.
Expressing OUR DESIRE that
they be happy and fulfilled in life
.
Jesus said in Luke 6:28….
“Bless those who curse you,
pray for those who
mistreat you.” (NIV)
Paul said in Romans 12:14….
“Bless those who persecute
you; bless and do not curse.”
(NIV)
Proverbs 23:22….
“Listen to your father,
who gave you life, and
do not despise your
mother when she is old.”
(NIV)
here simply means….
“pay attention”
…picturing the kind of relationship an
adult son
or daughter has
with an aging parent,
a relationship of listening.
The opposite of
in this
proverb is “despising.”
“a loathing disdain for
another person.”
“to regard or treat as
unworthy or beneath one’s
dignity; or to refuse or reject
with aloof contempt or scorn
(mockery).”
We treat our parents wisely when
we SHARE
OUR ATTENTION
WITH THEM
as they age.
• our financial assistance
• our advice
…OUR PARENTS
NEED OUR
ATTENTION!
A life of “wisdom”
will make the choice to
SHARE ATTENTION
WITH PARENTS,
even if they didn’t share enough
attention with us
when we were young
and growing up!
Do you want to
LIVE A LIFE OF WISDOM
as it relates to
your mom and dad?
your parents
your parents
with your parents