Social Media
Building bridges between parents
and kids with social media
August 29, 2013
By David S. Peck
What is Social Media?
Social Media Revolution 2013
• Please pause the video at this point and follow this link to
watch the YouTube video that was shown during the
seminar:
• http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TXD-Uqx6_Wk
• Every two days more content is created and loaded to the Internet
than was created through 2003 (Eric Schmidt, Exec. Chairman,
Google)
• 94% of Americans 16+ own a cell phone, and 54% own a
smartphone with data and text access (Nielson, 2013)
• 97% of American teenagers own a cell phone, texting an average of
88x a day (Pew Internet, 2013)
• Google and YouTube are the top two search engines in the world
• 99% of all teenage males have seen some form of pornography on
the Internet (Youth Specialties, 2012)
“We are over-committed and under connected”
Dr. Jim Burns
“We are over-committed and under connected”
Dr. Jim Burns
What we will cover --
•An overview of social media
•What’s new?
•What’s our role?
•Questions?
An overview of social media
Social Media is an umbrella term, referring to all of the
activities coming together in a medium using one or more
senses of sight, sound, and motion to create visual
displays, picture-sharing opportunities, collective
intelligence, connection points through conversations,
postings, text with pictures, and video.
Just the facts: (2013)
Facebook – 1 billion users
Twitter – 150 million users
LinkedIn – 161 million members
YouTube -- 4 billion daily views
Instagram – 575 likes a second
What’s new?
What’s most used with teenagers?
Sites of concern…
What’s our role?
What’s our role?
Deuteronomy 6:4-9 “The Shema” (Shayma)
Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your
soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I
give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on
your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and
when you walk along the road and when you get up. Tie
them, bind them, write them…use social media to
communicate God’s truth (my abbreviation).
What’s our role?
Provide a healthy environment by –
1. Modeling screen and phone use (home, car, etc.) 9 O’clock– on the dock
Family time, meal times = no screens
Healthy downtime for non-screen time activities (Sunday, school, etc.)
Blind Inattentiveness
• Please pause the video at this point and follow this link to
watch the YouTube video that was shown during the
seminar:
• http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ahg6qcgoay4
What’s our role?
Provide healthy boundaries by –
2. Setting parameters for screens (teenagers need 9-11 hours a night)
Physical
Emotional
parent controls for cell phones
Non-screen time during homework and school work
Limited social media time – encourage F2F
What’s our role?
Parent controls:
block picture messaging
Block unknown numbers
Limit time of text and calls
Filter web browsing
GPS tracking
What’s our role?
Provide a healthy, balanced home environment by –
3. Praying, and playing as a family.
Be prayerful that the Holy Spirit would guide and direct you and your kids –
We often tell them that we pray for a guilty conscience (for them)
Dreena and I frequently pray with our kids F2F, but also on text
Look for opportunities to trust them – catch them doing good things
(the daily bible verse– forwarded to 8-10 contacts each day)
Be engaged, and aware – keywords can be dangerous – “Whitehouse, fail”
Solicit family and friends to “follow” and “friend”
Example: Peck family guidelines and boundaries –
Cell phones – earned with a 3.5+ during their
maintain a 3.0 to keep the phone
th
7
grade year – have to
Phone on the dock at 9:00 – even though phone doesn’t turn off until 9:30
Back to school– September/ October no TV, then no weekday TV thereafter
Facebook – 16+ years of age, similar to emotional development of dating
No computers or TV’s in bedrooms (unless studying at a desk)
Images and words matter – the mom test– would mom approve?
Other things:
1.Routers to manage home Wi-Fi time and access
2.XXXChurch.com for websites and other screens
3.Regularly check histories and ask questions
4.Check song lyrics and delete songs with suggestive or explicit
lyrics
5.Time limits – some new technologies (Kindle) Homework time=
playtime
6.Parents need to have social media sites they allow their kids to
have – and have your kids set it up and teach you
7.Create a family Facebook page
Questions?