27​ ​Confidence​ ​Hacks
Psychology​ ​of​ ​Attraction
1. Cold​ ​Showers
a. Cold​ ​showers,​ ​or​ ​bathing​ ​in​ ​water​ ​that​ ​lowers​ ​your​ ​body​ ​temperature​ ​has​ ​been
known​ ​to​ ​help​ ​athletes​ ​overcome​ ​their​ ​fears​ ​and​ ​increase​ ​their​ ​confidence​ ​for
years.​ ​It’s​ ​a​ ​form​ ​of​ ​resilience​ ​training.​ ​This​ ​will​ ​also​ ​increase​ ​your​ ​blood
circulation​ ​to​ ​internal​ ​organs,​ ​help​ ​with​ ​maintaining​ ​a​ ​healthy​ ​weight,​ ​and​ ​is
certainly​ ​associated​ ​with​ ​training​ ​your​ ​willpower​ ​-​ ​because​ ​taking​ ​a​ ​cold​ ​shower
every​ ​morning​ ​isn’t​ ​easy!
2. Progressive​ ​Desensitization
a. This​ ​is​ ​a​ ​big​ ​word​ ​for​ ​slowly​ ​getting​ ​used​ ​to​ ​something​ ​you’re​ ​scared​ ​of.​ ​Let’s​ ​say
you’re​ ​afraid​ ​of​ ​snakes.​ ​Here’s​ ​the​ ​process​ ​you​ ​would​ ​go​ ​through​ ​to​ ​overcome
your​ ​fear​ ​with​ ​progressive​ ​desensitization:
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Look​ ​at​ ​pictures​ ​of​ ​snakes​ ​on​ ​Google​ ​Images
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Talk​ ​about​ ​snakes​ ​with​ ​your​ ​friends
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Go​ ​to​ ​a​ ​zoo​ ​and​ ​visit​ ​the​ ​snake​ ​room
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Put​ ​your​ ​hand​ ​against​ ​the​ ​glass​ ​window​ ​of​ ​a​ ​snake
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Find​ ​a​ ​friend​ ​who​ ​has​ ​a​ ​snake​ ​and​ ​ask​ ​to​ ​hold​ ​the​ ​snake​ ​in​ ​a​ ​cage​ ​or​ ​tank
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Hold​ ​the​ ​snake​ ​in​ ​your​ ​hand
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Let​ ​the​ ​snake​ ​wrap​ ​itself​ ​around​ ​your​ ​legs​ ​or​ ​arms
3. Do​ ​something​ ​you’re​ ​afraid​ ​of
a. Progressive​ ​Desensitization​ ​is​ ​like​ ​going​ ​to​ ​a​ ​college​ ​class​ ​to​ ​learn​ ​a​ ​new
language;​ ​you​ ​learn​ ​slowly​ ​over​ ​time​ ​how​ ​to​ ​deal​ ​with​ ​new​ ​situations.​ ​Doing​ ​the
thing​ ​you’re​ ​most​ ​afraid​ ​of​ ​is​ ​like​ ​moving​ ​to​ ​a​ ​new​ ​country​ ​to​ ​learn​ ​a​ ​new
language;​ ​you​ ​have​ ​to​ ​learn​ ​quicker.​ ​Afraid​ ​of​ ​Skydiving?​ ​Go​ ​sign​ ​up;​ ​where​ ​I​ ​live
it’s​ ​like​ ​$200​ ​for​ ​a​ ​once-in-a-lifetime​ ​experience​ ​and​ ​to​ ​overcome​ ​that​ ​fear.​ ​Just
skip​ ​the​ ​pulling​ ​off​ ​the​ ​bandaid​ ​slowly​ ​and​ ​rip​ ​it​ ​off!
4. Get​ ​Rejected
a. The​ ​best​ ​way​ ​to​ ​overcome​ ​rejection​ ​is​ ​to​ ​get​ ​rejected​ ​a​ ​lot.​ ​There’s​ ​something
called​ ​the​ ​100-person​ ​challenge​ ​and​ ​it’s​ ​where​ ​you​ ​aim​ ​to​ ​talk​ ​to​ ​100​ ​new​ ​people
within​ ​30​ ​days.​ ​By​ ​the​ ​end​ ​of​ ​30​ ​days,​ ​you’ll​ ​have​ ​built​ ​up​ ​your​ ​conversation​ ​skills
you’re​ ​ready​ ​to​ ​try​ ​challenge​ ​#2.​ ​That​ ​is​ ​the​ ​100​ ​day​ ​challenge,​ ​only​ ​you​ ​have​ ​to
talk​ ​to​ ​100​ ​cute​ ​girls​ ​and​ ​ask​ ​them​ ​out​ ​on​ ​dates.​ ​YOU​ ​WILL​ ​GET​ ​REJECTED
MANY​ ​TIMES.​ ​However,​ ​you’ll​ ​build​ ​up​ ​your​ ​confidence​ ​and​ ​slowly​ ​get​ ​better​ ​at
handling​ ​rejection.
