LET’S CHECK IDENTITY CUBE HOW I VIEW MYSELF I view myself as a persistent and adaptable person. Persistence means obstinate continuance despite difficulty or challenges. Just like in taking my course today, this accountancy was just once a childhood course to me. I can say that I’m persistent because I still really held to that dream today despite its difficulty. Out of more than 1,000 students who enrolled in accountancy during the first year in college, just 152 more or less have left to stay and I am one of them. I always tell myself that it’s okay to fail in this course because it will only be charge to experience. I always thought that if I love a thing, I will pursue it especially if it is just reachable. Therefore, I believe that difficulty is nothing if you love it. Second, Adaptability is the quality of being able to adjust to new conditions. For me, with the goal that I always have in mind, I am naturally able to act toward it even if some unexpected circumstances arise. For example, with the onslaught of Corona Virus, my normal life was really altered in 360 degrees—my studying habits, my face to face schooling, my everyday life outside school and many more. I thought that if I am not adaptable enough, I think that I would just let the CoVid-19 circumstance kill my dreams just like how it kills my normal happy life. I think that I will drop my course, I will stop schooling, and I will not study effectively again just like others. But instead of yielding to the negativity, I mingle with my friends and help ourselves and use the available resources like internet and electronic devices, books available, and reviewers to sustain my needs in academics. Even if sometimes I want to choose to give-up because of CoVid-19, I always still choose to adapt and solve problems that rooted from it. LET’S ANALYZE Activity 1 Sense of Identity is essential for you to become effective on the craft that you would like to explore and be doing after finishing your course in the university. With this in mind, I will let you now reflect on the following questions: 1. Was there a time in the past that you have doubted your sense of identity because of others? What was the scenario then? How did it affect you? How did you manage it? I don’t remember, so far, the time in the past that I doubted my sense of identity because of others so I cannot share a scenario of it, how it affected me, and how I managed it. But rather let me share you something. Surely, there are people who really attempted to drop my sense of identity but they were never successful. I experienced a lot of discouragement and heard hurtful things that will surely make someone doubt there sense of identity even doubt themselves that they cannot do something. One of my aunt told me that I cannot be successful If I live out from her house, another aunt told me that my academic excellence is good for elementary and high school only, my grandma told me that I will be like unto my mother who get to live with guys other than my father, my uncle told me that I will get pregnant early, and many other things. Maybe to other people if they hear the same, they might get discouraged and make those mere words become real to themselves. But, mine is exactly opposite. I never listened because what stands out to me is the fact that “I know myself better and only God knows me best”. Besides, the more I am being told of bad things, the more I am inspired to do better or best. Gratefully, after I left my aunt’s house, I became more independent and responsible about myself and my future. I am already in my last semester of college and I am proud of myself without bragging. Second, I became a dean’s lister during my first year. At least through that year, I have proved to myself and to my aunt that I am not limited. I am good. I am just lazy. I also learned that excellence is not defined by grades alone. Third is even if I am not yet a mother, I always instill in myself that I will not be like my mother. I perceived marriage as sacred and ordained by God that I cannot trample on. Lastly is, I’m well and busy so far and not pregnant nor with kids to take care today. I can say that I am the one who is in control with myself and so other people should not be the one to shape my sense of identity nor define my future. 2. What makes “sense of identity” important for you while finishing your current course? How do you currently handle doubts and frustrations of your sense of identity? For me, a sense of identity is important in finishing my accountancy course as it will drive me to pursue the course or take another. The question is, when do I know that it is already the time to drop or continue this course. Simple, am I happy with it? Am I still coping up? Do I feel myself in this? Am I interested in this? Do I see myself in the future practicing this profession? If yes, then it’s mine. If not, then why bother continuing it, I’ll just find my YES in another course. It’s just that for me, a strong sense of identity is really a tool that makes me keep going. With it, I found my purpose. With that purpose, I think I know things I need to hold and let go. I think accountancy is one of the things that I need to hold into so I am finishing it. 3. With the readings that you have had about sense of identity, what struck you most and you deemed significant for you? How did it help you to become more aware of who you are? With the reading I had about sense of identity, I am more struck by the following phrase: ‘You know exactly who you are and what you are capable of, and no one else is able to tell you otherwise’. This phrase gives me a sense of approval about my perception of myself or my sense of identity especially those that I have written earlier. It feels good when someone is telling me that I’m good or I’m better in my way. I think that how I view myself today, as long as I am not bragging, is healthy. I will continue to stand on my belief and will always love it and cherish myself. LET’S CHECK ACTIVITY 2 Role models become an essential part of who and what we become. Clearly it is a vital factor to which we develop our identity and in fullness acknowledge who we are. With that in mind, discuss the following: 1. In your journey to become fully aware of who you are, what influences did your role models have had towards the following: a. Career choice My role models taught me to choose a profession that I love and I am interested in. They also taught me to choose a career that will elevate our life’s status. b. General attitude towards self and others My role models always taught me to be humble even how already successful I become, to help other people in any way I can, to follow the example of the only begotten. c. Your view towards yourself My role models taught me to be myself. They taught me that real love comes after the manifestation of real character. LET’S ANALYZE Activity 3. In this activity, you are required once again to elaborate your answer to each of the questions below. 1. Enumerate and explain the advantages (3) and disadvantages (3) of Role Models in Life. (1) (1) Advantages 1.1 They are inspiration. I believe that people become role models because they have achieved or contribute something that is being looked-up to. That achievement or contribution creates a strong impression or thought to another person of doing the same thing (‘sana ako din’). In doing so, that role model become an inspiration. 1.2 They guide Role model may be the one we are already connected with or one that we just know from somewhere else. But in the same way, they become a guide in a way of asking direct advises from them or just following their updates from somewhere else and the use it to ourselves. We use some of their excellent ways or self-hacks in order to achieve the same success, although not really a hundred percent. 1.3 They set a standard Because we set them as our role model, mostly, we also set them as a standard. They possess some genuine character that we really love and incorporate to ourselves. (2) Disadvantages 2.1 They become dominant Because of too much admiration, some people forget their own identity and just copy everything from their role model. They found their role model as them. Take for example those diehard-fans of popular celebrity. From clothing, hairstyle, career choice, attitude, etc. This is a disadvantage because a life became at risk by dependency on someone else. 2.2 They say something as if they knew everything, thing when in fact they don’t. After becoming updated about the life of our role model, we also see some of their turning points maybe, because they as well are not perfect. When we ask direct advices, they draw realization from their own experience and forget that there are some areas where we differ. Instead of using exemptions, they generalize. Same way when having the opportunity to speak publicly. 2.3 They give pressure and anxiety. We know that their success did not come automatically but by hardwork and strong character. Those example and standard are what we also set to ourselves. We become pressured and we think too much. We become afraid of failure to achieve what we expected. Even if we did our part, there are still some unachievable areas and we become hard to ourselves. 2. As a matured adult, how would you reconcile discrepancy between the influences your role models have toward you, and your own view and impression of who you are? As an adult, I think I have already gain sufficient knowledge by observation towards the life experience of my role models. Also, I have strong awareness about myself. Hence, I have the capability to take what I learned from them, whatever I found useful to me and the path I am choosing. I am aware that even if I make them my role models, we still have a lot of difference and so there are thing that needs an exemption.