Session I
Mentoring Relationships
“It’s a willingness on the part
of somebody who has a wealth
of experience to share their
knowledge, the stripes they’ve
earned, with someone who
doesn’t have as much
experience - with no eye
toward getting anything back.
It’s about investing, giving
back”
-Jeff
Mentoring is “Walking with
another person to help
them learn what it means
to abide in Christ - to
totally cling to Him,
depend on Him, hold on
first and then start
understanding.”
-Claudette
“Mentoring is a relational
experience in which one
person empowers another
by sharing God-given
resources.”
-Paul Stanley and J. Robert Clinton
“Mentoring is making the mentor’s
personal strengths, resources and
networks (friendships / contacts)
available to help a protégé (mentoree)
reach his or her goals.”
-Bob Biehl
“And the things you
have heard me say in
the presence of many
witnesses entrust to
reliable men who will
also be qualified to
teach others.”
-2 Timothy 2:2
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Career or professional
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Educational
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Personal
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Spiritual
When he came to Jerusalem, he tried to join the
disciples, but they were all afraid of him, not
believing that he really was a disciple. But
Barnabas took him and brought him to the
apostles. He told them how Saul on his journey
had seen the Lord and that the Lord had spoken
to him, and how in Damascus he had preached
fearlessly in the name of Jesus. So Saul stayed
with them and moved about freely in Jerusalem,
speaking boldly in the name of the Lord. He
talked and debated with the Grecian Jews, but
they tried to kill him. When the brothers learned
of this, they took him down to Caesarea and sent
him off to Tarsus.
News of this reached the ears of the church at
Jerusalem, and they sent Barnabas to Antioch.
When he arrived and saw the evidence of the grace
of God, he was glad and encouraged them all to
remain true to the Lord with all their hearts. He was
a good man, full of the Holy Spirit and faith, and a
great number of people were brought to the Lord.
Then Barnabas went to Tarsus to look for Saul, and
when he found him, he brought him to Antioch. So
for a whole year Barnabas and Saul met with the
church and taught great numbers of people. The
disciples were called Christians first at Antioch.
During this time some prophets came down from
Jerusalem to Antioch. One of them, named
Agabus, stood up and through the Spirit predicted
that a severe famine would spread over the entire
Roman world. (This happened during the reign of
Claudius.) The disciples, each according to his
ability, decided to provide help for the brothers
living in Judea. This they did, sending their gift to
the elders by Barnabas and Saul.
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Gave timely advice
Risked his reputation–put himself on the line
Prompted obedience to God
Provided ministry opportunities to Paul
Ministered alongside Paul
Used his gifts with the congregation
Served through the giving of his resources:
time, finances, spiritual gifts, influence.
Session II
A Model and A Method
Mentoring is a relational process responding
to a perceived or identified need.
A mentor is someone who knows something,
and transfers that something (the power
resources such as wisdom, advice,
information, emotional support, protection,
linking to resources, career guidance, status)
to someone else, the mentee, at a sensitive
time so that it impacts development
(empowerment).
Mentor
(Resource Person)
Empowerment
(Growth Step)
Mentee
(Corresponding Need)
Sensitive
Time
Type of Dynamic
Name of Dynamic
Factor
What begins the process? 
How does it move
forward?
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What is required for
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change or growth to occur
in mentored?
What is the goal or
purpose of mentoring?
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ATTRACTION
RELATIONSHIP
RESPONSIVENESS
(mentored)
ACCOUNTABILITY
(mentor)
EMPOWERMENT
Excerpted and adapted from The Mentoring
Handbook by Dr.’s Robert & Richard Clinton
This is the natural tendency of the person
who needs help to move towards a person
who is perceived as one who can be
helpful. The mentee is attracted to the
mentor for a variety of reasons:
personality, ministry skills, experience,
spirituality, etc.
Relational interaction
facilitates growth and
empowerment. Although
this is not always
possible, when trust is
developed between
mentor and mentee,
there is a greater
potential for the
exchange of resources.
The mentee’s
willingness to
respond to the
information that the
mentor is sharing is
vital for learning and
empowerment.
This involves the
mentee answering to
someone for his / her
growth and spiritual
development. Often
there is mutual
accountability
between mentors and
mentees.