5. Visualize​ ​what​ ​you​ ​want
a. One​ ​of​ ​the​ ​best​ ​ways​ ​to​ ​become​ ​more​ ​confident​ ​is​ ​to​ ​visualize​ ​what​ ​you​ ​want.
Think​ ​of​ ​someone​ ​who​ ​has​ ​no​ ​confidence;​ ​one​ ​of​ ​their​ ​largest​ ​characteristic​ ​traits
is​ ​not​ ​knowing​ ​what​ ​they​ ​want.​ ​Instead;​ ​flip​ ​it​ ​around​ ​and​ ​know​ ​what​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to
increase​ ​your​ ​confidence!
6. Affirm​ ​yourself​ ​every​ ​day
a. Use​ ​affirmations​ ​to​ ​help​ ​yourself​ ​visualize!​ ​Just​ ​say​ ​stuff​ ​like​ ​this​ ​to​ ​yourself,​ ​write
it​ ​down,​ ​or​ ​even​ ​think​ ​it:
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I​ ​am​ ​in​ ​control​ ​of​ ​my​ ​life
ii.
Good​ ​things​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​happen​ ​today
iii.
I’m​ ​going​ ​to​ ​help​ ​a​ ​lot​ ​of​ ​people​ ​today
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I​ ​was​ ​made​ ​for​ ​greatness
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Opportunities​ ​will​ ​arise​ ​today​ ​that​ ​make​ ​me​ ​better
7. Lift​ ​Heavy
a. Lifting​ ​heavy​ ​weights​ ​will​ ​increase​ ​your​ ​testosterone​ ​levels,​ ​which​ ​of​ ​course​ ​is
correlated​ ​to​ ​confidence​ ​levels.​ ​Also,​ ​it’ll​ ​make​ ​you​ ​feel​ ​more​ ​confident​ ​because
you​ ​are​ ​literally​ ​becoming​ ​a​ ​better​ ​version​ ​of​ ​yourself!
8. Dress​ ​Better
a. If​ ​you​ ​dress​ ​sloppy,​ ​you’ll​ ​think​ ​of​ ​yourself​ ​as​ ​sloppy.​ ​Wear​ ​something​ ​that​ ​shows
you​ ​off,​ ​and​ ​you’ll​ ​have​ ​to​ ​have​ ​the​ ​confidence​ ​to​ ​back​ ​it​ ​up!​ ​Do​ ​some​ ​laundry​ ​or
go​ ​shopping​ ​if​ ​needed​ ​:)
9. Pick​ ​your​ ​music​ ​wisely
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a. Listening​ ​to​ ​music​ ​can​ ​train​ ​your​ ​brain​ ​to​ ​think​ ​certain​ ​ways.​ ​If​ ​you’re​ ​listening​ ​to
music​ ​where​ ​the​ ​main​ ​chorus​ ​is​ ​“I​ ​just​ ​can’t​ ​get​ ​anywhere​ ​in​ ​life”​ ​guess​ ​what?
You​ ​won’t!​ ​Your​ ​brain​ ​remembers​ ​the​ ​tiniest​ ​things​ ​and​ ​you​ ​can​ ​prime​ ​it​ ​with
music.​ ​Instead,​ ​listen​ ​to​ ​uplifting,​ ​powerful,​ ​and​ ​encouraging​ ​music​ ​to​ ​become
more​ ​confident!
Make​ ​a​ ​self-esteem​ ​playlist
a. To​ ​get​ ​an​ ​even​ ​better​ ​effect,​ ​make​ ​a​ ​playlist​ ​with​ ​the​ ​kind​ ​of​ ​music​ ​discussed​ ​in
the​ ​previous​ ​step​ ​so​ ​you​ ​can​ ​turn​ ​it​ ​on​ ​for​ ​an​ ​instant​ ​dopamine​ ​and​ ​confidence
boost​ ​anytime​ ​you​ ​need​ ​it.
Good​ ​posture
a. Practice​ ​good​ ​posture,​ ​it’ll​ ​be​ ​healthier​ ​and​ ​you’ll​ ​also​ ​have​ ​more​ ​confidence.
