Building yours, too.
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Resiliency = the capacity to bounce back after
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Self-Concept = The total picture of who we are.
disappointment or tragedy.
◦ Our looks and traits, how we feel, what we think, who
we see when we look in the mirror…
 A child’s self-concept is in place by age 5.
Write your name on the card
3 people
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Why is this important for them to have?
Do you still have the 100% you were born with?
◦ Why not?
Imagine what you could do if you did!
While You Wait You Can:
1. Tie Die Name Card
2. High and Low self-concept (#2)
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eyes, posture, words, actions, treat others, successes,
3. Haiku Poem on back of your name
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Your Name
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2 adjectives describing you
Celebrate the AWESOME
name on that 3x5
card
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Tie Dye Name Child Activity
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3 Verbs that relate to you
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A 4 word phrase about you
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1 word that explains who you are.
4. Keys to Build a child’s self-concept
around the room (#6)
5. Kid Scenarios – assignment #5
 WHAT
INFLUENCES THIS?
1. SELF - PERCEPTION
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2. Verbal and Non-verbal Communication
◦ Communication We hear, say, or See.
 We believe it and may even become it.
 7 positive words for every negative word or action
can alter the affects of the negative.
3. Positive and
Negative
Interactions
Why do we continue to hang
around with or do that which
brings us or other’s down?
Self Concept Circle
• The person I think I am.
• The person others think I am.
• The person others think I think I am.
As I See Myself
Other’s
Reactions
To Me
My Actions
As Others See Me
Mrs. Smith
Snake/Search around
the room
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4.
Your Self-concept cycle
Self Concept scenarios
Haiku Poem
Reflection #5
“I got two A’s”, the small boy said, his voice was
filled with glee.
His father bluntly asked, “Why didn’t you get
three?”
“Mom, I’ve got the dishes done,” the girl called
from the door.
Her mother very calmly said, “Did you sweep the
floor?”
“I mowed the grass,” the tall boy said, “and put the
mower away.”
His father asked him with a shrug, "Did you clean
off the clay?”
The children in the house next door seemed happy
and content.
The same things happened over there, but this is
how it went.
“I’ve got two A’s,” the small boy said. His voice was
filled with glee.
His father proudly said, "That's great, I’m glad that
you belong to me.”
“Mom, I’ve got the dishes done,” the girl called
from the door.
Her mother smiled and softly said, “Each day I love
you more.”
“I’ve mowed the grass,” the tall boy said, “and put
the mower away.”
His father answered with much joy, “You’ve made
my happy day.”
Children deserve a little praise for tasks they’re
asked to do. If they’re to lead a happy life, so
much depends on you.
Study guide scenarios
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Your Name
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2 adjectives describing you
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3 Verbs that relate to you
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A 4 word phrase about you
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1 word that explains who you are
Provide more successes
than failures for the child.
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Plan successes
Point out successes
Help the child perceive
him/herself as successful
Provide practice to
improve skills
If they have more failures
than successes, back up
to where success is
achieved, and then move
ahead gradually
Give the freedom to fail
with acceptance.
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As long as there are
more successes than
failures, children learn to
not let a few failures get
them down.
A child who is overprotected and not
allowed to fail will learn
to try only if success is
guaranteed.
Give lots of
encouragement.
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Recognize the effort and
improvement, not just the
final accomplishment.
Support as they do new
things.
◦ “I know you can do it”
◦ “You handled that really well”
◦ “You will make it next time”
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Show appreciation.
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“Thanks, you were a big
help”
Give unconditional love.
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Let child know that even
if you do not approve of
their behavior, you still
love them.
Accept children as they
are, not as they could be.
Respect your child.
Show them how much
you care about them.
Allow independence.
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Let them do things for
themselves.
Let them work through
a problem.
Give them choices as
early as possible.
Eliminate the negative.
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Tell children what they
can do, not what they
cannot do.
Catch them doing
something good more
often than what they
are doing wrong.
Do not set standards
unreasonably high.
 They don’t have to be
100% all the time.
 Know their abilities
and work within those
abilities.
 Children are not
miniature adults.
 Do not over-estimate
their maturity.
◦ Development if child
Avoid ridicule.
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Be careful of
nicknames.
Do not make fun of
them, especially in
front of others.
Allow exploration and
encourage questions.
 Let them explore their
environment.
 Give them a chance to
see cause and effect,
such as what happens
when a rock is dropped
in water. . .
 Play, get messy, touch
Set limits.
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Set limits (boundaries
and rules)
◦ It helps them to feel
security, protected,
valued, and loved.
Help your child develop
their talents.
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Every child needs to
feel that they are good
at something.
◦ Give them
encouragement and
opportunities to try new
things.
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Encourage their
talents, not the ones
you wish they had.
Take their ideas, emotions
and feelings seriously.
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Do not belittle them
◦ “That is nothing to cry
over”, or “You’ll get over
it”.
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Ask them for their
advice and opinions.
◦ Listen to them and act on
their thoughts.
Be a good role model.
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Improve your own selfimage. Let your
children see that you
value yourself.
Let your children see
you make mistakes,
learn from them, and
try again.
Give your children
responsibility.
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Give them chores that
are appropriate for
their age.
Give them family jobs
so that they feel valued
and important to the
family.
Be available.
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Give them support
when they need it.
Spend time together.
◦ Work, talk, and share
activities together.
Let children know when their
behavior is appropriate
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Point out when they
are meeting your
expectations and
requests.
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What ice cream flavor describes your self-concept –
explain?