This is the actual
exchange of resources
and encouragement
between mentor and
mentee in areas of life
and ministry.
Mentor Type
Intensive 1. Discipler
Interaction
Major Thrusts
Enablement in the basic
of faith and following
Christ.
2. Spiritual Guide
Accountability for
spirituality and
disciplines for personal
growth.
3. Coach
Helps to facilitate
greater skills and
motivational
enablement.
Mentor Type
Occasional 4. Counselor
Interaction
Major Thrusts
Gives perspective,
timely advice on viewing
self, others and ministry.
5. Teacher
Imparts knowledge,
wisdom and conceptual
insights.
6. Sponsor
Provides career
guidance and protection
as leader moves
upward.
Mentor Type
Passive
7. Contemporary
Model
Interaction
Major Thrusts
Personal model /
example for life and
ministry, worthy of
emulation.
8. Historical
Model
Principles, values and
insights from life and
ministry of the past.
9. Divine Contact
Timely guidance and
discernment perceived
as divine intervention.
Session III
Finding Personal Mentors
Mentoring
Type
Description of what the influence looked like
in your life.
Discipler
Who did God use to most effectively challenge
you in the basics of faith as a new believer? How
did they do this?
Faith was the leader of a new believers class I
attended after my conversion at Youth Councils.
Spiritual
Guide
Who gave you your most difficult spiritual
assignment in your life? What was it?
Coach
Who taught you the most useful skill in your life
that you still use today? What skill is it?
Excerpted and adapted from the Mentoring
Workbook by Church Resource Ministries.
Mentoring
Type
Description of what the influence looked like in
your life.
Counselor
Who gave you the most critical and timely advice in your life?
What was it? Why was it critical to you?
My friend Hope encouraged me to go on a trip the summer of my
junior year in college. My passion for the poor still influences me.
Teacher
Who was the most significant teacher in your life? What did
you learn?
Mrs. Grace, my English teacher in 11th grade, loved literature and
helped me see the deeper meaning of stories. It enhanced my
reading and writing skills.
Sponsor
Identify the greatest act of love or support you ever felt from
another person. Does it still influence you today?
Mr. Murphy my 1st boss saw potential in me and encouraged me to
be a writer. He gave me a job as a reporter, and I’m still writing
today.
Mentoring
Type
Description of what the influence looked like in
your life.
Contemp.
Role Model
Which contemporary leader feeds your passion to serve
God and others today? How do you emulate this person?
Philip Yancey because he writes out of his own experience
through an in-depth study of God. I want my writing to express
my own experience with God.
Historical
or Literary
Model
What historical model has most influenced your thinking
and development as a leader? Through what means did
they influence you?
Samuel Logan Brengle’s writings reflect a man passionate
about God’s word and a life of discipleship.
Divine
Contact
Who did God use to give you the clearest sense of divine
guidance for direction in your life in one brief encounter?
What affect did it have in your life?
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Do you notice any patterns in the ways you
were influenced?
Jane – My love for reading and creative writing
was inspired, developed and encouraged.
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Are there areas where you’ve not been
influenced?
Jane – No one has taken a personal interest in
helping me develop in my spiritual life. I have
never had a prayer partner or shared my
spiritual joys and challenges with a friend.
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How do your past experiences and
relationships challenge you in the area of
your own personal growth?
Jane – My passion for God and ability at
creative expression has not been shared
with others in personal relationship. My
love for Jesus needs to reflect more in
who I am and how I relate. This seems to
be an area I need to develop in.
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How do your past experiences and
relationships challenge you in the area
of ministry and leadership?
Jane – It would seem I need to share my
skills and passion with other people,
young and old, who have a similar
interest.
Session IV
Becoming a Mentor
PERSONAL
GROWTH
MINISTRY
EFFECTIVENESS
Upward Mentors
Peer Mentors
ME
Downward Mentors
Peer Mentors
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Establish the relationship.
Jointly agree on the purpose.
Determine how often you will meet.
Determine the nature of accountability.
Set up clear lines of communication.
Clarify level of confidentiality.
Agree upon length of time.
Occasionally, evaluate process & effectiveness.
Continually, match expectations to current
situation.
Bring closure to the mentoring relationship.