Parenting Styles
The way we raise our children
directly influences who they will
become.
Authoritarian/Brick Wall
• Many limits and rules
• Parents’ make all of the rules without any
input from children
• Punishment
• Little affection and praise
• Parents expect total obedience and
misbehavior is not tolerated
• Parent’s expect children to have the same
beliefs
• “Do as I say not do as I do”
• Conformity
Authoritarian Style
•Children from authoritarian homes often
rebel from their controlling parents.
•Children fear their parents and are afraid to
turn to them for advice.
•In later years, children from authoritarian
homes are plagued with guilt, depression, or
anger.
Children from Authoritarian families
are often
•Obedient
•Distrustful
•Discontented
•Withdrawn
•Unhappy
•Angry
•Not High Achievers
•Rebellious
Permissive/Jellyfish
Opposite of Authoritarian.
• Too few limits
• Children get to make their own choices.
• Permissive parented children have little
respect for their parents and authority figures.
The Permissive Parent Continued
• The permissive parent is unstructured and has
few routines.
• Parents have few expectation of the children.
• Permissive parents generally ignore
misbehaviors and rarely punish or correct their
children.
• Children run the permissive family.
• On the positive side, permissive parents are
generally warm and nurturing.
Children from Permissive Families
are Often
•Aggressive
•Lack self-control
•Lack self-reliance
•Most unhappy
•Anxious
•Lack motivation
•Lack self-esteem
Democratic/Backbone Style
• Mid point between Authoritative and
Permissive (Best of both styles)
• Parents set limits and enforce rules.
• Parents take into consideration child’s
requests, needs, and questions.
Democratic/Backbone Style Continued
• Children’s wants are considered
when making family decisions.
• Respect children’s unique
personalities, and support their
interests.
• Parents are loving, consistent, high
expectations.
• Parents have reasonable
expectations and realistic
standards.
Children from Democratic/Backbone families are….
Democratic/Backbone
children’s parents have
high expectations for
them and give them
support to meet those
goals. This type of
parent is the most active
and hands on parent.
Our ideal parent.
•Happy
•Self-reliant
•Self-controlled
•Sharing and friendly
•Cooperative
•High achieving
•More likely to
participate in school
activities
Remember!
• The most important thing to remember about parenting is
to be a good role model.
• Patience is important! We all make mistakes.
• Listen to your kids and model good problem solving
strategies.
• Be loving, fair, and consistent.
• Don’t threaten, come up with appropriate consequences.
• The parent is in charge because they have the most
experience.
• Have fun with your child! Experiences not things are what
they will remember all of their lives.