LiveScience.com, NY
07-11-07
Study: Women Are in Charge at Home
By Jeanna Bryner, LiveScience Staff Writer
Men might throw their weight around at the office, but at home, women are the
bosses.
A study, which was just released, finds that wives have more power than their
husbands in making decisions and dominating discussions.
"The study at least suggests that the marriage is a place where women can exert
some power," said lead author David Vogel, a psychologist at Iowa State
University (ISU). "Whether or not it's because of changing societal roles, we
don't know.”
The results counter past research.
“Most of the research literature in psychology has suggested that women have
less power,” Vogel told LiveScience. “They have largely based that on the fact
that traditionally men earn more money and so therefore would have the ability to
make big decisions in the relationship.” That wasn’t the case in this study.
Spouse survey says
Vogel, Megan Murphy, also of ISU, and their colleagues surveyed 72 married
couples in which the spouses were an average of 33 years old and had been
married for about seven years. Most of the participants (66 percent) were
Caucasian, followed by Asian (22 percent), Hispanic (5 percent) and African
American (4 percent). The final 3 percent represented “other” nationalities.
Each spouse answered questions about relationship satisfaction and overall
decision-making ability. Then, each spouse noted a relationship problem that
could not be resolved without the spouse’s cooperation. While money and
housework were popular picks, sex didn’t come up much as a marital issue.
Topics chosen by husbands/wives included:
* Money—18 percent (husbands) / 13 percent (wives)
* Housework—15 percent / 15 percent
* Friends and family—10 percent / 19 percent
* Feelings and emotions—10 percent / 13 percent
* Time together—13 percent / 10 percent
* Making decisions—18 percent / 4 percent
* Sex—4 percent / 1percent
* Intimacy—1 percent / 1 percent
* Communication—3 percent / 4 percent
* Children—husbands never chose this topic; 3 percent of wives
* Other relationship changes—4 percent / 17 percent
The scientists videotaped the couples while they discussed each of the issues for
10 minutes.
Women power
Trained volunteers coded the videotapes using a scale that rated couples’
interactions based on words and behaviors associated with blame (blames,
accuses and criticizes the partner); demand (nags, pressures for change,
requests); withdrawal and avoidance (avoids discussion the problem by
hesitating, changing topics, diverting attention or looking away); and discussion.
Wives were more demanding—asking for changes in the relationship or in their
partner—and were more likely to get their way than the husbands. This held
regardless of who had chosen the issue.
The women were not just talking more than their husbands.
"It wasn't just that the women were bringing up issues that weren't being
responded to, but that the men were actually going along with what they said,”
Vogel explained. “[Women] were communicating more powerful messages, and
men were responding to those messages by agreeing or giving in.”
One reason for in-charge wives could be that they carry the weight of making
sure the family farm is running smoothly.
"Women are responsible for overseeing the relationship, making sure the
relationship runs, that everything gets done, and that everybody's happy,"
Murphy said.
Wife power could signal a harmonious couple. "There's been research that
suggests that's a marker of a healthy marriage—that men accept influence from
their wives," Murphy said.
The study, published in the April issue of the Journal of Counseling Psychology,
was funded by the National Institute of Mental Health along with ISU.