Emotional Intelligence… 2014/3/13 Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI Emotions •Spontaneous mental state •Patterned •Organismic reactions •Accompanied by physiological changes 2014/3/13 Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI Experience of Positive & Negative Emotions Negative emotions (Goal incongruent): - Anger - Guilt/shame - Envy/jealousy - Fright/anxiety - Sadness - Disgust Positive emotions (Goal congruent) - Happiness/joy - Pride - Love/affection - Relief 2014/3/13 Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI Amygdala the seat of Emotions Emotional brain is seated in Amygdala (limbic system), situated on top of brain stem. 2014/3/13 Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI A Definition of Emotional Intelligence 2000 years ago Plato said, “All learning has an emotional base”. EI is the capacity: •to recognize feelings: self & others, •to motivate ourselves (work enjoyment, larger purpose) & •to manage emotions (emotion as a resource needs to be managed & channelized for productive purpose) •to establish meaningful relationship with others. -Goleman, 1998 Originally coined by two US psychologists, Peter Salovey & John Mayer 2014/3/13 Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI Basics of Emotional Intelligence Managing your emotional life: – Knowing your feelings – Persisting in the face of setbacks – Empathy – Handling feelings with skill & harmony 2014/3/13 Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI Working with people means working with Emotions When people are working at a common place, emotions will play a role. Business decisions, should be based on information, logic & calm cool reason, with emotions kept to a minimum. 2014/3/13 Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI Why are organizations interested in EI? • The ability to manage feelings & handle stress - has been found to be important for success. • Analysis of over 300 top-level executives from 15 global co.s found that 6 emotional competencies distinguished stars from average performers : ability to Influence team leadership, organizational awareness, self-confidence, achievement drive, & leadership • EQ is a stronger predictor of success than experience or high IQ. 2014/3/13 Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI IQ vs EQ Conventional wisdom - IQ the largest determinant of success It has been shown that a high IQ is no guarantee of success Whereas a low EQ is a definite determinate of failure IQ changes relatively little over lifespan EQ can be learned & improved! 2014/3/13 Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI Why EI Now? • Changing nature of work • Increasing complexity • Rapid pace of change • Rising stress levels 2014/3/13 Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI Why EQ EQ is the distinguishing factor that: • help us to maintain a warm relationship or distant contacts. • draws others to us or repels them. • enables us to work in coordination with others or to create a disputed situation. • enables to win the heart of people or to win the situation by argument. 2014/3/13 Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI Benefits of EQ • • • • personal motivation personal mastery over our life’s purpose & intention empathy for others social expertise that allows us to network & develop relationships • a tenacity to face & resolve both internal & external conflict • personal influence that enables us to advance our purpose. 2014/3/13 Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI Needs Substantial Development Needs Some Development Definite Strength Self Awareness 25 or below 26 – 30 31 or above Self Regulation 26 or below 27 – 31 32 or above Motivation 26 or below 27 – 30 31 or above Empathy 25 or below 26 – 30 31 or above Social Skills 24 or below 25 – 29 30 or above Total 130 or below 131 -154 155 or above Emotional Competency 2014/3/13 Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI The 5 Components of EI at Work Definition Self-Awareness The ability to recognize & understand your moods, emotions, & drives, as well as their effect on others Self-Regulation • The ability to control or redirect disruptive impulses & moods • The propensity to suspend judgment - to think before acting Motivation • A passion to work for reasons that go beyond money or status • A propensity to pursue goals with energy & persistence 2014/3/13 Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI The 5 Components of EI at Work (contd..) Empathy • The ability to understand the emotional makeup of other people • Skill in treating people according to their emotional reactions Social Skill • Proficiency in managing relationships & building networks • An ability to find common ground & build rapport 2014/3/13 Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI Use of EQ at Workplace It is EQ that: • will solve our retention & morale problems • improve our creativity • create synergy from teamwork • speed information by way of sophisticated people networks • drive our purpose • & ignite the best & most inspired performance from our followers. 2014/3/13 Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI How to Improve EI 2014/3/13 Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI Good news about EI • EI is much less fixed than IQ • EI can develop over time • Training, coaching, & feedback can substantially improve EI 2014/3/13 Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI Amygdala Hijack – The routes from sensation to action are depicted in this drawing of the brain. – In the hijacked condition your brain is flooded with electro-chemicals. – The chemicals dissipate in 3-6 seconds. – To minimize the damage from hijacking, it is important to practice patterns which lead to de-escalation. 