Marriage/Parenting
Objectives:
TSWBAT to define relationship, marriage and parenting terms.
TSWBAT to identify the responsibilities of parenthood.
TSWBAT to evaluate what to consider before becoming a parent.
Relationship Rights:
A healthy relationship allows you to:
 The right to be treated with respect.
 The right to live without fear of abuse.
 The right not to be perfect.
 The right to constructively express your feelings and opinions.
 The right to fulfill your own needs.
 The right to reject stereotypes and set your own standards.
 The right to participate in decision making and to change your mind.
 The right to privacy and time alone.
 The right to maintain old friendships and make new ones.
 The right to say no or to disagree.
 The right to leave or end a relationship.
What are YOU looking for in a partner?
Love and Intimacy
Love
 Strong feeling of affection and liking for another
Involves behaviors which show commitment
Involves expression of one’s inner most thoughts
and feelings
Intimacy
Deep and meaningful sharing between two people
Monogamous
Partners are intimate with only each other
Building a strong relationship
before marriage
 The three C’s: Communication, Compromise,
and Commitment
 Communication of feelings, thoughts,
desires, and expectations to your partner
 If you want your needs met, then be
responsible for expressing them
 Commitment = a decision to make a
promise to another person
How to predict success in a marriage…
 Age
 Reasons for marriage
 Length of the relationship and engagement
 Similar attitudes about children & child-raising
 Similar interests
 Committed to sexual fidelity
 Good character
 Parents success at marriage
 Parental attitudes towards the potential marriage partner
 Careful selection of the marriage partner
Intimacy
For marriage to sustain itself over the year’s four types of intimacy
must be present:
Philosophical –
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1.
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sharing beliefs & values ( particular important when raising kids)
Psychological –
2.
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sharing of needs, emotions, weaknesses and strengths, individual
success, show support in disappointment
Creative –
3.
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sharing of efforts to accomplish task and projects, each partner must
do his or her share of the work with a willing attitude
Physical –
4.
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wide range of behaviors that express warmth and closeness, physical
affection, marriage partners should be physically attracted to one
another
Parenthood is a commitment with no
guaranteed outcome.
Being ready for parenthood means
being ready to focus on someone
else’s needs in addition to your own.
A baby will demand attention 24
hours a day, 7 days a week and then
take another 18+ years to raise.
Personal Reflection
Write two positive characteristics of your parents/guardians that
you hope to carry on when you are a parent.
Explain why these 2 characteristics are important to you.
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Write two characteristics about your parents/guardians you hope
to not continue when you are a parent.
Explain why you do not want to carry on these 2 characteristics.
Characteristics of a good parent
 In your notes outline:
 Read the 21 characteristics of a good parent.
 Circle the numbers of the top five you agree with.
 Next to the five characteristics that you chose, write a
statement why you believe the five characteristics you choose
are the most meaningful to you.
Resources needed for Parenthood
Brainstorm a list of costs that a new parent may have during the
first year of childrearing.
How much do you think it will approximately cost in the first
year of parenthood?
Resources needed for Parenthood in
the first year:
 Health Insurance
 Delivery and postpartum care for mother and baby
 Pediatricians visits, regular baby checkups
 Immunizations, sick visits, medications
 Nursery furnishings
 Clothing for baby
 Diapers
 Formula, food and vitamins
 Baby supplies, bottles, swabs, baby wipes, powder etc.
 Developmental toys, books, etc.
 Stroller, car seat, swing, highchair, etc.
 Possible child care, day care
Cost of Raising a Baby in the First Year:
The average cost of raising a baby in the first year is estimated to be
approximately $11,000 .
Resources needed for Parenthood
Brainstorm a list of costs that a parent may have while raising a
child (0-18 years).
How much do you think it will approximately cost each year to
raise a child? Grand total?
Resources needed for raising a child:
 Health Insurance
 Health care (doctor visits, dentist, etc.)
 Immunizations and medications
 Housing/Room furnishings
 Clothing, shoes, coats
 Food
 Developmental toys, books, etc.
 Stroller, car seat
 Possible child care, day care
 Technology (phones, computers, etc)
 Transportation
 Education
 Activities (sports, music, camps, etc)
Cost of Raising a Child:
 The average cost of raising a child is estimated to be
approximately $230,000 .
 This is approximately $14,000 a year.
Child Care
Latch-Key Children & Dual Working Parents
 A latchkey kid or latchkey child is a child who returns from
school to an empty home because his or her parent or parents are away
at work, or a child who is often left at home with little or no parental
supervision.
Were you a latch-key child?
Did one or both of your parents work
when you were younger?