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Sexuality as a
Constellation
Guidelines
i. We will be in this space with
integrity
ii. We will model and embrace
direct and intentional
communication; we will speak to
the issue without personalizing;
we will not demonize the other,
"love is the recognition that
something beside yourself really
exists."
iii. We will recognize the
contribution of each and be
intentional in our expression of
gratitude and appreciation;
iv. We will put conflict on the table
and address it as an opportunity
for creative transformation;
v. We will own our own feelings
about something;
vi. We will set boundaries and
respect those of others;
vii.We will bring a sense of humour
and a spirit of playfulness to our
time together;
viii.We will practice communal and
personal discernment in our
speaking, listening, and keeping
silent;
ix. If it is time for closure we will call
it and move on to the next
important work.
x. We will respect confidentiality of
stories but take away learning
Agenda Overview
Session 1
Session 2
Session 3
Welcome & Agenda
Gathering
Gathering
Group Introductions
Sexuality and the Whole Visions of Celebration
Church
Opening Worship
Identities
Articulating the Why?
What is Sexuality?
Resources
Circles of Sexuality
Case Studies
Closing
Benediction
Benediction
Benediction
ame
Something Importa
Group Introductions
Was there an identity/experience you were surprised to
have?
Was there an identity/experience that was important to
you that wasn't there.
Great Love, your loveliness is signed
in every human face
with brush-strokes from your heart and mind,
and flourishes of grace.
Genetic code and social norm
are prisms of your light,
whose rainbow colors blend to form
each soul's embodied flight.
Diversity is your delight,
but human life is flawed,
and many, precious in your sight,
are out-cast and out-lawed,and we,
whom you have sought and found
in us, by grace alone,
enclose love's open, holy ground
with fences of our own.
Forgive and curb our itching urge
to banish and condemn
by pretext, policy and purge,
defining "us" and "them."
Let wonder flood our inmost heart,
as grace, with joy abound,
embracing all with healing art,
and blowing fences down.
We mix and meet, as fences fall
and fear and hurt decrease,
to work as one, and make for all
a festival of peace.
With stalls, and banners, and
displays,
we honor old and young,
as every people's music plays,
and every song is sung.
Because the spirit has graced our flesh,
we celebrate today
the givenness and giftedness
of lesbian, and gay,
and straight, and blended, hearing all
until we all agree,
for as we hear our heart's call,
the Spirit sets us free.
Intimacy
Sensuality
Sexualization
Sexual
Identity
Sexual Health
and
Reproduction
A Divine BlessingFor expressing love, generating life, mutual companionship and
pleasure. To be celebrated with joy, holiness and integrity, but
also understanding, respect, and self-discipline.
God/
Spirit
Adapted from An Open Letter to Religious Leaders about Sex Education. Religious Institute on Sexual Morality,
Justice and Healing
Circles of Sexuality Meditation
What was most moving?
What surprised you?
What was most/least comfortable about
that activity?
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I Sing the Body Electric
Walt Witman
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Whole Church
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Identity
One Identity
What was that experience like?
How does it related to the circles of
sexuality meditation activity?
What connections does this activity have to
sexuality throughout different life stages and
how sexuality can be celebrated in our
congregations?
Remember 4 Signposts
& Think Whole Church
Everyone
Think
is Sexual
in Constellations not Binaries
Don’t Yuck
Go
a Yum… Judge the Fruits
Beyond Tolerance
Whole
Church
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What they would have done?
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What three larger insights that the case brought up about sexuality
throughout the lifespan?
Questions on the sheet are to help orient your answering these
questions.
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Articulating the Why
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Proclaiming the Gospel
Elevator Speeches
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30 Seconds
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Easily Understandable
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Distinctly Your Voice
Answering the question:
a)Why sexuality and religion are connection? B) Why UU should for
to celebrate sexuality in our congregations?
Open the door, step right inside
Come into this place where love and hope will abide
Reach out your hand, I’ll welcome you in
It’s so good to be together again When you’re in pain, trouble or doubt
Let the love come in to help the hurting get out
Open your heart to share how you feel
And we’ll build a church of love that is real
When you’re in pain, trouble or doubt
Open
the Door - Tony Turner
Let the love come in to help the hurting get out
What was that experience like?
How does it related to the circles of
sexuality meditation activity?
What connections does this activity have to
sexuality throughout different life stages
and how sexuality can be celebrated in our
congregations?