Good​ ​body​ ​language
a. Keep​ ​your​ ​body​ ​language​ ​open,​ ​never​ ​cross​ ​your​ ​arms,​ ​stand​ ​straight​ ​up,​ ​and
always​ ​keep​ ​your​ ​chin​ ​up.​ ​Body​ ​language​ ​is​ ​actually​ ​one​ ​of​ ​the​ ​things​ ​you​ ​can
“fake​ ​till​ ​you​ ​make”​ ​because​ ​your​ ​brain​ ​will​ ​realize​ ​your​ ​posture​ ​and​ ​send
hormones​ ​accordingly.​ ​If​ ​you​ ​have​ ​confident​ ​body​ ​language,​ ​your​ ​brain​ ​will
release​ ​confident​ ​hormones.
30​ ​second​ ​victory​ ​pose
a. When​ ​you​ ​are​ ​feeling​ ​down,​ ​stand​ ​with​ ​your​ ​feet​ ​about​ ​2x​ ​shoulder​ ​height,​ ​put
your​ ​hands​ ​in​ ​the​ ​air​ ​as​ ​high​ ​as​ ​they​ ​will​ ​go,​ ​making​ ​your​ ​body​ ​an​ ​X​ ​and​ ​lift​ ​your
head​ ​up.​ ​Now,​ ​take​ ​a​ ​big​ ​breath​ ​in,​ ​and​ ​let​ ​it​ ​out​ ​really​ ​slowly.​ ​While​ ​doing​ ​this;
recite​ ​an​ ​affirmation​ ​and​ ​you’ll​ ​instantly​ ​be​ ​more​ ​confident.​ ​Professional​ ​athletes
are​ ​trained​ ​to​ ​perform​ ​this​ ​“power​ ​pose”​ ​before​ ​an​ ​event​ ​to​ ​prime​ ​their​ ​brain​ ​for
success!
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Keep​ ​the​ ​best,​ ​forget​ ​the​ ​rest​ ​(selective​ ​memory)
a. Use​ ​Selective​ ​Memory​ ​to​ ​forget​ ​all​ ​the​ ​bad​ ​things​ ​that​ ​have​ ​happened​ ​in​ ​the​ ​past
and​ ​keep​ ​the​ ​best.​ ​This​ ​allows​ ​you​ ​to​ ​stay​ ​optimistic​ ​and​ ​will​ ​help​ ​with​ ​your
confidence​ ​in​ ​the​ ​future.​ ​You​ ​can’t​ ​be​ ​confident​ ​if​ ​you​ ​don’t​ ​have​ ​something​ ​to
look​ ​forward​ ​to;​ ​and​ ​you​ ​can’t​ ​have​ ​something​ ​to​ ​look​ ​forward​ ​to​ ​if​ ​you’re​ ​dwelling
on​ ​the​ ​past.
15. Write​ ​down​ ​your​ ​insecurities​ ​and​ ​joke​ ​about​ ​the​ ​ones​ ​you​ ​can’t
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a. Here’s​ ​a​ ​simple​ ​3-step​ ​process​ ​to​ ​help​ ​with​ ​your​ ​insecurities.
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Write​ ​down​ ​all​ ​your​ ​insecurities;​ ​things​ ​you​ ​think​ ​other​ ​people​ ​will​ ​make
fun​ ​of​ ​you​ ​about.
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The​ ​ones​ ​that​ ​you​ ​don’t​ ​have​ ​control​ ​over;​ ​circle​ ​them​ ​and​ ​find​ ​a​ ​way​ ​to
joke​ ​about​ ​them.​ ​I​ ​can’t​ ​change​ ​my​ ​weird​ ​hairline;​ ​so​ ​I​ ​joke​ ​about​ ​it​ ​and
over​ ​time…​ ​I’m​ ​just​ ​not​ ​worried​ ​about​ ​it​ ​anymore.
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The​ ​ones​ ​you​ ​can​ ​control;​ ​underline​ ​them​ ​and​ ​come​ ​up​ ​with​ ​a​ ​way​ ​to
change​ ​them.​ ​I​ ​can​ ​control​ ​my​ ​weight​ ​to​ ​an​ ​extent.​ ​I​ ​can​ ​control​ ​my
haircut.​ ​I​ ​can​ ​control​ ​my​ ​rudeness.
Join​ ​a​ ​fight-club,​ ​MMA,​ ​or​ ​other​ ​contact​ ​sport
a. This​ ​is​ ​related​ ​to​ ​weightlifting,​ ​but​ ​will​ ​increase​ ​your​ ​testosterone​ ​even​ ​more.
