Coaching Your Student
to Success
New Student Orientation 2014
TWO TRENDS
• In 2012, the number of 18- to 30-year-olds living with their parents grew to
20.7 million, a 3.9 percent gain from 2010.
• In 1986, about half of parents reported that they had spoken with a grown
child in the past week. In 2008, 87 percent said they had.
• In 1988, less than half of parents gave advice to a grown child in the past
month, and fewer than one in three had provided any hands-on help. Recent
data show that nearly 90 percent of parents give advice and 70 percent
provide some type of practical assistance every month.
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What has changed
about college over
the years?
HOW WE USED TO
COMMUNICATE
HOW THEY COMMUNICATE
THEY CALL
THESE…BOOMERANGE KIDS.
HOW DO WE PREVENT THE
BOOMERANG?
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Give them room to grow.
Make them interdependent.
Encourage them to get involved.
Encourage career readiness.
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Room to Grow
HELPING THEM GROW
If we keep them in a
small container, they
won’t ever grow.
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Make them Interdependent
INTERDEPENDENCE
Dependence<Independence<Interdependence
INTERDEPENDENCE
You rely on
someone else
completely.
Dependence<Independence<Interdependence
INTERDEPENDENCE
You rely on
yourself alone
(even when you
can’t handle
something).
Dependence<Independence<Interdependence
INTERDEPENDENCE
You are capable
of standing
along, but can
accept help when
needed.
Dependence<Independence<Interdependence
I WANT YOU TO HAVE
SOMETHING
Office
(936) 468-7249
Cell
(936) 553-8503
Home
(936) 462-1108
CHALLENGE AND SUPPORT
CHALLENGE AND SUPPORT
COACHING TOWARDS AUTONOMY
Helen Johnson,
author of “Don’t
Tell Me What To
Do, Just Send
Money,” suggest
that parents think
of themselves as
coaches.
KEEPING A BALANCE
Before becoming involved in a situation, ask yourself if it
helps or hurts your child in the long run if they handle it
themselves.
Ask yourself if your involvement is helping or hurting
your child’s ability to become autonomous, independent
and interdependent.
Ask how you can balance challenge and support to aid
them in addressing the issues they face.
BUT INVOLVE YOURSELF IN
IMPORTANT THINGS
After all financial aid is applied to your bill,
there may be aid left over. In most cases,
this will be added to your higher one card.
Make sure students spend this responsibly.
RESOURCES
Students who are
not performing
well, are
behaving
inappropriately
or attending
infrequently may
be reported to
the iCare
program.
RESOURCES
Ask Jack/Tell Jack
•Available on our website.
•By emailing dosa@sfasu.edu
•In person at our two Involvement
Center locations (BPSC/Steen Hall).
Students can direct any question to Ask Jack. If they have a concern or complaint they can also
submit it via Tell Jack.
RESOURCES
This is our
Summer Reading
for students.
They need to
complete this
prior to coming
to SFA. It has
information to
help them be
successful.
RESOURCES
CAR
n Communication
TALK
Connection
Conversations for the Car Ride Home
This has good conversation starters for the ride home!
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Get them Involved
INVOLVEMENT
Many give new students a piece of
advice that seems sound, don’t get
involved until you know you can
handle the workload in the classroom.
This seems advisable, but has a clear
flaw. Students who do not get involved
will not necessarily spend that time
studying. They’ll spend it in
unproductive ways (video games,
Facebook, etc.).
It is important to maintain balanced
involvement. Too involved is just as
bad as not involved at all.
WHY GET INVOLVED
Students who get involved…
• Make more friends
• Get better grades
• Graduate at higher rates
• Are more dedicated alumni
RESOURCES
Our Award-Winning Involvement Center
Students can meet with students who are specially trained to help them find ways to get involved.
GREEK LIFE?
• Do your research!
• Know your
student.
• Use the “power of
the purse.”
FRESHMAN LEADERSHIP
ACADEMY
FRESHMAN LEADERSHIP
ACADEMY
• Freshman Leadership Academy is a special section
of SFA 101.
• Participants interact weekly with student leaders and
administrators.
• Participants participate in meaningful service.
• Students who complete the program are eligible to
travel with the group to Monti Christi, Dominican
Republic.
• Four will be selected to have all of their expenses
paid.
FIRST-YEAR COMMONS
• Resources tailored for first-year
students placed right where
many live.
• Open to residential and
commuter students.
• AARC and IC locations.
• Targeted programming for
residents.
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Career Readiness
TRY NOT TO PRESSURE FOR A
MAJOR
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While we may be tempted to
encourage students to go for
majors that make the most money,
we have to remember their
individual gifts.
Our personality type dictates where
we get our energy.
If we do a job we hate for money,
there will come a day when no
amount of money is enough.
“Do what you love and you’ll be
the best at it, someone will always
pay you well if you are the best.”
For three of the ten areas
identified, students indicated they
had learned the skill in cocurricular
programs more than in the
classroom.
For five of the ten areas, student
leaders indicated they had learned
the skill in cocurricular programs
more than in the classroom.
CAREER RESOURCES
• Visit the Office of Career
Services
• Students can sign up for Career
Interpretation/Counseling
• Job fairs
• Assistance in creating resumes,
portfolios, etc.
RESOURCES
Dr. Adam Peck
Dean of Student Affairs
peckae@sfasu.edu
Office: 936.468.7249
Home: 936.462.1108
Cell: 936.553.8503
AXE ‘EM JACKS!