Leading Your Hospital through Stress Walking the Narrow Road of Excellence in Tough Times Defining the Problem Working in a Stressful Work Environment Living in Stressful Home and Social Environments What percentage of people seem to handle life and work well? Laying the Foundation for a Solution Life is a Skill Intrapersonal Skills – Selfmastery: the ability to manage yourself Integrity/ethics Patience Self-discipline Self-awareness “Frustrability”- bringing out the flavor of the “tea bag” “Fear of men”/Fear of Failure Interpersonal Skills- the ability to communicate effectively Verbal communication Nonverbal communication Listening skills Applying the Skills – Becoming Abnormal and Making an Impact Walking the Narrow Road of Excellence Intrapersonal Skill #1: Selfawareness; not being selfdeceived “We judge ourselves by our motives, but judge others by their actions.” “Our vision of ourselves is never 20/20 – only others see us as we really are.” YOU ARE A “4”. Critical Skill: Have others hold you accountable – remember, without accountability, we always “go to nature”. Intrapersonal Skill #2: Selfdiscipline; being abnormal “The default position of human nature is mediocrity.” “Swimming Upstream” “You cannot change human nature, but you can change human action.” Lincoln Critical skills: Do what you don’t feel like doing; remember: obedience precedes motivation, not the other way around. Intrapersonal Skill #3: Following through; thoughts which result in action “The road to hell is paved with good intentions” “A small act is better than a great intention” “A short pencil is better than a long memory” Critical Skills: Write it down and schedule it – always follow through Interpersonal Skills: Learning to Engage Others Proactively invade the lives of others Watch out for providential encounters Critical Skills: Proactive communication – schedule it and write it down Develop good nonverbal communication skills – use good “attending behaviors”. Interpersonal Skills (Continued) Learn to encourage as well as to confront Learn to become a survivor, and not a victim Summary and Conclusions “The price of excellence is always discipline, the cost of mediocrity is always disappointment” William Ward Being effective is: Realizing it is a fight (it is hard to do) Be willing to get in the fight Get your friends to keep you in the fight