Women’s Study – Self-control
My speech (including what I say or write)
Some parts of self-control of my speech (Think of an example of each)
Being careful what I say
Deciding how God expects me to speak
Deciding what situations make me susceptible to loose speech
Deciding how companions influence my speech
Deciding how to improve governing what I say
Doing or not doing something because it would have positive impact on my speech
Showing my love of God with my speech
Other characteristics or comments:
Examples of poor control of my speech
Posting on Facebook or Twitter while upset
Not considering consequences
Lying
Gossiping
Saying hurtful things
Other examples or comments:
Examples of good control of my speech
Taking time to calm down before saying anything when upset
Before you speak think!
T – is it true?
h – is it helpful?
i – is it inspiring?
n – is it necessary?
k – is it kind?
Other examples or comments:
What the Bible says about controlling my speech
Ephesians 4:29 – no corrupt words or unwholesome talk – instead, build others up with speech
Matthew 12:36 – will give account for careless words
Romans 12:18 – As much as you can. Live peaceably with all
Matthew 5:37 – don’t say what you can’t follow through with – keep speech simple
Ecclesiastes 5:2-3 – few words
Proverbs 10:19 – many words = sin present
hold tongue = wise
Proverbs 15:1 – gentle answer, not harsh words
Colossians 3:16 - 17
Matthew 12:34-35 – out of overflow of heart, mouth speaks
Matthew 26:73 – your accent gives you away
Hebrews 13:15 – continually offer to God a sacrifice of praise
Other verses or comments:
Biblical examples – positive or negative
Jesus
Peter – rash, quick to speak
Prophets
Other examples or comments:
Ways to improve
Make time to read and study Bible
Pray
Identify 1 thing to change in the area of speech
Figure out what situations, people, places I need to avoid or be careful with
Decide what replacement will be
Set goal for growth
Plan small steps to reach goal
Decide how to practice and then do it again and again
Keep it simple
Stay focused
Be accountable to someone
First thing in morning – What am I concentrating on today and what’s my plan
Make sure a bad habit is being replaced with a good one
More ways to improve or comments:
General applications
Specific applications