Like,​ ​it’ll​ ​skyrocket​ ​your​ ​testosterone​ ​levels.​ ​It’s​ ​been​ ​tested​ ​and​ ​hand-to-hand
combat​ ​with​ ​other​ ​guys​ ​is​ ​in​ ​the​ ​top​ ​3​ ​ways​ ​to​ ​increase​ ​your​ ​testosterone​ ​and
that​ ​will​ ​increase​ ​your​ ​confidence.​ ​Be​ ​careful​ ​though…​ ​there’s​ ​a​ ​thin​ ​line​ ​between
confidence​ ​and​ ​arrogance!
Intermittent​ ​Fasting
a. This​ ​will​ ​help​ ​you​ ​gain​ ​control​ ​of​ ​your​ ​eating​ ​levels;​ ​as​ ​well​ ​as​ ​give​ ​you​ ​CRAZY
motivation.​ ​For​ ​me,​ ​I​ ​have​ ​insane​ ​confidence​ ​when​ ​I​ ​am​ ​ready​ ​to​ ​take​ ​on​ ​the
day…​ ​and​ ​that​ ​comes​ ​with​ ​motivation.​ ​Just​ ​don’t​ ​eat​ ​for​ ​around​ ​4-5​ ​hours​ ​after
you​ ​wake​ ​up​ ​and​ ​don’t​ ​eat​ ​~4​ ​hours​ ​before​ ​you​ ​go​ ​to​ ​bed.​ ​Also,​ ​talk​ ​to​ ​a​ ​doctor
before​ ​making​ ​any​ ​major​ ​changes​ ​to​ ​your​ ​diet​ ​-​ ​as​ ​this​ ​is​ ​not​ ​for​ ​everyone.
Get​ ​off​ ​Social​ ​media​ ​so​ ​much
a. Being​ ​on​ ​social​ ​media;​ ​and​ ​seeing​ ​the​ ​best​ ​parts​ ​of​ ​other​ ​people’s​ ​lives​ ​will
ultimately​ ​depress​ ​you​ ​and​ ​make​ ​you​ ​wonder​ ​why​ ​you​ ​aren’t​ ​living​ ​such​ ​a​ ​cool
life.​ ​The​ ​secret​ ​is​ ​that​ ​people​ ​who​ ​post​ ​things​ ​like​ ​that​ ​deal​ ​with​ ​the​ ​same​ ​stuff
you​ ​deal​ ​with​ ​-​ ​they​ ​just​ ​don’t​ ​share​ ​it.​ ​Stop​ ​priming​ ​your​ ​brain​ ​with​ ​unsuccessful
comparison.​ ​Spend​ ​more​ ​time​ ​having​ ​fun​ ​:)
Surround​ ​yourself​ ​with​ ​confident​ ​people
a. Everyone​ ​knows​ ​the​ ​famous​ ​saying​ ​by​ ​Jim​ ​Rohn​ ​“You​ ​are​ ​the​ ​sum​ ​of​ ​the​ ​5
people​ ​you​ ​spend​ ​most​ ​of​ ​your​ ​time​ ​around”.​ ​Well,​ ​it’s​ ​true,​ ​and​ ​it​ ​works​ ​for
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confidence​ ​too.​ ​Some​ ​people​ ​think​ ​they​ ​can​ ​trick​ ​themselves;​ ​sticking​ ​around
people​ ​who​ ​think​ ​they​ ​are​ ​worthless​ ​so​ ​they​ ​feel​ ​confident​ ​by​ ​comparison…​ ​but
you​ ​want​ ​to​ ​be​ ​around​ ​people​ ​who​ ​are​ ​even​ ​more​ ​confident​ ​than​ ​you​ ​are​ ​and
want​ ​to​ ​be!
Get​ ​rid​ ​of​ ​negative​ ​people
a. There​ ​are​ ​a​ ​lot​ ​of​ ​negative​ ​people​ ​in​ ​this​ ​world,​ ​and​ ​letting​ ​them​ ​hold​ ​you​ ​back
just​ ​by​ ​being​ ​around​ ​you​ ​is​ ​something​ ​you’ll​ ​regret​ ​when​ ​you’re​ ​80.​ ​Even​ ​if
they’re​ ​family,​ ​find​ ​a​ ​way​ ​to​ ​spend​ ​less​ ​time​ ​around​ ​them​ ​ASAP.
Celebrate​ ​your​ ​wins!
a. I​ ​don’t​ ​mean​ ​gloating,​ ​but​ ​when​ ​you​ ​have​ ​a​ ​win…​ ​publicly​ ​celebrate​ ​it!​ ​Let​ ​people
know​ ​you​ ​had​ ​an​ ​achievement​ ​and​ ​are​ ​celebrating​ ​it.​ ​It’ll​ ​give​ ​you​ ​motivation​ ​to
keep​ ​working​ ​hard​ ​and​ ​also​ ​boost​ ​your​ ​confidence​ ​in​ ​your​ ​own​ ​abilities!
