• Love
• Love—a ______________ and _______________ emotion that
satisfies certain needs, motivates human behavior, and is coupled
with caring for and acceptance of the beloved resulting in an intimate
relationship
• Components of Love
• Deep and Vital Emotion—a strong feeling, arising without
__________ ___________ effort
emotions motivate individuals to behave in particular ways
• Satisfies personal needs—fulfills human’s basic needs for
recognition and affection
satisfies ‘legitimate’ needs of ________ support, understanding,
______________, and emotional sharing
does not satisfy ‘illegitimate’ needs of ______-_________,
unworthiness, or ________________
• Involves caring and ____________________
• Theories of Love
• Evolutionary Perspective
• Psychological Perspectives
• Attachment Theory
• Reiss’s Wheel Theory of Love
• Evolutionary Perspective
• Love serves to draw men and women into long-term relationships for
the purpose of bearing children
• Duration of love:
– 4 years for 1 child
– 7 years for 2 children
• Psychological Perspective
• Sternberg Triangular Theory
– Love has 3 dimensions
• Intimacy
• Intimacy is the _____________ component
– Includes sharing ___________ and providing emotional support
– Increases as closeness grows and relationship _____________
• Passion
• Passion is the ____________ component
– Expressed by ______________ and feeling
– Develops quickly and can fade ____________
• Commitment
• Commitment is the ___________ component
– Moving toward a more advanced stage in the relationship
– Involves staying in a relationship over ______ times
– Begins slowly, but rapidly increases if the relationship is
______________
• Sternberg
Theory
• There are 8 love relationships:
– Non-love—absence of all 3 dimensions
– Infatuation—passion only
– Liking—intimacy only (emotion)
– Romantic love—intimacy + passion
– Companionate love—intimacy + commitment
– Fatuous love—passion + commitment
– Empty love—commitment only (staying for the kids)
– Consummate love—intimacy + passion + commitment
• Attachment Theory
• Your early relationship with your primary caregiver (most often
mothers) serves as the __________ for later ____________, including
romantic relationships
• 3 types of attachment:
– Secure
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– Anxious/ambivalent
– avoidant
Secure Attachment
Mother was responsive
– Secure adults: easy time getting close to others, more
comfortable and satisfied in their relationships
– Key word: satisfied
Anxious/Ambivalent Attachment
Mother was _______________
– Worried more often that partners will ________ them
– More obsessive in relationships
– Key idea: think that partner will leave
Avoidant Attachment
Mother was ________________
– Distrustful and fearful of becoming ______________ on others
– Key idea: no trust
Reiss’s Wheel Theory of Love
Reiss’s Wheel Theory of Love
Love is maintained through 4 processes:
– Rapport—rests on ___________ trust and respect
– Self Revelation—the disclosure of __________ feelings
– Mutual Dependency—become dependent on one another
1. When that person is missing, you _______ them
– Personality Need Fulfillment—we have a basic need for
_______________ that is fulfilled by our partners
Sex differences in Love and Romance
Men fall in love easier than women
Men stay in love longer than women
– Men have a harder time recovering from breakups
– Men are more resistant to breaking up
• Men are more likely to idealize their partners
– Men often see partners as ‘love of their lives’
• Women experience more emotional symptoms of love
• Where do you fall in love?
• Most common place is _________
– 6-8 million Americans per year become romantically involved
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