Positive Parenting and Promoting
Learning in the Home
John Sharry
www.solutiontalk.ie
www.parentsplus.ie
Parenting - An important note
THERE IS NO ONE RIGHT WAY TO BRING UP
CHILDREN
What matters is finding a way that works for you, your
children and your family
BE CAREFUL ABOUT PARENTING EXPERTS
Trust your own intuition and test ideas in your own
experience
© John Sharry 2009
Parents Plus Programmes
Video based parenting courses developed by the
Parents Plus Charity in the Mater Hospital
www.parentsplus.ie
© John Sharry 2009
Current Parents Plus Programmes
Parents Plus Early Years
Programme ( 1- 6 year olds)
John Sharry, Grainne Hampson, Mary Fanning
Parents Plus Childrens
Programme (6-11 year olds)
John Sharry, Carol Fitzpatrick
Parents Plus Adolescents
Programme (11 – 16 years olds)
John Sharry, Carol Fitzpatrick
The importance of parents supportnng
learning
The problem of learning in the home
Positive Parenting and Promoting
Learning in the Home
Parenting – Getting the Balance Right
POSITIVE PARENTING
Being loving,
Caring
Encouraging
© John Sharry 2009
POSITIVE DISCIPLINE
Being firm,
Able to set rules
Teach child to behave
Learning/ Homework
– Getting the Balance Right
POSITIVE PARENTING
Fun learning
Follow child’s lead
and motivation
© John Sharry 2009
POSITIVE DISCIPLINE
Homework routine/rules
Consequences/ rewards
Principle
‘Tuning into your Child’s Unique
Motivations, Strengths and Talents’
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A holistic view of Intelligence
Verbal
Language
Reading
Writing
Experiential
Natural
Maths
Logic
Social
Interpersonal
Design/
Motor
Athletic ,
Physical
Musical
Rhythm
Principle
‘Supporing your child in their areas of
weakness and demotivation’
REFLECTION
Thinking of each of your children individually,
• What are their talent, motivations s and area of
strength?
• What are their areas of weakness and
demotivation?
?
Principle
‘Establishing a Routine in the Home’
Principle
‘Encouraging your child in their
homework
Principle
‘Encouraging your child in their homework
– Three Steps ’
1) Helping your child plan and get started
2) Being there to support and encourage
3) Reviewing how your child has got on
Further talks and information
Positive Parenting Book – 8 Euro
Parenting articles and features
www.solutiontalk.ie
Parents Plus Programmes
www.parentsplus.ie
www.facebook.com/solutiontalk
Q&A: healthsupplement@irishtimes.com
Principle
‘Switch from Criticism to
Encouragement’
Criticism Cycle
Parent notices
what child is
doing wrong
Parent/ child
Relationship can suffer
Parent corrects
or criticises
Negative perception
Child can feel defensive
or undermined
Parent in critical role
Positive Encouragment cycle
Parent notices
what child is
doing right
Parent/ child
Relationship improves
Parent
specifically
praises
Positive perception
Child enjoys praise
Parent feels good
Five types of Encouragements
1) Acknowleging Feelings
2) Focusing on what is right, what is done
well
3) Stating a positive goal or intention
4) Listening to your child’s positive intention
5) Expressing positive belief
Becoming an encouraging parent
2) Why are you always late
starting your homework?
Encouraging Parent
• I know you are upset at
having to leave
• Oh you got your books
out, that is a start
3)That is the wrong place to
put it
• Put it here?/Let me show
you
4) Why are you so aggressive
with your brother
• I know you can get on
with your brother
5) Why didn’t you pick the
blue block?
• Oh you picked the
green block, you like
green
Critical Parent
1) Why are you so angry?