THE MOTIVATIONAL GIFTS
. . . so in Christ we who are
many members form one body,
and each member belongs
to all the others. We have
different gifts, according to the
grace given us.
Romans 12:5-6a
Finding Ones Gift
1. IF YOU WALKED INTO A ROOM AND TWO PEOPLE WERE
ARGUING:
a. would you stay?
b. Would you leave?
c. Would you intervene?
If the answer for you is a. and this is what you would tend to
do most of the time then:
Probably:
1. Mercy, Prophet, or Exhorter
2. If b is yes then perhaps : Server, Teacher, Organizer, Giver
3. If c is yes most of the time then: Exhorter, or Prophet is likely
Finding Ones Gift
2. DO YOU TEND TO LEAD OTHERS OR FOLLOW
OTHERS LEADS?
A. If the answer is to lead then you are more
likely one of these: Prophet, Teacher, Organizer,
or Exhorter.
B. If you prefer to follow then you would more
than likely be a Server, Mercy, or Giver
Finding Ones Gift
3. DO YOU FIND YOURSELF TO BE MORE
EMOTIONAL OR LOGICAL?
A. If more emotional then you could be a
Mercy, Exhorter, or Prophet
B. If you tend to be more logical then: Teacher,
Organizer, or perhaps Prophet
Prophet
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PROPHET (HUSBAND AND WIFE)
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PROPHET (HUSBAND) SERVER (WIFE)
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CONTROLS HER ABILITY TO GIVE
JOINT INTERCESSORY PRAYER POWER
PROPHET (HUSBAND) ORGANIZER (WIFE)
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IRRITATION OVER HER TALKATIVENESS
GREGARIOUSNESS MODIFIES RECLUSIVENESS
PROPHET (HUSBAND) GIVER (WIFE)
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THREATENED BY HER OPINIONS
BOTH LOVE TO STUDY THE WORD
PROPHET (HUSBAND) EXHORTER (WIFE)
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BOSSY, TREATS HER LIKE A SERVANT
HONEST AND LOYAL
PROPHET (HUSBAND) TEACHER (WIFE)
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CONFLICT OVER WHO’S RIGHT
BOTH HAVE STRICT STANDARDS
INTIMIDATES AND SQUELCHES HER LEADERSHIP POTENTIAL
PRACTICAL AND ORGANIZED APPROACH BALANCES IDEALISM
PROPHET (HUSBAND) MERCY (WIFE)
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TENDENCY TO HURT HER FEELINGS
BOTH SENSITIVE TO THE NEEDS OF OTHERS
Server
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SERVER (HUSBAND) PROPHET (WIFE)
- TENDENCY TO FEEL OVERWHELMED BY HER STRONG PERSONALITY.
- BOTH ARE PERFECTIONISTS.
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SERVER (HUSBAND AND WIFE)
- TRY TO OUTDO EACH OTHER AT SERVING, BECOMING COMPETITIVE.
- WORK EXCEPTIONALLY WELL TOGETHER AS A TEAM.
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SERVER (HUSBAND) TEACHER (WIFE)
- HE RESENTS HER LACK OF HELPFULNESS.
- OPPOSITE TRAITS OF DOING VS. THINKING BALANCE EACH OTHER.
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SERVER (HUSBAND) EXHORTER (WIFE)
- HIS INTEREST IN THINGS CONFLICTS WITH HER INTEREST IN PEOPLE.
- SHE HELPS TO DRAW HIM INTO SOCIAL ACTIVITIES HE’D OTHERIWISE MISS.
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SERVER (HUSBAND) GIVER (WIFE)
- NEED TO DO AND TO FEEL APPRECIATED MAKES BOTH PARTNERS INSECURE.
- HELPFUL TO EACH OTHER AND OTHERS AROUND THEM.
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SERVER (HUSBAND) ORGANIZER (WIFE)
- HE FEELS THREATENED BY HER LEADERSHIP ABILITY.
