What does each teen represent in the picture have in common???
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Each person in a picture has been judged by you
based on your 1st impression(…is judgement, a
habit?)
Each person in a picture has hopes, dreams and
questions concerning life (… habits?)
Each person has some regret(s) (…is that a habit?)
or events that they wish they could go back and
change.
Each person represented here has something in
common with YOU, their human, have emotions,
feelings, intelligence, gifts, talents and are
waiting for someone to understand them.
(…habits?)
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How do OUR ACTIONS impact our own
lives???
Have we formed opinions, feelings, emotions
and perceptions based on past experiences???
ARE THEY HABITS OF THE MIND???
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Take initiative-as human beings we are
responsible for our lives, our behaviors
and our decisions. NOT OUR CONDITIONS.
Choose to empower yourself. This does
NOT mean being bossy toward someone
else to get our point across.
Make a choice and don’t be afraid of
“healthy-risk”.
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Self Awareness- the ability to think and
understand your thought process.
Evaluate and learn from yourself and others.
Affects: Attitudes =behaviors and views of
our self and others
Map of basic human nature(self oriented)
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Social Mirror- How we believe others view us
socially
3 Social Maps
(1) Genetic Determinism-Inherited
(2) Psychic Determinism-Childhood experience
(3) Environmental Determinism-environment
influences or surrounds affect your personality.
STIMULUS
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Any thing/event that
causes a reaction.
i.e. car beeps its horn at
a signal to make driver
move when the light
turns green.
REACTION
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Any thing that is
effected by the stimulus.
i.e. Car driver flips “the
bird” at driver behind
him that just beeped his
horn.
STIMULUS
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Any thing that causes a
reaction.
i.e. car beeps its horn at
signal to make driver
move when the light
turns green.
RESPONSE
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Any thing that is
effected by the stimulus.
i.e. Car driver chooses
not to get involved with
“apparent” impatient
driver behind him that
just beeped his horn.
REACTION
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Reacting based on first
emotional response.
Reactive people are
affected by their physical
environment, way they
were treated.
Reactive people react to
their feelings,
circumstances and etc.
RESPONSE
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We are responsible for
our lives and behaviors.
We choose to be
proactive as humans
and look for options
before reacting.
Empowerment by choice
despite surroundings.
TAKE INITIATIVE
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Perceptions
Language
Values
Creativity
Freedom
BE ACTED UPON
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Perception limited
Defensive
Temporary values
based on peer influence.
NONE-NO freedom!
Listen to our language:
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Perception dictates
Language…
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Language
discloses…. self identity!
And…
beliefs & values
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The nature of reactive people
revolves around them
negating their responsibility.
Circumstances continuously
indicate that they are the
victim.
….you almost feel when you
speak to them, that they have
“lost the war or cause” before
they even stepped on the
battlefield!?!
REACTIVE LANGUAGE
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There’s nothing I can do!
That’s just the way I am!
He/She makes me so
upset or mad!
I have to do it!
I can’t!
You can’t make me!
If only…!
They won’t allow that!
PROACTIVE LANGUAGE
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Let’s look at our alternatives
…again.
I can choose a different
approach.
I control my feelings,
behaviors and actions.
I can create a positive end,
even in this crisis.
I choose.
I prefer.
I will.
I am effective in this….(state
what your positives may be)
Direct Control-involves our own behavior
• Indirect Control-involves others behavior
• No Control-We can do nothing about.
(i.e.-our past, people’s opinions??…Can you think of
any others!)
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What is it???
Paradigm comes from the Greeks. It is a
scientific term based on the idea of perception.
General meaning: theory, assumption, or
frame of reference.
Let’s see how it works???
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You can look at something from one angle and
have a view, then if you go and look from another ,
you would probably find a very different view.
It would be best of course when we can see both
sides, integrate them then see what the real picture
really looks like. Because there is a TRUE image, or
lets say it in a better way... a view that would hit
closer to the truth of things. But to see it, we have
to see all views first.
WHAT DO YOU SEE??
Discussion Quote:
The Second Half Of A Man's Life Is Made
Up Of Nothing But The Habits He Has
Acquired During The First Half.
~Feodor Dostoevski
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Viktor Emil Frankl
m.d., ph.d. (march 26, 1905 – september 2, 1997)
was an austrian neurologist
and psychiatrist as well as a
holocaust survivor.
Viktor Emil Frankl
QUESTIONS:
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What does this quote tell us
about V. Frankl?
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Why does Covey use V.
Frankl as an example of
paradigm shift?
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Read the following statement
and address why V. Frankl
was being proACTive?
He believed that by fully
experiencing the suffering
objectively, he would thereby
end it.[3] Though assigned to
ordinary labor details until
the last few weeks of the war,
Frankl (assisted by Dr. Leo
Baeck and Regina Jonas
among others) tried to cure
fellow prisoners from
despondency and prevent
suicide.
