Class folders due soon!!
(See syllabus for date)
20 Points off for each calendar day late.
Ch. 18 Families
Today’s coming attractions!!
What will increase your chances of
divorce?
What makes healthy families?
What will increase your chances of
divorce?
Individualism
Unexpected pregnancy
Alcohol or substance abuse
Financial strains
What will increase your chances of
divorce? (Cont.)
Young people marrying after a short
courtship
Cohabitation
Romantic love often subsides?
Traditional (nuclear) family is eroding
Staying single is up
Divorce is up
More children born to single mothers
John Gottamn – Why marriages
succeed or fail
Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse
Criticism
Attacking personality
Generalizations
Contempt
Name calling
Sarcasm
Body language – e.g. “Rolling Eyes”
John Gottamn – Why marriages
succeed or fail (Cont.)
Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse
Defensiveness
Making excuses
Cross complaining
Yes-butting
Stonewalling
Silence
Leaving
John Gottamn – Why marriages
succeed or fail (Cont.)
Remedies
Specific complaints
Validate your partner
Shift to appreciation
5X more positives than negatives
Traits of Healthy Families
Communicate and listen
Support each other
Respect
Trust
Play and humor
Responsibility
Rituals and traditions
Story of the rose
Big ideas you can use!
In a relationship:
Talk about your feelings
Listen to your partner
Help your partner get what they want
Have a partner you can respect and trust
Have fun
Develop rituals or traditions that identify
you as a couple.
Tomorrow’s coming attractions!!
Please read the handout.
When is a good day teaching a bad
thing?
What is considered “deep learning”
What is our “hidden contract”?
“Critical thinking” vs. precise grading
What do you want from a course?