Be The Influence: ENCOURAGE DREAM & Objectives: What is Influence ? How to influence someone and their decisions ? What is a dream ? What are the responsibilities of parents to their child? How to encourage dreams Leadership How to lead by example Why is it important to be a good role model? What is influence ? This is the capacity to have an effect on the character, development, or behavior of someone or something or the effect itself. How to influence your child and their decision? Influence is power. Did you know that parents are usually the first persons a child learns to trust? Parents and families are the most important persons in children’s lives. The many different relationships people form over the course of their life span, the relationship between parents and child is among the most important. Cont’ To influence your child you first have to Lead by example – you do this by walking your talk , you become a person other want to follow . Be truthful – Inaccurate representation affect everyone around you. Show that honesty is the best policy. Listen and Ask questions. You’ll receive valuable insights and encourage healthy relationship with your child. “ The biggest adventure you can take is to live the life of your dreams” - Oprah Winfrey What is a dream? A dream is a cherish aspiration, ambition or ideal. A dream is a cherish aspiration, ambition or ideal. What are the responsibilities of parents to their child? Parents must provide for the material and spiritual welfare of their child. They must inspire their children by their own exemplary life and must never neglect to correct their faults. What do you want to be when you grow up ? That’s a question most of us if not all have been asked some point in our lives growing up. We would reply a teacher, a doctor, a bank accountant or any other profession that we thought was “COOL” – your child too. They too dream of becoming someone spectacular one day. How to encourage dreams There are many ways to encourage your child or children's dream. Observe your child Support your child Engage you child See the bigger picture Observe you child While observing your child you may discover some hidden talents that you weren’t aware of . For example, do your child take the lead when playing? Are he/she good at trying to keep the peace when a disagreement happens while playing? Support you child Sometime the most difficult thing to do is supporting them in pursuing their interest, especially when they seem unrealistic. Engage your child You may ask, how do I engage my child? Well you can start by simply talking to them about their dreams and aspirations in life and finding out more about your children. You can challenge their thinking and perspective by having discussions about what they observe around them. See the bigger picture It is important that we learn to recognize that there is more than one pathway to success. Every child is unique, with a special make up of strengths and passions. Forcing our children to fit in or comparing their exam results with others won’t be helpful. Leadership As leadership expert Warren Bennis once stated, "leadership is the capacity to translate vision into reality.” Great leaders possess dazzling social intelligence, a zest for change, and above all, the ability to set their sights on the things that truly merit attention. How to lead by example Watch what you say. Actions do speak louder than words, but words can have a direct impact on morale. Listen to the them. As parents , sometimes we are consumed with providing directive, giving orders, we forget to stop and listen to what our children has to say. Help them understand the value of resilience. setbacks and disappointments may seem to temporarily impede your child’s journey towards his or her dream, but resilience is about empowering your child to pick himself or herself up and try again. Children have big dreams, but are sometimes too scared to pursue them. As parents and educators, we should inspire, encourage and have confidence in our children. Help your child realize that : He or she can do anything-as long as he or she sets his or her mind to it. While chasing his or her dream can be challenging, it is also meaningful and rewarding. He or she should not let others discourage his or her dreams by saying , “you can’t do this.” Being a good role model A role model is a person who serves as an example by influencing others. For many children, the most important role models are their parents and caregivers. Children look up to a variety of role models to help shape how they behave in school, relationships, or when making difficult decisions. If you're ready to step up to the plate, here are a few ways to lead by example : Be your best. When it comes to your kids, rolemodeling is everything. Your children pay attention to everything you say and do, and they imitate your words and actions. Keep in mind how easily they are influenced. Be your best. Be dependable. You don't want to raise a flaky kid who lets people down -- so make sure to model dependability. Check in with yourself. "Checking in" to evaluate your own behavior is a beautiful practice -- and it's healthy for your child to see and hear you doing it, too. Be attentive. As children get older, they push for more independence ("Mom, please don't come in my room!") and that's to be expected. But as a parent, your job isn't to be a "cool friend." Start now. The habits that children develop at an early age tend to stick with them as they grow older. Since bad habits are tough to break, one of the best things you can do for your children, from day one, is to model behavior which positively shapes their character and values, and equips them to live responsible, productive lives.