- HE’S ABLE TO CARRY OUT EFFECTIVELY PROJECTS SHE INITIATES.
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SERVER (HUSBAND) MERCY (WIFE)
- HIS HIGH ENERGY LEVEL CONFLICTS WITH HER SLOWNESS AND TARDINESS.
- BOTH ARE GENTLE IN SPIRIT
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Teacher
TEACHER (HUSBAND) PROPHET (WIFE)
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TEACHER (HUSBAND) SERVER (WIFE)
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HIS INTELLECTUAL EMPHASIS MAKES HER FEEL INFERIOR.
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SHE’S GLAD TO CARE FOR ROUTINE RESPONSIBILITIES WHILE HE READS OR STUDIES.
TEACHER (HUSBAND AND WIFE)
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HE’S THREATENED BY HER BETTER BUSINESS ABILITY.
BOTH ENJOY READING
TEACHER (HUSBAND) ORGANIZER (WIFE)
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DISAGREEMENTS OVER HOW TRUTH IS ARRIVED AT CAUSE FRICTION.
BOTH LOVE TO TALK
TEACHER (HUSBAND) GIVER (WIFE)
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DIFFERENCES IN OPINIONS EASILY BECOME ARGUMENTS.
BOTH LOVE TO READ BOOKS.
TEACHER (HUSBAND) EXHORTER (WIFE)
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FRUSTRATION OVER HER EMOTIONAL MOOD SWINGS.
BOTH ARE HIGHLY ANALYTICAL
HE GETS UPSET WITH HER PROCRASTINATION AND CLUTTER.
BOTH ENJOY LEARNING
TEACHER (HUSBAND) MERCY (WIFE)
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HIS FRUSTRATION WITH HER ILLOGICAL, IRRATIONAL BEHAVIOR.
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Exhorter
EXHORTER (HUSBAND) PROPHET (WIFE)
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EXHORTER (HUSBAND) SERVER (WIFE)
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HE RESENTS HER OVEREMPHASIS ON MONEY.
BOTH ENJOY MANY FRIENDS
EXHORTER (HUSBAND) ORGANIZER (WIFE)
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COMPETITIVENESS IN TALKING.
ENCOURAGING EACH OTHER CONSTANTLY
EXHORTER (HUSBAND) GIVER (WIFE)
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HIS FRUSTRATION OVER HER DISINTEREST IN SOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS.
HE HELPS TO BE MORE LIFE RELATED AND PEOPLE RELATED
EXHORTER (HUSBAND AND WIFE)
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HIS TALKATIVENESS OVERWHELMS HER, CAUSING FURTHER RESERVE.
SHE ENJOYS BEING HOSPITABLE TO MANY FRIENDS.
EXHORTER (HUSBAND) TEACHER (WIFE)
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HE FEELS HER PERCEPTIONS ARE CRITICISMS OF HIM.
HE ENCOURAGES TO HAVE BROADER SOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS.
HE GETS UPSET WITH HER PROCRASTINATION.
BOTH LOVE BEING AROUND LOTS OF PEOPLE.
EXHORTER (HUSBAND) MERCY (WIFE)
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HIS FRUSTRATION OVER HER INDECISIVENESS.
BOTH ARE GREAT COUNSELORS
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Giver
GIVER (HUSBAND) PROPHET (WIFE)
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GIVER (HUSBAND) SERVER (WIFE)
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THEIR FRUGALITY CAN TURN INTO STINGINESS.
BOTH ARE WILLING TO HELP OTHERS.
GIVER (HUSBAND) ORGANIZER (WIFE)
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HE FEELS SHE WASTES TOO MUCH TIME ON THE PHONE AND SOCIALIZING.
BOTH ARE GOOD AT HELPING PEOPLE WITH THEIR PROBLEMS.
GIVER (HUSBAND AND WIFE)
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HIS FOCUS ON BUSINESS CONFLICTS WITH HER INTEREST IN EDUCATION.
