FACS 56 life management the listening process

the listening process much of our time each day is spent communicating: reading, writing, speaking, listening may remember early experiences in school —reading groups, cursive writing, proper grammar, proper pronunciation…were you ever in a listening group?

the listening process http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=deFfeIVb2p0&feature=fvw

the listening process experts find that listening skills of adults are poorly developed —little training what training we do receive is technical —
•identification of sounds
•listening for directions
•listening for retention what we are not taught is to listen for emotion and feelings attached to the words

the listening process listening actively takes energy and commitment done properly, the listener can recreate:
•the intent
•the meaning
•emotion behind what is said

participation activity: story time
…listen to the book on tape—I will stop it periodically so you can record the motives, feelings and emotions of the story’s characters
•which was easiest for you to identify?
•what helped you to determine the motives, feelings and emotions in the story?
•what hindered you?
•what listening skills do you want to improve upon?
•how will you do that?

the listening process good listeners are popular and usually successful appreciated by friends, family & business colleagues good listening skills can make learning easier & faster —an asset to students

the listening process hearing is a physiological activity —one that most of us take for granted
we have become very adept at editing environmental sounds out of our consciousness editing is imperative to avoid overload but can become a bad habit

the listening process http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=poAUNIQsTJI

the listening process we can overcome our bad listening habits by recognizing that listening is really an interactive process with five steps:
1. hearing
2. selecting
3. assimilating
4. organizing
5. responding

the listening process hearing —important that the receiver can physically hear or somehow perceive the message selection —focus on the particular part of message to respond to, ignore other competing messages assimilation —assigning meaning to the sounds

the listening process organization —brain searches memory for similar sounds, attaches meaning, evaluates them for similarities and differences from previous conversations response —thought forms in the brain, can be vocalized

homework: two ears and one mouth pg. 183
…over the two days, keep track in twoperson conversations how much time you talk
…do it informally but as accurately as possible —a clock or a watch with a second hand might be very useful
…then answer the question— what did you discover?