2014/3/13 Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI Learning to be emotionally intelligent Changing thoughts after the moment of arousal can make feelings easier to manage; deep breathing can help defuse destructive automatic thoughts & facilitate return to a comfortable level. 2014/3/13 Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI Learning to be emotionally intelligent Become Aware of Your Flash Points 2014/3/13 Elect an emotional mentor Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI Learning to be emotionally intelligent Learning to be an optimist Building Resilience Essential for maintaining motivation & preventing burnout. Although a +ve or -ve outlook is to some extent part of inborn temperament, optimism & hope can be learned Self talk is a tool suggested for optimism 2014/3/13 a talk with a trusted friend, a few minutes of fresh air or sunshine, a healthy snack, some hot tea or your favorite music Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI Self-Awareness The ability to see ourselves with our own eyes, to be aware of our … • Goals, immediate and long term • Beliefs about ourselves and others • Values, those things that we hold dear • Rules, that we live by, the shoulds, musts and oughts 2014/3/13 Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI Self-Awareness You can identify the filters (hot buttons) that trigger your emotions, and use this information for a more positive outcome. You can identify your emotional responses by: Tuning into your senses Getting in touch with your feelings Knowing your goals 2014/3/13 Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI Keeping a feeling (emotional) diary Date/Time Example 2014/3/13 Automatic thought(s) What do you think? Emotion(s) How do you feel? Response What did you do? Outcome(s) What were the consequences? Describe • Actual event • Stream of thoughts, daydream or recollections leading to emotions •Any physical sensations Write down: Thought that preceded the emotion(s) Specify: • Emotion (e.g/. sadness, anxiety, happiness) Detail: • What happened • Presentation for the Meeting • I’ve really not had enough time to prepare; it was dropped to me at the last moment • Management should have done presentation •I am going to blow it •They are going to see that it is not clearly thought through; it will be my fault • I’ll look like a fool • Anxiety • Fear •Stomach churning; pressure at back of neck • Just manage to get through • Presentation not really convincing • Asked to re-present in a month Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI Managing Our Emotions • Controlling unproductive behaviour that does not get us anywhere. • Winning a shouting match with a difficult colleague is only a short-term and transitory gain. • In addition, raising your blood pressure is not good for your health in the long term. 2014/3/13 • Instead, try to understand the link between your interpretation of an event and your responses to it. You can choose an alternative way to feel. • This is the key to EI capability. Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI Learn to live with worries • Live one day at a time • Practice the worry buster technique • Adopt the six-second rule 2014/3/13 Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI When you become anxious or angry or worried about doing something (e.g. a presentation), ask yourself the following questions • What do I have to gain/if I do/say this? • What would be the worst that could happen if I do/don’t say or do this? • What can I learn from saying/doing this? • Where is the evidence for the way I am thinking? • What is the logic in my interpretation? • What do I have to lose if I do/say this? 2014/3/13 Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI The six-second rule • Six seconds is the time it takes to capture the fight or flight response. • When someone has said or done something to upset you, take a deep breath and count 6 seconds before you respond. 2014/3/13 123456 Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI Why relationships fail? • Unrealistic expectations • Lack of empathy • Dependency/codependency • Poor communication • Personality differences (different maps of the world) 2014/3/13 Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI 10 tips for building exceptional relationships with colleagues at work 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. Appreciate their individual skills, knowledge & capabilities Take time to get to know them Actively listen to what they say Remember you can have a good relationship without having to be their best friend Spend some social time as well as work time with them 2014/3/13 6. 7. 8. 9. 10. Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI Give +ve feedback for a job well done Seek their advice & opinion whenever you can Support them through tough times Recognize individual uniqueness, be flexible in your style & approach Use common courtesies & friendly greetings Tips for sharing thoughts, feelings and ideas • Be in a good frame of mind • Tune in to how the other person responds • Set a positive tone to the discussion • Check out any feelings of discomfort 2014/3/13 • Remember when we communicate our emotions: • 55% is non-verbal (through our body language) • 38% is the tone of voice • 7% is dependent on the content (the actual words we use) Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI Thank You 2014/3/13 Dr Mamta Mohapatra, IMI