BOTH OPERATE DILIGENTLY
GIVER (HUSBAND) EXHORTER (WIFE)
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SHE’S UPSET WHEN HE GIVES AWAY THINGS WITHOUT CONSULTING HER.
BOTH ARE EASYGOING
GIVER (HUSBAND) TEACHER (WIFE)
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HE RESENTS HER TELLING HIM WHOM NOT TO TRUST IN BUSINESS RELATIONSHIPS.
BOTH ARE VERY HONEST
HE RESENTS HER TELLING THEM WHAT TO DO, ESPECIALLY REGARDING BUSINESS MATTERS.
THEY CAN WORK WELL TOGETHER IN BUSINESS .
GIVER (HUSBAND) MERCY (WIFE)
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HIS FRUSTRATION OVER HER LACK OF INDUSTRIOUSNESS AND PUNCTUALITY.
BOTH ENJOY BUILDING INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS.
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Organizer
ORGANIZER (HUSBAND) PROPHET (WIFE)
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ORGANIZER (HUSBAND) SERVER (WIFE)
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HIS BOSSINESS OFFENDS HER.
SHE IS SUPPORTIVE OF HIS PROJECTS.
ORGANIZER (HUSBAND AND WIFE)
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HE SAVES EVERYTHING; SHE THROWS AWAY ITEMS NO MORE PRACTICAL USE.
THEY MAKE A GREAT TEAM WORKING TOGETHER WITH COMPLIMENTARY CHARACTERISTICS.
ORGANIZER (HUSBAND) GIVER (WIFE)
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HE RESENTS HER FOCUS ON READING AND LEARNING INSTEAD OF ON HIM.
BOTH ARE ACHIEVERS.
ORGANIZER (HUSBAND) EXHORTER (WIFE)
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HE TAKES HER FOR GRANTED, FORGETTING TO EXPRESS APPRECIATION.
SHE’S GLAD TO CARRY OUT HIS DIRECTIONS.
ORGANIZER (HUSBAND) TEACHER (WIFE)
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HE’S UPSET WHEN SHE JUDGES HIS ACTIONS OR DECISIONS.
BOTH ENJOY COMPETITION.
ORGANIZATIONAL IDEAS CONFLICT.
HARMONIOUS RELATIONSHIP IF INDIVIDUAL AREAS OF AUTHORITY ARE CLEARLY DEFINED.
ORGANIZER (HUSBAND) MERCY (WIFE)
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HE’S PERPLEXED BY HER EMOTIONAL REACTIONS.
HE HELPS TO KEEP RELATIVELY ORGANIZED AND ON SCHEDULE.
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Mercy
MERCY (HUSBAND) PROPHET (WIFE)
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MERCY (HUSBAND) SERVER (WIFE)
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HE RESENTS HER SUPERIOR ABILITY TO HANDLE FINANCES.
THEY ARE HELPFUL TO EACH OTHER.
MERCY (HUSBAND) ORGANIZER (WIFE)
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HE FEELS THREATENED BY HER DECISION MAKING ABILITIES.
VERY LOVING TO EACH OTHER.
MERCY (HUSBAND) GIVER (WIFE)
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DIFFICULT COMMUNICATION BASED ON FEELING/THINKING DIFFERENCES.
BOTH ENJOY THE ARTS.
MERCY (HUSBAND) EXHORTER (WIFE)
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THEY LET OTHERS TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THEM TOO OFTEN.
THEY DO NOT CRITICIZE EACH OTHER.
MERCY (HUSBAND) TEACHER (WIFE)
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HE OFTEN FEELS SHE DOMINATES HIM.
HE CAN SOFTEN HER PERSONALITY.
HE FEELS PRESSURED BY HER ORGANIZATIONAL ABILITIES.
HE HELPS FOCUS ON PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS INSTEAD OF TOO MUCH ON ACHIEVEMENTS.
MERCY (HUSBAND AND WIFE)
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INDECISIVENESS AND LACK OF MOTIVATION.
TREMENDOUS CAPACITY TO SHOW LOVE TO ONE ANOTHER.