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"Ultimately, man should not
ask what the meaning of his
life is, but rather must
recognize that it is he who is
asked. In a word, each man
is questioned by life; and he
can only answer to life by
answering for his own life; to
life he can only respond by
being responsible."
Man's Search for Meaning,
p.172
Begin With the End in Mind
Begin With the
End
in Mind…
1. Where do you want to end up in life?
(5 yrs, 10 yrs)
2. List 10 of your values and discuss
why their important.
3. List 10 goals and what you believe
they stand for?
(i.e. President= power, status,
Teacher=wisdom, nurture,
management and etc.)
4. When do you find yourself
wandering or wasting time?
5. If you were to reflect on your past
when have you been tossed to and
fro by the opinions of others?
HABIT #2
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THOUGHT:
WHAT WILL YOU DO TO
PREPARE FOR THE NEXT DAY
OF SCHOOL?
DIRECTIONS: Write down each
step you will take to prepare for
school. You will need to begin
possibly begin the night before.
Please include up to the
MOMENT YOU STEP INTO THE
SCHOOL OR HIT THE SCHOOL
GROUNDS.
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Begin With the End in Mind
For this principle of
beginning with the end in
mind to be practical,
we have to understand that
all things are created twice.
That is, first it is created in
the mind, then physically.
Habit 3: Put First Things First
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A prioritized approach to time management.
Once a week, make time to identify the “Big Rocks.”
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When are you going to plan? On Beartracker p. H-7:
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Set a time each day to plan. It will only take a few minutes.
Think of “Big Rocks” in terms of important roles.
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“Big Rocks” are the things that must get done this week.
Student, Family Member, Human Being, Significant Other, Worker,
Member of a Team, Performer, Friend, etc.
These are your “First Things.” Write these roles down. NOW!
Plan for your “Big Rocks” each day; the rest are just “Little
Pebbles” you can then fit into your schedule!
Creating a Mission Statement
A personal mission statement is like a credo or motto that states what your
life is about. It’s like a blueprint to your life.”
 Sean Covey, Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teens, Page 81
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Example: Consider Mr. Pop’s Mission Statement.
Homework: Create your own Mission Statement!
How do you do it? Here are some suggestions:
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Freewriting: Write whatever comes to mind, then edit it down.
Quotations: Find some that matter to you. Summarize them.
Acronyms: Make an acronym for a word that really matters.
Stealing: “Borrow” someone else’s. “Be all you can be.” :-{)
Write your Mission Statement on this index card.
Habit 4: Think Win-Win
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Have an everyone-can-win attitude.
Definition:
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Thinking win-win means being creative and
finding ways for BOTH you and the other party to
succeed when trying to resolve a conflict.
Where to you tend to fall when trying to resolve
conflict?
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Habit 4: Think Win-Win
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Abundance: life is an all-you-can-eat buffet.
Thinking “win-win” means doing two things:
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Win the private victory first– begin by checking
yourself.
Avoid the “tumor twins”– two things that will
hinder you:
 Competing– when it is not appropriate, it will
actually harm you
 Comparing– when you define yourself relative to
others, you lose
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Imagine a conflict with someone you’ve had
recently. How could you have resolved it “winwin” (H-9)?
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And only then to be understood.
Definition:
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Who do you want to listen to you? On page H-11:
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Seeking first to understand means listening: try to see
things from another’s point of view before you start
sharing your own.
List the people you would like to really understand you.
The point? WE ALL WANT TO BE
UNDERSTOOD!
BUT… we must have a positive RBA before we
share.
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Seeking first to understand helps us build a positive RBA
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Listen to people sincerely.
Three Good Listening Skills
Stand in the other person’s shoes– at least try to
understand
 Listen with your eyes and your heart, not just with
your ears
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 60% of communication is body language– use your eyes
 30% of communication is tone of voice– use your heart
 Only 10% of communication is the actual words used
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Practice mirroring– repeat what the other person
thinks or feels
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Work together to achieve more.
Definition:
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Start with understanding that we are all UNIQUE:
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Synergy means that the sum is greater that its individual
parts. In other words, synergizing is proving that 1 + 1
can = 3. How?
What makes you unique? Answer on Beartracker H-13.
Synergy is celebrating difference, NOT just tolerating
it.
Synergy is working as a team, NOT just an individual.
Synergy is finding new a better ways, NOT settling.
Synergy is applying the 5 steps on Beartracker H-13!
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Are you ready to take a journey?
It’s only the rest of your life!
Let’s start today with
The Great discovery
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Definition:
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What do you most need to do to “sharpen your saw?”
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Sharpening the saw means taking the time to stay at your best.
Think, then answer the question on Beartracker page H-15.
What can you do to keep your body healthy? (H-14,15)
What can you do to keep your mind healthy? (H-14, 15)
What can you do to keep your “heart” healthy? (H-14, 15)
What can you do to keep your “spirit” healthy? (H-14, 15)
Will you “decide” (etymology) to do all of these things?
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“You can’t make footprints in the sands of time
by sitting on your butt. And who wants to
leave butt prints in the sands of time?”
- Bob Moawad