Keep​ ​your​ ​goals​ ​secret
a. Some​ ​people​ ​actually​ ​talk​ ​more​ ​than​ ​they​ ​walk.​ ​The​ ​reality​ ​is​ ​that​ ​most​ ​people​ ​do
this.​ ​Be​ ​different​ ​by​ ​not​ ​talking​ ​about​ ​your​ ​goals​ ​to​ ​everyone;​ ​because
psychologically​ ​we​ ​get​ ​more​ ​satisfaction​ ​from​ ​telling​ ​people​ ​than​ ​actually
achieving​ ​them.​ ​So,​ ​keep​ ​your​ ​goals​ ​secret​ ​until​ ​you​ ​have​ ​the​ ​meat​ ​to​ ​show.
Wake​ ​up​ ​every​ ​morning​ ​with​ ​5​ ​things​ ​you’re​ ​grateful​ ​for
a. Very​ ​easy​ ​one,​ ​but​ ​will​ ​put​ ​you​ ​in​ ​the​ ​mindset​ ​that​ ​you’re​ ​blessed​ ​and​ ​grateful.
This​ ​primes​ ​your​ ​brain​ ​for​ ​even​ ​more​ ​great​ ​things​ ​to​ ​happen​ ​in​ ​the​ ​day.​ ​Is​ ​it
easier​ ​to​ ​be​ ​confident​ ​when​ ​you​ ​wake​ ​up​ ​and​ ​go​ ​“I​ ​don’t​ ​have​ ​any​ ​feet,​ ​the​ ​sun
won’t​ ​shine​ ​today,​ ​and​ ​I’m​ ​hungry”​ ​or​ ​to​ ​say​ ​“I’m​ ​so​ ​glad​ ​I​ ​have​ ​arms,​ ​that​ ​there
is​ ​grey​ ​sky​ ​so​ ​I​ ​can​ ​appreciate​ ​the​ ​blue​ ​sky,​ ​and​ ​I’m​ ​going​ ​to​ ​have​ ​the​ ​best
breakfast​ ​in​ ​a​ ​few​ ​minutes”?​ ​You​ ​choose!
Compliment​ ​Others
a. Complimenting​ ​others​ ​not​ ​only​ ​makes​ ​them​ ​feel​ ​good,​ ​but​ ​it​ ​also​ ​makes​ ​you​ ​feel
wonderful!​ ​By​ ​helping​ ​other​ ​people​ ​out,​ ​you’ll​ ​slowly​ ​gain​ ​their​ ​favor​ ​and​ ​also
increase​ ​your​ ​confidence!​ ​It​ ​works,​ ​trust​ ​me​ ​:)
Know​ ​how​ ​to​ ​accept​ ​compliments
a. Along​ ​with​ ​giving​ ​compliments,​ ​you​ ​also​ ​need​ ​to​ ​know​ ​how​ ​to​ ​respectfully​ ​accept
them.​ ​Most​ ​people​ ​shrug​ ​them​ ​off​ ​“yeah,​ ​thanks,​ ​but​ ​really​ ​it​ ​wasn’t​ ​me”.​ ​I​ ​don’t
mean​ ​to​ ​boast,​ ​but​ ​freaking​ ​own​ ​that​ ​compliment.​ ​“Yeah,​ ​you’re​ ​right,​ ​I​ ​love​ ​these
shoes,​ ​they​ ​feel​ ​comfortable​ ​and​ ​I​ ​knew​ ​I​ ​had​ ​to​ ​buy​ ​them!”.
Read
a. Feed​ ​your​ ​brain​ ​knowledge​ ​and​ ​it’ll​ ​reward​ ​you​ ​with​ ​confidence.​ ​Knowing​ ​more
things​ ​and​ ​understanding​ ​the​ ​world​ ​better​ ​always​ ​helps​ ​with​ ​confidence.
Learn
a. Everyone​ ​is​ ​curious​ ​in​ ​some​ ​manner.​ ​If​ ​you​ ​don’t​ ​learn,​ ​you’re​ ​opening​ ​your​ ​brain
for​ ​depression.​ ​Instead,​ ​learn​ ​something​ ​new​ ​everyday​ ​and​ ​keep​ ​those​ ​itchy
neurons​ ​firing​ ​to​ ​increase​ ​your​ ​confidence!