This program was designed with excerpts from presentations by the following : • Sue Wesner, RN, MSN, CS Service for teens at Risk Western Psychiatric Institute and Clinic • Mrs. Debra McDermott • The Grieving Process-Elizabeth Kubler-Ross • The Healing Process-William Worden (1982) Grief from Loss There are various things that occur where we experience grief associated with some kind of loss. 1 Brainstorm different examples from the movie 2 discuss-age related for death, divorce, disease, other losses (moving, college choice, sports, roles in play, musical, honors band, chorus, etc THE HEALING PROCESS William Worden (1982) Is different for everyone based on perception of the situation (closeness) and you William Worden (1982) • 1. Accept the reality of the loss – This is the coulda, woulda, shoulda phase – Yes - it did happen May be different for everyone and completion of this step in healing may also vary in length DENYING REALITY • William Worden 1982 Denial is often the first reaction (review -our mental/emotional defense mechanisms Sometimes affected by How they died or How our loss occurred. DENYING REALITY Examples of Denial: “This can’t be happening” Refusal to believe the loss has occurred. ???? Acts as a “buffer” to give you a chance to process the loss BARGAINING FOR CHANGE OF REALITY Bargaining • “I’d do anything to have them back”. • If I do this ______, then this ______ • Making promises to change if the loss is returned to them. • The final attempt to avoid the TRUTH. Accepting Reality Acceptance This doesn’t mean you have to be okay with the loss, just that you know it is reality and you are ready to heal from it. William Worden (1982) • 2. Experience the PAIN of the loss People tend to suppress (defense mechanism) grief because it’s painful and not always “convenient” May be different for everyone and, again, completion of this step in the healing process may also vary in length How might this experience affect us? Experiencing Grief/Loss-ANGER Anger Why? Fairness Blame yourself or even others for the loss. Effects -different ways and to different degrees for everyone • • • • Physical reactions Cognitive - “Brain Drain” Behavior Emotions Physical Reactions to Grief/Trauma •Appetite changes •Feeling of choking •Dry mouth •Shortness of breath/yawning •Chest tightness •Weakness •Fatigue •Exhaustion •GI Disturbances •Headaches/dizziness •Panic Attacks •Sleep disturbances ?? Cognitive (brain drain) reactions ????????? – Trauma re-wires the brain. Why? – The mind is so distracted that it’s difficult to focus on details. – Preoccupation with images and thoughts of the loss/person – Concentration is at a minimum. • Weakened memory skills • Difficulty in decision-making Behavior - Reactions to Grief Disruptions of perceived “normalcy” Difficulty following daily patterns/habits Disorganized Restless Difficulty in decision-making Old life and patterns lose meaning Emotions- Reactions to Grief Sadness, anger, anxiety, loneliness, and guilt Grief can be overwhelming Function vs. dysfunction Very similar to an anxiety disorder May need help to deal with it Coming out of loss/grief Emotional roller coaster can eventually turn into a new equilibrium for functioning. May ride this coaster multiple times Age-related/ maturity related May need help to deal with it you learn to deal/cope with it and…> EMOTIONS Situational Depression/Sadness PERCEPTION OF THE WORLD CHANGES! • There is no hope, I just want to be left alone. • A natural and important emotion(sadness) to cope. May look for help from our personal support group ( who would YOU go to first?) or from a professional counselor. Crisis Intervention Tips (for self and others) FUNCTIION VS DYSFUNCTION We cannot be responsible for others behaviors. However, we can be aware, supportive, and positive in our efforts to develop and protect good Mental Health in ourselves and others. GET HELP from professionals. William Worden (1982) 3. Readjust the environment • Figure out who/what is important to you • Choices about your • thoughts and actions William Worden (1982) 4. Reinvest emotional energy in other relationships (or things) Examples: ?? • This not that • “The broken road that led me straight to you” Focus on what we Can Do Recognize and manage negative thoughts and emotions Understand stress and identify stressors Develop coping skills Make healthier choices in both your thoughts and actions Focus on what we Can Do It’s YOUR life, YOUR book chapter by chapter