Parenting •Changing roles within the relationship –Polarizing Gender ID –Expectations vs. Reality •Story of Jani •Drawing a Family- Artistic Ability Not Assumed Beginnings • Began with Erikson (1963)- Looked at two dimensions of parental behavior Affection (Warm/Responsive vs Cold/Hostile) • – – • Amount of positive emotion displayed toward children Responsiveness toward child behavior Control (permissive vs restrictive) – – Amount of autonomy parent allows the child Degree to which parent monitors the child behavior 2 Dimensions Affection Low High Control Low High Parent Behaviors • Developed four types of parenting behaviors based on these two dimensions – Affectionate (accepting, warm and responsive) parents • • • • – Smile, praise, encourage children more likely to use positive reinforcement and encouragement Limit criticism, punishment, and disapproval Attentive to child’s behavior Unresponsive (rejecting, cold and hostile) parents • • • • Critical, belittle, punish, ignore children quick to criticize, punish put downs ignore child Which is Better? Parent Behaviors • Controlling (restrictive) parents – – – – • Set limits on child’s behavior impose many demands and has high standards high levels of monitoring to make sure rules are followed May ease up, less restrictive as child gets older Uncontrolling (permissive) parents – – – – – Make few demands Set few limits on child’s behavior Allow child to make choices independently Allow child to express emotions (positive and negative) Don’t monitor their child’s activities Which is Better? Baumrind’s Parenting Styles • Took Erikson’s Dimensions and put them together (created 4 quadrants) HighControlling/Restrictive Affection Control LowUnresponsive/ Cold LowUncontrolling/Permissive High – Affectionate/ Accepting Baumrind’s Parenting Styles • Four Distinct Parenting Styles • Authoritarian (Controlling and low acceptance/low responsiveness) – – – – Very restrictive pattern High levels of punishment to enforce rules Not sensitive to opposing viewpoints High levels of rules (often w/o explanation“b/c I said so”) Baumrind’s Parenting Styles • Authoritative (controlling and responsive/ accepting) – – – – – Flexible style of parenting More freedom for child Rules, but provide rationales for the limits they set Monitor to ensure the child follows rules Accepting of and responsive to children’s views Baumrind’s Parenting Styles • Permissive (uncontrolling/uninvolved and warm/responsive) – – – – Lax pattern of parenting Few demands Child allowed to freely express views Little to no monitoring of child activities Baumrind’s Parenting Styles • Uninvolved- (uncontrolling & unresponsive/ unaccepting) – – – – – Lax pattern of parenting Makes few demands Rejecting of the child Detached parenting Neglectful HighControlling/Restrictive LowUnresponsive/ Cold Affection Uninvolved Control Authoritarian Authoritative High – Affectionate/ Accepting Permissive LowUncontrolling/Permissive Which style would be associated with the best child outcomes? • Authoritative – Early • • – Adolescence • • • • Increased cognitive skills increased social skills Increased academic achievement Increased Prosocial behaviors Increased high self esteem Authoritarian – Early • • – Average to low cognitive skills Average to low social skills Adolescence • • Average to low academic achievement Average to low peer relationships- though more conforming • Permissive – Early • • – Decreased cognitive skills Decreased social skills- impulsive Adolescence • • • • Outcomes Decreased academic achievement Increased drug use Poor self-control Uninvolved (research done by others later) – Early • • • – Attachment problems Increased aggression Decreased emotional control, low self-esteem Adolescence • • • Increased aggression Decreased academic achievement Increased delinquency, drug use, sexual misconduct Other Populations • Military & Factory worker households – • Ethnic minorities (Af. Am, Nat Am, Latino) – – • Authoritarian parenting Permissive until school age Then authoritative or authoritarian Asian cultures (especially Chinese)more authoritarian positive results