7 Strategies To Blow Her Mind In Bed by Jordan Gray https://www.jordangrayconsulting.com/ Copyright Jordan Gray 2017 https://www.jordangrayconsulting.com/ 1. Masturbate more But do it in a specific way… There is a HUGE gap between quick, compulsive, energy depleting masturbation, and extended, productive, training-you-for-amazinglyworld-class-sex masturbation. In short, you want to be masturbating with more total time per session, but fewer sessions overall. Don’t masturbate to completion several times per day in short 2-5 minute bursts (typically, the least healthy way to masturbate which literally trains your penis to ejaculate quickly)… but rather, only masturbate a few times per month, but when you do, make each session 30-60 minutes in length. During these extended masturbation sessions, you will be essentially re-sensitizing yourself to your body. Reconnecting your your head to your heart and body. You will do this by using your hands to explore every inch of yourself, and to practice what I call the “9-5 technique.” The 9-5 technique is when you masturbate yourself to arousal, and then (on a sexual energy scale of 1 to 10… 1 being completely turned off, 10 being having an orgasm) you want to raise and lower your level of arousal from a 9 to a 5, over and over again. By doing this you will be retraining your penis (and mind) to last longer in bed. By building up your sexual stamina, you will then be able to please your woman that much more fully, as it usually takes women a significantly longer time to reach orgasm than it does for most men. 2. Make your bedroom into a sacred space While we can exercise our willpower to a certain extent in our lives, our environments often shape our realities to a much greater degree. So instead of having to overcome the lackluster vibe in your bedroom to initiate sex, why not have the sexiness and luxurious appeal of your bedroom inspire you and your partner into sexy times with ease? The truth of the matter is… she won’t be able to fully let go until she feels like she’s in a distractions free environment that is conducive to allowing her to drop out of her mind and into her body. There are several things you can do to help her achieve a state of relaxation. - Remove all distractions from your bedroom - Remove your TV from your room. Plug in your cell phones in other rooms. - Make sure all laundry is done, folded, and put away. - Invest in a few choice items that will make your bedroom into a sanctuary. Invest in quality sheets, massage oil, and some basic, soft mood lighting. - Pick up an essential oil diffuser and/or humidifier to ensure that the air quality and scent of your room is a relaxing one. Lavender is a good oil to start with. 3. Connect with your breath One of the most effective ways to (1) last longer in bed, (2) experience your pleasure more fully, and (3) be a more present and attentive lover is to connect with your breath. One of the fastest ways to become a two-pump chump (aka have terrible sexual stamina and leave your partner feeling disappointed) is to tense up your muscles and hold your breath during sex. A great way to practice connecting to your breath (and thereby extending your sexual stamina) is to practice conscious breathing either while masturbating, or during sex. The simplest way to do this is to practice what is known as “box breathing.” Box breathing is when you inhale through your nose for a slow count of four seconds, hold for four seconds, exhale through your nose for four seconds, and then hold again for four seconds. By doing this for several minutes at a time you will drop your body into a deeply restful state and you will gain more control over when you reach your climax. Start off by doing it during your every day life (waiting while in traffic, while going to sleep at night, etc.), then do it while practicing extended masturbation (the 9-5 technique), and eventually bringing it into your sexual practice with your partner. Your body, your sexual stamina, and your partner will thank you. 4. Tune up your sex muscles Things like your forearms, pelvic floor muscles, lower back and abs all get used significantly during sex and it’s good to have your body parts in working order. The one region that most people have chronically weak musculature in is in the pelvic floor region (also known as your PC muscle). Your PC muscle, or pubococcygeus muscle, is the hammock like muscle that stretches from the tail bone to the pubic bone (it cradles your groin area). It is the muscle that you can clench to stop the flow of urine when you’re peeing. Doing Kegel exercises is a great way to start to get a relationship to your PC muscle and to give it a tune up. Try this: twice a week (say, on Monday and Thursday, to give yourself time in between for the muscle to rebuild) alternate rapidly pulsing sets of Kegels with sets of two second holds. If you’re just starting out, your PC muscle should feel a little bit tired by the end of your sets of pulses and holds. Keep it up, and over time you’ll experience stronger orgasms, and greater orgasmic control. 5. Keep your testosterone levels high (at any age) One of the biggest contributing factors to your sex drive is your free testosterone levels. The three most immediate ways that you can influence your testosterone levels are through your quality of sleep, your nutrition, and the way that you exercise. For sleep: Ensure that you’re getting at least 7-8 hours of sleep per night, on a consistent basis. Have a wind-down routine that helps your mind shut off from your workday. Have a bath. Read a part of a fiction book. Write down any thoughts that are floating around in your mind into a journal on your bedside table. Disengage with all electronics at least 1-2 hours before going to bed, and aim to have your bedtime be consistent throughout your week. For nutrition: Eat real food, including a lot of dark green, and colorful vegetables. Avoid overly processed, fake foods. Don’t over eat. Specifically, make sure that you’re getting a diet with lots of healthy fats in it (pastured eggs, organic avocados, coconut oil, walnuts, pecans, etc.) since fat and cholesterol is a necessary precursor to testosterone production. For exercise: Focus primarily on heavy compound lifts (like squats, dead lifts, chinup’s, and bench presses). If you’re doing much cardio, aim for high intensity interval training style workouts where you sprint and then rest, sprint and then rest, on repeat. Too much walking triggers your minds old programming to go into ‘grazing’ mode and limit your free testosterone levels. 6. Use your mouth more …But use it to communicate (among other things). For something that takes up so much of our daily attention, sex is something that barely (if ever) gets talked about. Like many items on this list, a little bit of effort goes a long way towards improving your sex life. Talk directly with your partner about your likes, dislikes, and what you would like to try. Become an expert on your partner’s sexual arousal and what turns them on or off. At the same time, let them know how they can best please you. Even during sex, giving brief less-than-five-word feedback can work wonders. You don’t have to issue orders like a drill sergeant… but a simple phrase like “a little harder”, or “a bit slower, baby” can work wonders for your pleasure. 7. Extend your foreplay, and sloooowwww down Many men feel a lot of pressure to perform well during sex and help their partner to orgasm (once, or several times). While this a noble intention, those same men make it harder on themselves then they need it to be by rushing through (or entirely bypassing) foreplay. Sex isn’t a race. Nor is it about performance. Sex is about slowing down, feeling, connecting, and experiencing pleasure. The highest leverage place for you to start to have your sex life be more pleasurable for both you and your partner is to extend foreplay significantly. Spend ample time kissing, touching, caressing, massaging, hugging, and playing. Tease your way down her body. Take your time. According to ancient Taoist sexual philosophy, sexual energy is different for men and women. For men, sexual energy begins in the genitals and needs to be spread outwards, whereas for women, sexual energy starts in the extremities and needs to be slowly brought towards the genitals. What this means in practical terms, is that it takes a while for your partner to warm up. Embrace this fact, and your love life will thrive as a result. Dedicated to your success, Jordan