BULLYING….
“Our lives begin to end the day we become
silent about the things that matter”
“The right way to begin is to pay attention to the
young, and make them as good as possible.”
-Socrates
BULLYING
 “A student is being bullied when he or
she is exposed, repeatedly and over
time, to negative actions on the part of
one or more other students”…..
Dan Olweus
IT’S A BIG OCEAN OUT THERE
Where are the…
weakfish
BARRACUDA
WEAKFISH
Bullying through the eyes of a child
• Michael Dorn
• This book chronicles the struggle faced by
1 in 10 students in schools today
• One boy’s true journey through
unconstrained bullying/harassment
• Great book study for any staff/easy read
• Practical solutions for students/staff
• Surveys for school climate
So, “What About Girls?”
Sugar and Spice and everything nice
or
Not? Have we missed something
The Development of Childhood
Aggression: Boys Will Be Boys,
But What About Girls?
by Nicki Crick, Ph.D.
Boys} Physical aggression- Behaviors
in which physical damage serves as
the agent of harm/ physical harm
Boys} Tend to be concerned during
social interaction with physical
dominance/ territoriality
Relational Aggression
Girls focus more on relational ties during social
interaction
Girls exhibit behaviors in which damage to
relationships or threat of serves as the vehicle of
harm
This includes direct and indirect acts such as
threats to end a relationship unless peer complies;
using social exclusion to retaliate; spreading
rumors to encourage peers to reject a classmate
Life Span of Relational Aggression
Preschool: (Girls are more than boys)
Ann and Susan playing at recess. Tiffany comes over and starts to talk.
They covered their ears to block her out.
Jill and David were playing dress-up in a corner. David put on a hat that Jill
wanted.
They argued back and forth until Jill said, “I’m not going to be your friend
anymore.” David still kept the hat. Jill then said,” I won’t be your BEST
FRIEND.” David gave in.
Video Clip
Life Span
Middle Childhood
You hear things like:
I’m not going to be your friend anymore
Tell your friends not to be that kid’s friend
Tell a lie on them
“We’re going to be in this group, and you’re not
going to be in it.”
Two girls wear certain clothing, jewelry and don’t
inform the other friends
Life Span
Adolescence
Talk about them behind their backs and to their face,
exclude them
Pretend to be friends, then stab them in the back
Tell them what you think of them in front of others, to
embarrass/control
Ignore them, don’t return phone calls
Try to steal boyfriend
Life Span
Early Adulthood
Women hurt other women by the
amount of affection they receive from
men.
Build up a coalition of other people
against the person.
Talk about them and try to ruin their
friendships with others. Gossip!!!
Give them the silent treatment/ act
cold
Relational Victimization
Can Lead To:
Peer rejection
Externalizing problems
Depressive symptoms
Loneliness
Cigarette, alcohol and marijuana use
Obesity
Romantic relationship/dating
problems
Friendships and RA
Self disclosing (in person, phone,
computer) to a friend that is
aggressive. They have lots of info to
use against them. It keeps the friend
where she wants her.
In fourth grade, girls that are friends
with RA girls become more
aggressive
Types of Intent
Hostile: She wanted me to ruin my
shoes! She wanted to get even.
Benign: She tripped over a rock in
the road and then fell into me.
Note** Some girls have a hostile bias
Instrumental vs Relational
Girls react to different types of RA
Instrumental: reaction to an aggressive act
Relational: reaction to relationships
Social-Information- Processing Model
“Salvaging Sisterhood”- resource
PEACEFUL SCHOOL BUS
PEACEFUL SCHOOL BUS
PROGRAM
• Developed by an elementary principal and Olweus
Trainer
• Designed to decrease inappropriate behaviors on
bus
• Very little cost- $99.00
• All materials included in the guide
• 15 minute DVD of program overview
• CD ROM –posters, bus decals, handouts,
Parent letter, training outline
School bus route
meetings
• Bus drivers, parents, students,
teachers, administrators are present
• Team building exercises
• Pair older with younger students
• Talk about bullying-define it on bus
• Get to personally know their driver
Ordering Information:
Peaceful School Bus
Program
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Written by James Dillon, M.S.
Hazelden
1-800-328-9000 (24 hours)
Order online at:
hazelden.org/bookstore
WHY TRY
Intervention Program
Whytry.com
Visuals and music interventions
Journal component
Role play
Can be utilized in ISS classroom to
help with “blind spots”
HRSA
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U.S. Department of Health and Human
Services/ Health Resources & Services
Administration
STOP BULLYING NOW campaign
www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov
Everything is free!!
Updated every 60 days
Campaign Overview and Goals
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Raise awareness about bullying
Prevent and reduce bullying behaviors
Identify appropriate interventions for
“tweens” (youth ages 9-13)
Foster and enhance partner linkagesNow over 80 different organizations
About us….
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Youth Expert Panel provides guidance in
creating Webisodes, messages
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Research involving school bullying statistics
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Youth-led Initiatives (Project Change, SADD,
NOYS)
For Youth:
Tips, Webisodes and Games
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What You Can Do- Tips if you are being
bullied, witness bullying, or bully others
Cartoon Webisodes
Profile of the Month- Webisodes characters
facing bullying situations
Educational games
For Adults:
Prevention & Intervention
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Tip Sheets and Resources- 40 tips, ready to
be downloaded/printed
Customized tip sheets for families, school
staff, educators, law enforcement, etc.
New on the website: cyberbullying &
Bullying among youth on perceptions and
differences in sexual orientation
DVD Tool Kit & Activities
Guide
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Instructor’s Guide & DVD collection of ALL
SBN video content, including Webisodes,
PSAs and workshops
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Activities Guide- 12 pages of ideas for
developing your own campaign
Web Site Updates
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For Adults: State by state map on bullying laws
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For Youth: MyPlace pages
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For Both: “Ask the Experts” section
Next Webcast
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Hot Topic: Cyberbullying
Discussions of latest cyber bullying
research and tips
For information and to register, check
StopBullyingNow.hrsa.gov
For more information….
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CAPT. Stephanie Bryn, MPH –
sbryn@hrsa.gov
Dr. Susan Limber, PhD
slimber@clemson.edu
Jason Smith
JasonSmith@widmeyer.com
Let’s check out the DVD
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Webisodes
PSAs
Video Workshops
BULLYING AND THE LAW
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Bernard James
Pepperdine University School of Law
“Human Rights and Understanding Current
Reform”/ Liability and Other Considerations
Working definition of bullying
Courts are unwilling to turn bullying into a
human rights issue
Effects of bullying
Topics Continued
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Effects of bullying
Prevalence of bullying in schools
The school as the solution
Bullying as a function of school climate
Proactive Whole School Approaches to
prevent bullying
Redefining supervision
Test your “Bullying IQ”
Suicide As A Viable Option
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Child Focus, Inc.
513-752-1555
Factors that lead to the unthinkable
Multi-Factorial Event:
1. Hopelessness
2. Negative Thought Patterns
3. Impulsivity
4. Psychological Vulnerability
Hopelessness
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Element of Depression
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Inability to see potential for a better future
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Negative thought patterns
Continuum of Negative
Thought Patterns
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Continuum---- from mild self-critical thoughts
to extreme self hatred to suicidal thoughts
Self-destructive behavior– from self-denial to
substance abuse to actual suicide
Relation between these 3 continuums existhow a person is thinking is predictive of how
they are behaving
Each person is divided/conflicted
Impulsivity
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People with this trait may not stop
and think about the real
consequences of their death
Psychological Vulnerability
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People who are rejected because they are
“weird”, because of their sexual orientation,
or because they don’t fit in
Trauma
Loneliness
Relational, social, work or financial loss
Indeliable Links To Look For
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Hopelessness
Burdensome
Persistence
Isolation
Bullying Lethality Screening
System (BLSS)
Assessment Tool to use when students are
bullied to determine their risk for suicide
5 Factors of the BLSS
1. Bullying
2. Isolation
3. Depression/Anhedonia
4. Suicidal Ideation & Planning
5. Resiliency/ Protective Factors
Literature Links To Bullying
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Chrysanthemum
Crowboy
Stargirl
Tangerine
Teammates
Thank You Mr. Falkner
The Brand New Kid
The Hundred Dresses
The Opposites of Fate
The Sneetches
To Kill A Mockingbird
William’s Doll
ALL ACCESS PRODUCTIONS
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“No More Victims” musical presentation
Primary target middle/high schools
Actors are young adults/diversity
Carries a message for bullies, victims and
bystanders
Promotes the message of love and
acceptance/tolerance to evoke thoughtful
change and healing in our youth
Tour Information
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Kelsey Koslowski- Tour manager
Office Phone: 631-366-1000x13
Tour Cell Phone: 631-681-8630
Email: kkoslowski@accessny.org
Fax: 631-366-4826
Address: 70 New York Ave. Smithtown,NY
International Bullying Prevention
Association 7th Annual Conference
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Mark the date! November 15-17
Seattle, Washington
“CyberWorld” comprehensive
1-800-293-9071
info@stopbullyingworld.org